Things that ruled out women as LTR's or potential relationships for you.

[2Rocky]

I've been feeling introspective about my choice of partners. Thinking about women I've ruled out early. When I got out of my marriage I set some "dealbreakers" So I wouldn't repeat some of the same mistakes.

Dealbreaker #1 No kids younger than mine. My oldest is 21 and youngest is 12. Feeling pretty "parented out" I'm also learning being a parent does't stop when the kids turn 18.​

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That eliminated the smart, cute engineer with the 5 yo daughter with a heart condition at birth, and the blonde with 3 daughters under 9. Ironically both these women knew relatives of mine but I didn't meet them through them.​

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Dealbreaker #2 No extreme viewpoints (opposite of mine) on certain issues. This eliminated a woman 10 years younger than I. She was childless and didn't want children, self employed, tall and attractive. That issue and her being vocal about it was a no go...She was great except for that one thing.​

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Dealbreaker #3 No substance abuse. The young heavily tattooed single mother who aggressively tried to make out with me after the concert but was obviously impaired eliminated herself early. The woman who was married to a local police officer who got a DUI from one of his colleagues. (Ironically her mother is a picture of what I want my wife to be like in 20 years.)​

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Not dealbreakers as much as red flags. These are all really attractive women younger than I who have shown me interest.​

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The single never married girl that went to school with my sister 6 years younger. . She is outgoing, kind smart and attractive buuuut....Her family is awkward, socially retarded, and overly religious.​

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Her friend, also never married with a career plus a family estate of quite some size. Has a very close relationship with her father and admires him greatly. Bemoans her lack of a life partner often on social media. We share a number of interests, but when I look at her with her fake eyelashes I just see Janice from the Muppets.​

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These were all women I have frequent contact with as it is a small community. That eliminated them from non LTR encounters. They all passed the "Boner Test" but were non starters.

To me this seems like I am operating from a place of abundance and rational thought. But part of me has a nagging feeling of FOMO. I'm in a relationship with a great woman who I got to know over years of dating. But I went outside of people I know to meet her. Do you feel like there are quality women you "know too well"?

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[Who Dares Win]

Take the average woman in the 90s or early 00s then take the average current woman and list the differences.

These are the deal breakers most of the times.

Zero tolerance in terms of social media addiction and attention wh0ring attitude to begin with.

 

[Barrister]

Take the average woman in the 90s or early 00s then take the average current woman and list the differences.

These are the deal breakers most of the times.

Zero tolerance in terms of social media addiction and attention wh0ring attitude to begin with.

Generally, women who have a non-stop presence on social media are almost always ones to avoid if you are seeking a LTR. The constant need for public approval/validation is a major red flag that is indicative of worse issues under the surface.

 

[rjc149]

1. Doesn't follow a basic exercise routine or take care of her body.
2. Smelly vagina.
3. Social media or smartphone addiction.
4. Visible tattoos when in non-revealing summer attire.
5. Social justice warriors or anyone with hyper-left viewpoints.
6. Has children.
7. Materialistic.

Basically attractive, kind and sweet women without the above traits are fair game for an LTR for me.

 

[Robert28]

Wants to be friends or thinks friendship first turn into the best relationships later.....no they don’t. Friendships first stay friendships.

 

[Kotaix]

I've tried dating women who weren't of my socio-economic status. I can't say it's a deal breaker for me because it depends on the mentality of the person, nor do I think about it normally; but I've never been able to make across-class relationships work. This is something I've learned to look at as a potential deal breaker. Lower class women tend to be mouthy and crazy

Crazy. Stay away like the plague.

Feminists or anyone with a ton of piercings or dyed hair, I don't even bother approaching.

 

[Epic Days]

How about...it’s a bad idea with most any woman

 

[AttackFormation]

I currently share your mood, sir. I'm losing patience. Allow me to explain:

There's this saying "we teach people how to treat us". Yet it is so extreme dealing with these birds that I just lose patience. I'm getting sick of relationships lasting 3 months. My view of the problem is that so many gimp guys are giving women an awful sense of behaviour which simply can't be undone by one guy. Takes a village etc. It's as Gordon Ramsey would not make a great meal out of sh1te ingrediants, or Jose Mourinho famously stated that he can't build a wonderful football team out of crappy players (eggs>omelettes etc).

I'm very seriously considering just being serious within my mum's culture for a few years and seeing how that goes. It comes with very different challenges, but ones that I am quite up for now that i'm in my 30's.

So my diagnoses is gimp men tbh. Men being gimps. I'm seriously not out to fix the world's problems. so fvck it. Diagnose it and deal with it.

Didn't you get into a relationship not too long ago if I got the right picture? I guess it dissolved now and hence this post.

Is your mom's culture roma? what'd the challenges be?

 

[Black Widow Void]

I'll never get again get serious with a woman who says she hates the Beatles. It's okay not to be a fan or listen, but hating them is a sign of serious mental illness.

