I am no model, but had several hundred likes/matches in Jswipe, about 1000 likes on Okcupid and a couple hundred on Bumble. The secret is an interesting profile, not boring and really good action and activity pics.
That is a large volume of likes and I seriously doubt I'd generate that volume. If I had a level of likes or positive feedback like that, then I don't see this thread would exist in the first place. I might have to call ethnicel on this one and suggest there is some sexual racism that is going on where even if you look half-decent, but aren't white, and especially Asian, then you are basically screwed with OLD.
I've changed and tweaked my profile in the past allot of times. Trust me, this was during the golden age of PUA a decade ago and they had lots of 30 day money back guarantee online materials for sale. I bought a number of things to suggest what to write on an OLD, and probably had my profile checked out on here, or did lots of tweaking and re-working of it. However it felt like I was pulling teeth. If I had allot of likes or interest or women initiating with me and it wasn't a "pulling teeth" experience then again, I doubt any issues presented in this thread would exist.
Also take bigdave17. He made that same argument that he was not getting the type of quality girls because the type he likes typically go for stereotypically white guys.
RickTheToad said:
I do not know where you live, so I do not know the clientel you have to play with. When I was in a slump, I did spend a weekend in Manhattan at a hotel (on points) and had a great time meeting and sexing several NYC ladies. This was two years ago or so. If you are close to a major metro area, this shouldn't be an issue. If you are going to go this route. Some rules.
I'm in Toronto. The incel capital of the world.
I tried that thing in November, 2006 and it took a month to find a couple of women willing to see me. In that world, women actually crave the BBC so that's actually a plus when dealing with that type of internet dating. However, I'm not really that type of Black or have a BBC to get fetish interest like that, although I could play that card and see if it lands some lays, if I were into that.
However, the November, 2006 experiment on "Adultfriendfinder" showed it took a solid month to meet someone who was willing to see me and I was comfortable with seeing her. Although I chickened out at the end, it felt like a lottery win on principle.
That being said, I had a very nasty reaction after seeing an escort back in December 5, 2014 that would make me write-off casual sex in the future. If I almost lost my mind because I dealt with a stranger I did not know then, on top of the religious / spiritual barriers, I don't see how in my right mind I'd go through all that again. Also, if I were into casual sex, which I'm not, then isn't it easier to just see an escort than to wait about a month to meet someone who is willing to see me, if I'm even lucky at that (i.e. and in the annals of sosuave, there were older virgins on that site who were not able to meet anyone at all!).
Anyway, thankfully, that meeting with the escort on Dec 5, 2014 is the first and last casual type sex (we didn't actually have sex as I refused her but fapped outside her vag instead while squeezing her a$$ and going back and forth, so technically no sex occurred - but it didn't stop my mind from getting attacked afterwards).