For years and years I've asked people, men with success and women how to write a first message on online dating.
As you know you can write anything.
Twice now on online dating websites many women looked at my profile and decided not to reply to my first message. It's very frustrating.
Nothing wrong with my photos.
This is what I've put on my profile, on the about me, describe me section on both of these online websites:
My family and friends would describe me as warm, ambitious, x y a individual.
My interests and hobbies include going to the cinema x y z.
If you would like to get to know me feel free to message me.
What is wrong here?
In my experience, and some honest self-analysis, the problem with online dating is that there’s no confronting the real world. Sure, you could have some success in it, but that’s not the point, and it wouldn’t do anything for you other than reinforce your isolation from naturally attracting women in a face to face setting by default.
“”Hey! It worked! I don’t even have to go out and approach them to pull this off. Neat!”
See where I’m going with that? It’s like giving up on actual growth and settling for the easy route that leads to the further weakening of yourself, instead of the hard path that makes you a stronger being.
It’s not that there’s anything wrong with your profile. It’s that you aren’t out in the real world developing yourself, building yourself as a man and an individual. In online dating, there’s no actual conversation, no looking her in the eye, no seduction or self development. It’s like a state of limbo, still seeking women, but too afraid to face the outside world and the women in it. Afraid of rejection and loneliness. It puts you in a state of desperation.
My advice is to ditch the OLD crap and go out there and live. You’re more worried about the women noticing you than you are developing yourself and your life and maximizing your potential. Women know that this is the sort of man that frequents online dating. She wields that as an advantage to her sexual behavior, power, and manipulation over the men on the site. Most of them are overweight, and they know full well their SMV makes it impossible to secure a man in any other setting. Most of them will be manipulative. A hot or desirable woman doesn’t need OLD. There’s men all over the place in public willing to fvck her.
Plus, for the man, it serves as a shield to protect himself and the fragile balance of beliefs and fear in his mind. While I’m not necessarily saying you’re weak, I am saying that your focus on OLD is indicative of personal weaknesses that need to be addressed, and growth in that department is totally doable. How do I know your focused on OLD? Your posting about it.
Even if this isn’t the case for you, OLD takes a man’s personal power and puts it into the hands of the women on the site, because he’s left waiting for views and replies to messages instead of taking action in the real world. He relinquishes his natural state and masculinity for a pretty face on a screen, and the women know it. So they use that to their advantage.
With work and personal growth, things like this won’t be a problem, and you’ll better off. In a much stronger state in life.