I lost my virginity to a gal that did not like the Beatles. I did't know this until a few weeks later. We were both teenagers, but it was still difficult to accept.

Years later, with another gal (after the 'deed') we're still in bed and listing to some generic classic rock station and she is all into it and saying how great the music is. Then, a Todd Rundgren song came on and she turned the radio dial and said well most of the music on that station is good. I never took her out again.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Dating women close to my age does have an advantage. They are still more 'old school' with their thinking and behavior. It's not only a lot less headache, but because their demand is lower, I'm appreciated much more.

With the above being said, it seems like women of all ages (and caliber) might entertain the idea of getting a tattoo. It's not a deal breaker, but I sure don't like them.

 

[soulforge]

Deal Breakers..

#Substance abuse - Woman are taking/using cocaine at a massive rate in the UK

#Has been sexually abused by Uncle Joe - Without a doubt will have many psychological issues and is probably very hypersexual.

#Too many male freinds - Obviously needs lots of male validation and the need to keep lots of options around, for when she gets bored with YOU

#Involvment with stripping or porn - Again massive indicator of her need for attention and male validation and probably promiscuous as fuk.

#No job or carreer with kids and broke - errm yeh i don't need to explain this one.

 

[Epic Days]

Deal Breakers..

#Substance abuse - Woman are taking/using cocaine at a massive rate in the UK

#Has been sexually abused by Uncle Joe - Without a doubt will have many psychological issues and is probably very hypersexual.

#Too many male freinds - Obviously needs lots of male validation and the need to keep lots of options around, for when she gets bored with YOU

#Involvment with stripping or porn - Again massive indicator of her need for attention and male validation and probably promiscuous as fuk.

#No job or carreer with kids and broke - errm yeh i don't need to explain this one.

Deal breakers for what? Sex?
Not getting on you brother. Just pointing out your context in your frame.

To me, this stuff is all in the feminine imperative. The social destruction of our world. Etc.

You should get a vibe in the first few seconds of interaction, if you are out of your head. Is she going to make your dik hard or not? Even if she was a goddess from heaven...what the hell is she going to do for you? This is not hate in the least. I admire the audacity of women. LMAO

There is only one thing a woman has to exchange or sell with or to a man...SEX.

 

[Epic Days]

Forget being a romantic hero. I'd rather be the effortless rebound guy, lol. You get the best of everything and have no obligation to commit to the woman.

The best she can give you. This is a prime experience. I’ve always been the rebound primal fuk. the truth is many of them are still married and needing that man. you may or not be privy to her status.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

That's true. There was a time when I got out of the military and was on adderall because I was told I was A.D.D in bootcamp lol. It killed my sex drive. And I swear I felt like I was free. No longer did I wanted to go out to the bars on weekends. Saved a lot of money. But then something weird happened. I started getting negged 20+ times a day by random women, every woman in my social environment tried to seduce me, and I made a lot of women needy. They wouldn't let me leave the game. My lack of paying attention to them irked them somehow. That's when I discovered the secret to attraction. When I lost my intent, my attractiveness increased by like 200%. I could have a convo with a 9 with zero fvcks about to create anything and in turned, she would wonder why I am so free from the matrix of impressing women.

But the most important revelation of all was when I realized 90% of females were annoying and nothing to offer. They wanted value from ME, and not the other way around. They were either too entitled or needy to be around. I never realized this when I had raging hormones. But when I became non-needy myself, everone just started to repel me.

I am not on adderall anymore and I have my sex drive back but the veil has been lifted. I discovered what it felt like to have a sex drive of a 75 year old man, lol. I just wanted to watch the ball game and have a cold beer in peace, go fishing, and read zen books, lol. And I was perfectly content. And whenever a woman would observe me, I would leave the room.

With zero intent and zero effort, and even borderline contempt for annoying women, I still managed to have like 10+ women try to seduce me on a daily basis. They would take it as an insult if I didn't accept their dinner offers. This is also why I no longer believe in game. Having good game is nothing to brag about. It just means you have to do the heavy lifting instead of the woman. And as a seducer, you have to deal with so many weird women with sexual hangups. At least when they seduce you, you know they are feminine and normal.

What's fvcking every guy up is anti-game really. That and having no social life where they have access to women.

If you had a social life it is as simple is showing up and not giving a fvck about women. And genuinely enjoying what it is that you do. Contentment = abundance with women.

Trying to get better with women is like walking on quick sand. The harder you try the faster you sink.

As for the topic, the best women for LTR's are already in LTR's. The eternally single ones will annoy you eventually. The high quality ones are social so have no chance not to be scooped up already.

A woman operating on her optimum wavelength WILL find a guy operating on his wavelength. They will find each other. It's the law of attraction. It's how the universe creates life.

HOWEVER, the universe does not care about human social constructs. The relationship will elevate her point of attraction even more. And she will continually run into high frequency guys on her wavelength. As soon as her BF slips up on his frame, she's already got backup. And that's when I would usually show up.

