Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
I used to be that guy, going out on dates and getting ghosted or "semi-ghosted" as some of you like to say.
I permanently ended that scenario 12 years ago by realizing one simple thing: Women are bored out of their minds with you because you are trying to impress them and are not qualifying them. They hate this. They are bored and repulsed by your attempts to please and impress them.
They lose interest, give a few polite answers to your texts over the next couple days, and then disappear into the mist. Sound familiar?
I have proven time and time again that the way to be attractive to women is to immediately flip the script and judge them openly and firmly. You need to start your date with an opening gambit, letting her know subtly yet firmly that she needs to work to impress you.
Think about it. Most men go on these dates and the main focus is trying to impress her. There is not even an inkling in men's minds that they are in the position of evaluating and qualifying the women they date. Every bit of energy and thought is dedicated to impressing her.
What men don't realize is that most women either know this consciously, or intuit it subconsciously. Your niceness and eagerness is transactional and is a subterfuge. It is the height of dishonesty. And then they wonder why she's unimpressed and drifts away.
The way to end your problems with women once and for all is counter-intuitive, as are most universal truths. The way id to get in the habit of judging women for their words and behavior and letting them know that you are judging them. YOU are the King. YOU are the one who is supposed to be the authority on this earth. Sitting around sipping drinks with a woman as you strategize to discover how to please her is pvssy game. It makes you just like every other pvssy out there.
"But Atom Smasher, what you're advocating is being rude and impolite to women. That is sure to turn them off!" Not so, grasshopper. When you get in the habit of judging women openly, you become attractive and intriguing and worth her effort to impress you. This is because by judging them, you are telegraphing self-respect. Self-respect is hugely attractive to women. If you adopt this mindset, you will fit it to your own personality and moderate it appropriately so that you are seen to be telegraphing reasonable expectations of behavior from the women around you.
I absolutely believe that this issue of assuming that you need to impress women is at the core of most failure with them. Don't be too sure that you're not doing this. The whole infrastructure has been set up where the man assumes that he must impress women.
On a date, you appear "all-in" with her. You telegraph that if she were to give you the green light, you would jump her bones like a little puppy.
The way to counteract this self-defeating dynamic is to Qualify, Qualify, Qualify. All women everywhere should know that you are expecting respectable behavior out of them. This includes your mother, your sisters, in fact every woman that you know or come in contact with.
Women see such a man as sexy, attractive and of high value because a man who carries himself in this way triggers attraction in their inner core. They are wired to respond positively to it. This is the very root of confidence.
When you start doing this, it very rapidly becomes second-nature, a natural extension of your personality. This is because this natural skill lies dormant in every man and only needs to be re-awakened.
Most of you will think, "Wait a minute, this can't be right. Atom is over the top on this one." But for some it will resonate as truth.
My problems with women completely vanished when I stumbled upon this truth. I was an absolutely clueless guy when it came to women until I turned 50 or so. I perceived it as some kind of "cosmic force" that dictated that women can't ever like me. It turns out that I was just a little puppy dog who was looking for approval. Once I became the "Approver", everything changed.
Next time you go on a date, be the King and expect her to qualify her way into your life. You may be a bit miscalibrated at first, but you will rapidly fall into the right rhythm. Women speak and understand subtly and covertly, and you need to subtly and covertly and occasionally directly convey that you're in charge of the date, of your time together, and of a possible relationship if she qualifies.
Judge women everywhere you go and let them know your disgust when they act rude, bratty, or out of line in any way. The way to do this is to extend friendliness and fun wherever you go, but hold their feet to the fire when they act up. You will have them eating out of your hand, and you certainly won't be writing threads on SoSuave asking why she ghosted you or why she seems distant. All that will be a thing of the past.
This is experience talking here, men. Take it or leave it.
I permanently ended that scenario 12 years ago by realizing one simple thing: Women are bored out of their minds with you because you are trying to impress them and are not qualifying them. They hate this. They are bored and repulsed by your attempts to please and impress them.
They lose interest, give a few polite answers to your texts over the next couple days, and then disappear into the mist. Sound familiar?
I have proven time and time again that the way to be attractive to women is to immediately flip the script and judge them openly and firmly. You need to start your date with an opening gambit, letting her know subtly yet firmly that she needs to work to impress you.
Think about it. Most men go on these dates and the main focus is trying to impress her. There is not even an inkling in men's minds that they are in the position of evaluating and qualifying the women they date. Every bit of energy and thought is dedicated to impressing her.
What men don't realize is that most women either know this consciously, or intuit it subconsciously. Your niceness and eagerness is transactional and is a subterfuge. It is the height of dishonesty. And then they wonder why she's unimpressed and drifts away.
The way to end your problems with women once and for all is counter-intuitive, as are most universal truths. The way id to get in the habit of judging women for their words and behavior and letting them know that you are judging them. YOU are the King. YOU are the one who is supposed to be the authority on this earth. Sitting around sipping drinks with a woman as you strategize to discover how to please her is pvssy game. It makes you just like every other pvssy out there.
"But Atom Smasher, what you're advocating is being rude and impolite to women. That is sure to turn them off!" Not so, grasshopper. When you get in the habit of judging women openly, you become attractive and intriguing and worth her effort to impress you. This is because by judging them, you are telegraphing self-respect. Self-respect is hugely attractive to women. If you adopt this mindset, you will fit it to your own personality and moderate it appropriately so that you are seen to be telegraphing reasonable expectations of behavior from the women around you.
I absolutely believe that this issue of assuming that you need to impress women is at the core of most failure with them. Don't be too sure that you're not doing this. The whole infrastructure has been set up where the man assumes that he must impress women.
On a date, you appear "all-in" with her. You telegraph that if she were to give you the green light, you would jump her bones like a little puppy.
The way to counteract this self-defeating dynamic is to Qualify, Qualify, Qualify. All women everywhere should know that you are expecting respectable behavior out of them. This includes your mother, your sisters, in fact every woman that you know or come in contact with.
Women see such a man as sexy, attractive and of high value because a man who carries himself in this way triggers attraction in their inner core. They are wired to respond positively to it. This is the very root of confidence.
When you start doing this, it very rapidly becomes second-nature, a natural extension of your personality. This is because this natural skill lies dormant in every man and only needs to be re-awakened.
Most of you will think, "Wait a minute, this can't be right. Atom is over the top on this one." But for some it will resonate as truth.
My problems with women completely vanished when I stumbled upon this truth. I was an absolutely clueless guy when it came to women until I turned 50 or so. I perceived it as some kind of "cosmic force" that dictated that women can't ever like me. It turns out that I was just a little puppy dog who was looking for approval. Once I became the "Approver", everything changed.
Next time you go on a date, be the King and expect her to qualify her way into your life. You may be a bit miscalibrated at first, but you will rapidly fall into the right rhythm. Women speak and understand subtly and covertly, and you need to subtly and covertly and occasionally directly convey that you're in charge of the date, of your time together, and of a possible relationship if she qualifies.
Judge women everywhere you go and let them know your disgust when they act rude, bratty, or out of line in any way. The way to do this is to extend friendliness and fun wherever you go, but hold their feet to the fire when they act up. You will have them eating out of your hand, and you certainly won't be writing threads on SoSuave asking why she ghosted you or why she seems distant. All that will be a thing of the past.
This is experience talking here, men. Take it or leave it.
