How do you afford online dating if feel like you are paying to get rejected?

[corrector]

They have now released Disney plus, and I'm like also subscribed to Amazon Prime, Netflix, and local Cable-TV, etc... and I'm thinking how can anyone spend money in online dating when doling out this much money on streaming services and I'll probably get rejected on there anyway and waste my time.

If I were to go back into online dating I'd just be thinking of the Christian cafe site, but nothing usually happens on there other than feeling bad or I might end up like biggoal on a Christian dating website chasing after undesirable women because there is no real options.

This is how it has always been with me I guess. When I was in elementary school, I didn't mix that well with the girls and I found some joy renting a 16 mm film projector from the library, volunteering to be the class projectionist and making 8mm film at home, and even involving some of my classmates, 30 years ago. If I were even to think of online dating I just can't see myself trying that and also paying for streaming services at the same time.

How do people get over the fact of paying for an online service, but just getting a low percentage (if at that) of replies or feeling like they are wasting their time? Isn't the streaming services more of a sure bet for the money?

 

[Kotaix]

If you want to stay in your house and waste your life watching the stupid box all day then that's where you'll spend your money. If I were you I'd spend my money on someone who will kick your ass into shape like a life coach or a personal trainer. You are a prisoner of your own mind

 

[corrector]

If you want to stay in your house and waste your life watching the stupid box all day then that's where you'll spend your money. If I were you I'd spend my money on someone who will kick your ass into shape like a life coach or a personal trainer. You are a prisoner of your own mind

I was going to delete this thread but you replied to it. Honestly, I don't know what came over me to write something like that.

I don't have the luxury to stay at home because my folks are on my case all the time and keep tugging at me to go out of the house. I have to use a Tablet to watch TV on the go more than at home.

Of course, I can buy online dating subscription as well. I've selected not to do so this month because its November. Next month will likely be different. Such things aren't dictated by whether I'm spending money or not on a streaming service, but are based on policy rather than economic decisions like that. Obviously if I was too poor to afford both then I'm too poor to be dating anyway.

To everyone else, I concede an error in writing this thread and you can treat it as a mistake.

 

[Alvafe]

simple you don't

leave your damn house

 

[Young OG]

They have now released Disney plus, and I'm like also subscribed to Amazon Prime, Netflix, and local Cable-TV, etc... and I'm thinking how can anyone spend money in online dating when doling out this much money on streaming services and I'll probably get rejected on there anyway and waste my time.

If I were to go back into online dating I'd just be thinking of the Christian cafe site, but nothing usually happens on there other than feeling bad or I might end up like biggoal on a Christian dating website chasing after undesirable women because there is no real options.

This is how it has always been with me I guess. When I was in elementary school, I didn't mix that well with the girls and I found some joy renting a 16 mm film projector from the library, volunteering to be the class projectionist and making 8mm film at home, and even involving some of my classmates, 30 years ago. If I were even to think of online dating I just can't see myself trying that and also paying for streaming services at the same time.

How do people get over the fact of paying for an online service, but just getting a low percentage (if at that) of replies or feeling like they are wasting their time? Isn't the streaming services more of a sure bet for the money?

You have a defeatist attitude. Work on your inner game. You dont need all those streaming services. I barely have time to watch tv. Get yourself a life. Get some professional pics and use some free dating sites (tinder, bumble, pof, facebook dating). Meet the girls at bars for a drink. That barely costs anything.

 

[biggoal]

I don't use Christian mingle or catholic match. Hardly anyone in my area uses it and ones who do log on like once a month. Waste of money. I use match. It sucks too around here very few women but they have the most decent ones.

 

[biggoal]

You have a defeatist attitude. Work on your inner game. You dont need all those streaming services. I barely have time to watch tv. Get yourself a life. Get some professional pics and use some free dating sites (tinder, bumble, pof, facebook dating). Meet the girls at bars for a drink. That barely costs anything.

Free dating sites are full of land whales and trash. Not that the premium ones like match and eharmony dont but since its pay the women are a bit better.

 

[Alvafe]

you know guys, when you use a OLD app you lose some men points, she already start to think you are a spineless moron, who can't go out and get woman, also consider this, why a good woman would need a old app to find a guy?

