Social competition

[Fruitbat]

Who said you should you trust them? The point is to do something with them. Hockey game, poker, pool. The point isn’t to reveal your finances or your wives pregnancy.



Of course they would. You don’t think your friends would love it if your wife dies? Or your kid dies? Or if you go bankrupt?

They are compassionate to your face, behind the scenes they are loving it.



Your enemy would show up to your funeral faster than your friend.



Yep.



Good job. Go for it.



True. That’s capitalism.

Look at Warren Buffet. “Oh gosh golly me, I live in the same house I bought in 1953, I play the ukulele on my porch, I drink Coke like your average everyday 9-5 American.”

Behind the scenes, he buys companies who destroy the Amazon rainforest, or whose products cause cancer, or he will support the firing of several thousand workers if he gets more money. Yet the media loves him.

Everything is corrupt.

No, neither I, nor anyone I know who is sane would be happy if their friends loved ones died.

I just lost my best friend. I certainly bawled my eyes out for weeks. You have to be unhinged to enjoy that.

if I’m being honest, like everyone I like to think I’m doing better than anyone around me. That’s natural. Do people exist I would feel happy if they had misfortune? Definitely. I’m not a saint.

the world you describe is exactly the one I detest. If anything, it’s strengthened my resolve to resist it.
Some folks believe in making the world better, nurturing others, building a better world. Fellowship, fraternity. Integrity and honesty. Perhaps it’s a british thing. I doubt it. I’m sure the world has men and women with good intentions the world over.

the attitude you describe is kind of the rapists charter. Who cares if you do wrong - they’d do it to your daughter or sister so get ahead when you can.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

In my opinion those games waste your time and are methods of attention whoring. Many who perform them are a paycheck or two from being on the street. Its a stupid competition. The same time can be used for getting better.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

From 48 Laws of Power by Robert Green recall law 38:

Think as you like but behave like others.

Wise words. It is better to conform outwardly so people are comfortable with your company. People feel disrespected or that you are arrogant if you are a nonconformist.

I notice this too (about the bragging and so forth. Hell. I’ve been accused of it here but I do not apologize for my reality.) People resent me some. I am rarely showy around people who are less successful or sophisticated. People will feel shown up and that breeds a certain contempt that is better avoided most of the time.

It’s hard to hide though. When I show up at the bank midday in jeans, a t-shirt and no makeup with a pony tail...and most everyone is dressed for work? It’s self evident that I’m not average. Or, well that I’m different. And that’s ok but it has to be managed in the sense that people do get envious.

I’ve learned to become more quiet as I’ve become more successful. For a number of reasons.

Stay below the radar. Become more interested in others and less interested in puffing out your own chest. You’ll learn more, reveal less, and be better liked by others. And those are all advantages.

Cheers

 

[Who Dares Win]

If its a d1ck measuring contest you are no friends.

Friends are those you can say that you fail to get an erection with that girl the previous day or that you are stressed cause the mortgage is kinda demanding.

 

[Fruitbat]

If its a d1ck measuring contest you are no friends.

Friends are those you can say that you fail to get an erection with that girl the previous day or that you are stressed cause the mortgage is kinda demanding.

I have 2 people I could say that to. One of them is dead!

 

[ubercat]

Find more. The others are just drinking acquaintances. generally I find the wider your interests the more you're going to bump into people have wide interests and open minds themselves

 

[Who Dares Win]

I have 2 people I could say that to. One of them is dead!

You have a single friend then.

If you find yourself managing your relationships the same way you would manage a job interview or a hostage negotiation, you clearly cant call them friends.

 

[Trump]

Advice from the old lady:

From 48 Laws of Power by Robert Green recall law 38:

Think as you like but behave like others.

Wise words. It is better to conform outwardly so people are comfortable with your company. People feel disrespected or that you are arrogant if you are a nonconformist.

I notice this too (about the bragging and so forth. Hell. I’ve been accused of it here but I do not apologize for my reality.) People resent me some. I am rarely showy around people who are less successful or sophisticated. People will feel shown up and that breeds a certain contempt that is better avoided most of the time.

It’s hard to hide though. When I show up at the bank midday in jeans, a t-shirt and no makeup with a pony tail...and most everyone is dressed for work? It’s self evident that I’m not average. Or, well that I’m different. And that’s ok but it has to be managed in the sense that people do get envious.

I’ve learned to become more quiet as I’ve become more successful. For a number of reasons.

Stay below the radar. Become more interested in others and less interested in puffing out your own chest. You’ll learn more, reveal less, and be better liked by others. And those are all advantages.

Cheers

+1. Good points.

That’s exactly how leaders of free world, heads of state, CEOs, billionaires, rich actors, act. Ever wonder how much Putin, Trump, Xi, and the Iranian ayatollahs have in oversea bank accounts? Conform in public, behind the scenes steal millions from their country for their families and relatives.

Got to read that book again.