For some odd reason, the universe would always put me in situations where a beautiful woman's relationship is on the rocks. I guess even the universe has no pity for cucks.

Forget being a romantic hero. I'd rather be the effortless rebound guy, lol. You get the best of everything and have no obligation to commit to the woman.

What if she likes shady folks who stay at a low frequency?

 

[PantyWhisperer]

This is a good list. I'd add:

8.Sgns of lack of health - I went to a date with a woman that had so weird sweat odor that made me to consider her non-phuckable in my eyes.

Lol - I once bailed on an 8 with no strings attached because her feet stunk. Tried like hell to get her to meet me at the hotel pool and share a bottle but she was dead set on going to the bar. Goodnight, Irene!

 

[JohnChops]

That's true. There was a time when I got out of the military and was on adderall because I was told I was A.D.D in bootcamp lol. It killed my sex drive. And I swear I felt like I was free. No longer did I wanted to go out to the bars on weekends. Saved a lot of money. But then something weird happened. I started getting negged 20+ times a day by random women, every woman in my social environment tried to seduce me, and I made a lot of women needy. They wouldn't let me leave the game. My lack of paying attention to them irked them somehow. That's when I discovered the secret to attraction. When I lost my intent, my attractiveness increased by like 200%. I could have a convo with a 9 with zero fvcks about to create anything and in turned, she would wonder why I am so free from the matrix of impressing women.

But the most important revelation of all was when I realized 90% of females were annoying and nothing to offer. They wanted value from ME, and not the other way around. They were either too entitled or needy to be around. I never realized this when I had raging hormones. But when I became non-needy myself, everone just started to repel me.

I am not on adderall anymore and I have my sex drive back but the veil has been lifted. I discovered what it felt like to have a sex drive of a 75 year old man, lol. I just wanted to watch the ball game and have a cold beer in peace, go fishing, and read zen books, lol. And I was perfectly content. And whenever a woman would observe me, I would leave the room.

With zero intent and zero effort, and even borderline contempt for annoying women, I still managed to have like 10+ women try to seduce me on a daily basis. They would take it as an insult if I didn't accept their dinner offers. This is also why I no longer believe in game. Having good game is nothing to brag about. It just means you have to do the heavy lifting instead of the woman. And as a seducer, you have to deal with so many weird women with sexual hangups. At least when they seduce you, you know they are feminine and normal.

What's fvcking every guy up is anti-game really. That and having no social life where they have access to women.

If you had a social life it is as simple is showing up and not giving a fvck about women. And genuinely enjoying what it is that you do. Contentment = abundance with women.

Trying to get better with women is like walking on quick sand. The harder you try the faster you sink.

As for the topic, the best women for LTR's are already in LTR's. The eternally single ones will annoy you eventually. The high quality ones are social so have no chance not to be scooped up already.

A woman operating on her optimum wavelength WILL find a guy operating on his wavelength. They will find each other. It's the law of attraction. It's how the universe creates life.

HOWEVER, the universe does not care about human social constructs. The relationship will elevate her point of attraction even more. And she will continually run into high frequency guys on her wavelength. As soon as her BF slips up on his frame, she's already got backup. And that's when I would usually show up.

For some odd reason, the universe would always put me in situations where a beautiful woman's relationship is on the rocks. I guess even the universe has no pity for cucks.

Forget being a romantic hero. I'd rather be the effortless rebound guy, lol. You get the best of everything and have no obligation to commit to the woman.

Best way to maintain frame in an LTR: less is more, and keep it fun.

Hell my girlfriend tries to get serious with me, and I just fvck around and deflect all that crap into something stupid, because that is what women are, emotional, little girls that want to have fun and get their sh1t wet.

Deal breakers for me:
1) smoking
2) drug abuse
3) lazy
4) no job or aspirations

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Wavelength and point of attraction are two different things. Wavelength is what you attract all the time. You cannot turn it off. Point of attraction is how much of it you atttact. You can be needy and supplicating and repel everything you desire in life. Even money.

a woman who likes shady folks will have no problems attracting it as long as she isn’t needy for it.

And if your not shady? But you are an excellent and thorough performer in your ways then what?

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Best way to maintain frame in an LTR: less is more, and keep it fun.

Hell my girlfriend tries to get serious with me, and I just fvck around and deflect all that crap into something stupid, because that is what women are, emotional, little girls that want to have fun and get their sh1t wet.

Deal breakers for me:
1) smoking
2) drug abuse
3) lazy
4) no job or aspirations

High kill count, drug use, smoking, lazy, no active gym membership, pathological liar, leaving her **** in my car or at my place for a excuse to stay or come by, manipulative, zero ambition, Liberal, a bad haircut (cut too short), not dolling herself up, being a slob, entitled, bitchy, victimhood, needy, clingy, bpd, crazy, weird, low sex drive means #next, ****ty cooking, party girl, bar star, only has guy friends, any mention of ex bf, any history of depression or mental health issues, suicide history, and ****ty diet, etc.