 

[RickTheToad]

They have now released Disney plus, and I'm like also subscribed to Amazon Prime, Netflix, and local Cable-TV, etc... and I'm thinking how can anyone spend money in online dating when doling out this much money on streaming services and I'll probably get rejected on there anyway and waste my time.

If I were to go back into online dating I'd just be thinking of the Christian cafe site, but nothing usually happens on there other than feeling bad or I might end up like biggoal on a Christian dating website chasing after undesirable women because there is no real options.

This is how it has always been with me I guess. When I was in elementary school, I didn't mix that well with the girls and I found some joy renting a 16 mm film projector from the library, volunteering to be the class projectionist and making 8mm film at home, and even involving some of my classmates, 30 years ago. If I were even to think of online dating I just can't see myself trying that and also paying for streaming services at the same time.

How do people get over the fact of paying for an online service, but just getting a low percentage (if at that) of replies or feeling like they are wasting their time? Isn't the streaming services more of a sure bet for the money?

Feeling sorry for yourself is certainly not going to help you get da pus. Biggoals issues are not the ladies themselves, it's his location and personality. Both, might I add, can be fixed. He, however, rather just throw money in the wind instead of making real changes in his life for the better. Don't follow biggoals current trajectory.

 

[biggoal]

Feeling sorry for yourself is certainly not going to help you get da pus. Biggoals issues are not the ladies themselves, it's his location and personality. Both, might I add, can be fixed. He, however, rather just throw money in the wind instead of making real changes in his life for the better. Don't follow biggoals current trajectory.

If I get tight abs again do you think that can override location issues and such?

 

[Kotaix]

I don't have the luxury to stay at home because my folks are on my case all the time and keep tugging at me to go out of the house. I have to use a Tablet to watch TV on the go more than at home.

Has it ever occured to you that they're right?

 

[Alvafe]

If I get tight abs again do you think that can override location issues and such?

depend would that change your outlook of live and make you confidents enough to pull woman and not bore then to death?

or you could just get a sugar momma if you ahve the body, the very least she will just tell you to shut it and do her

 

[corrector]

Not sure about Disney Plus. Disney cartoons, like Frozen, are boring when watching on a Tablet. They are not as exciting as say El Camino (i.e. Breaking Bad movie) or some other exciting stuff. The animation looks great on the Tablet but then I just lose my interest because you know this thing is geared for kids and doesn't really turn me on. Have to watch these cartoons in a much larger screen probably. Like most people who have tried the Disney Plus free trial, I'm not sure I'm going to start paying for it come next week

 

[corrector]

Get some professional pics and use some free dating sites (tinder, bumble, pof, facebook dating). Meet the girls at bars for a drink. That barely costs anything.

I've tried professional pics in the past and I think was even rated a 7 on hotornot, this stuff was tried like 10 years ago. I don't think if I had issues with online dating 10 years ago, things are going to be any easier, especially looking at the fact that I'm actually 10 years older (If I'm honest about my age on the profile)! I don't visit bars or have an interest in going there.

 

[corrector]

Feeling sorry for yourself is certainly not going to help you get da pus.

You had p1ty sex before so what are you talking about? You said you had some cold fish that wasn't into it and got turned off or something like that.

Biggoals issues are not the ladies themselves, it's his location and personality.
Both, might I add, can be fixed. He, however, rather just throw money in the wind instead of making real changes in his life for the better. Don't follow biggoals current trajectory.

Of course. Throwing money in the wind would be like getting professional photos and paying for an online dating subscription, right?

 

[Young OG]

I've tried professional pics in the past and I think was even rated a 7 on hotornot, this stuff was tried like 10 years ago. I don't think if I had issues with online dating 10 years ago, things are going to be any easier, especially looking at the fact that I'm actually 10 years older (If I'm honest about my age on the profile)! I don't visit bars or have an interest in going there.

Have some new pics taken. Test them out on photofeeler. I said that you should meet the girls that you get online for a drink at a bar, not try to pick up girls at bars. Unless you change your attitude you will never do good with women. You sound like you have already given up.

 

[biggoal]

You had p1ty sex before so what are you talking about? You said you had some cold fish that wasn't into it and got turned off or something like that.



Of course. Throwing money in the wind would be like getting professional photos and paying for an online dating subscription, right?

Yea. Like dumb me I paid for bumble boost thinking there would be more women showing up. In reality in the 25 mile radius around me I'd log on and most days there would be no user on there within 25 miles. So I was paying for a service when there was no one on my area unless I looked over 30 miles away.

 

[RickTheToad]

You had p1ty sex before so what are you talking about? You said you had some cold fish that wasn't into it and got turned off or something like that.

Nah, not me. If he doesn't rise, I say goodbye's.

Of course. Throwing money in the wind would be like getting professional photos and paying for an online dating subscription, right?

I do not think pro photos work as people can think you are trying too hard. What did work for me are photos of me doing activities and visiting interesting places, doing interesting activities. I've had success with Jswipe, Bumble and Okcupid when I used them last year. Bumble and Jswipe are mostly ladies who are just looking to fvck. I've never tried Tinder, so I can't comment. I did purchase the 10 bucks in boost for a week or so, then deleted my account, went to another app and rotated every 31 days. I disqualified a lot of ladies because they were in NYC. NYC is very expensive a bytch to get to. I am no model, but had several hundred likes/matches in Jswipe, about 1000 likes on Okcupid and a couple hundred on Bumble. The secret is an interesting profile, not boring and really good action and activity pics.

No excuses. If I can get those matches, so can you. I do not know where you live, so I do not know the clientel you have to play with. When I was in a slump, I did spend a weekend in Manhattan at a hotel (on points) and had a great time meeting and sexing several NYC ladies. This was two years ago or so. If you are close to a major metro area, this shouldn't be an issue. If you are going to go this route. Some rules.

1) Throw-away phone number.
2) Throw-away Facebook profile.
3) Fresh new pics.
4) Make yourself sound really interesting in your profile. The first 72 hours online on any of the above-mentioned apps is where you are golden.

 

[biggoal]

Nah, not me. If he doesn't rise, I say goodbye's.



I do not think pro photos work as people can think you are trying too hard. What did work for me are photos of me doing activities and visiting interesting places, doing interesting activities. I've had success with Jswipe, Bumble and Okcupid when I used them last year. Bumble and Jswipe are mostly ladies who are just looking to fvck. I've never tried Tinder, so I can't comment. I did purchase the 10 bucks in boost for a week or so, then deleted my account, went to another app and rotated every 31 days. I disqualified a lot of ladies because they were in NYC. NYC is very expensive a bytch to get to. I am no model, but had several hundred likes/matches in Jswipe, about 1000 likes on Okcupid and a couple hundred on Bumble. The secret is an interesting profile, not boring and really good action and activity pics.

No excuses. If I can get those matches, so can you. I do not know where you live, so I do not know the clientel you have to play with. When I was in a slump, I did spend a weekend in Manhattan at a hotel (on points) and had a great time meeting and sexing several NYC ladies. This was two years ago or so. If you are close to a major metro area, this shouldn't be an issue. If you are going to go this route. Some rules.

1) Throw-away phone number.
2) Throw-away Facebook profile.
3) Fresh new pics.
4) Make yourself sound really interesting in your profile. The first 72 hours online on any of the above-mentioned apps is where you are golden.

Location is key. If you use Bumble in my area within 30 miles you will be very disappointed. Boost a waste of money. I can go a couple days without seeing anyone in bumble in my area. Sometimes you get a hot flight attendant because teh regional airport is just down the road. Otherwise Bumble is a desert around here.

I can imagine NYC Bumble would be a gold mine or any OLD app.

I'm not close to a major metro area. This isn't fair!!!!

 

[RickTheToad]

Location is key. If you use Bumble in my area within 30 miles you will be very disappointed. Boost a waste of money. I can go a couple days without seeing anyone in bumble in my area. Sometimes you get a hot flight attendant because teh regional airport is just down the road. Otherwise Bumble is a desert around here.

I can imagine NYC Bumble would be a gold mine or any OLD app.

I'm not close to a major metro area. This isn't fair!!!!

1st, life is not fair. You should come to understand this sooner rather than later. 2nd, MOVE. At 36, you should have your own pad and not live with your mom. If you are smart, you get a duplex and have your tenant pay your mortgage while you build up equity.