First Dates: Let HER Do all the Talking

[nicksaiz65]

First Dates – Let HER Do the Talking - Alpha Male 2.0

One of the fundamental techniques for successful first dates is to let the woman do 80% of the talking. The problem is that most guys don’t know how to do this.

blackdragonblog.com

Excellent article. It articulated the stuff I've been running through my head for a while now.

 

[lgbs2004]

Why only in the first dates?

 

[Trump]

What if the woman you have the date with has read that article?

‘Oh, he’s going to let me talk because he wants to have sex with me? I’m going to shut up on purpose. Then what will be his game plan?”

What are you going to do, call a timeout?

 

[Black Widow Void]

I see both sides.
Unless you are oozing with Hollywood charisma (which most of us, including self aren't) we initially have provide a reason for them to be interested. This includes some skill at conversation.
Once a date has been set and is in action, I completely agree that it's best to let her do most of the talking.
Provided she talks about things that bring her passion, this will not only make her feel good, but reduces our own energy in keeping the conversation going. It's a win/win.
Also, this will leave you with a degree of being mysterious. She takes up most of the conversation oxygen and later reflects on feeling good, yet knowing very little about the guy that made her feel good. That's never a bad thing.

 

[zekko]

What if the woman you have the date with has read that article?

‘Oh, he’s going to let me talk because he wants to have sex with me? I’m going to shut up on purpose. Then what will be his game plan?”

Usually, most women will be so busy talking they probably won't even notice

 

[Kotaix]

Why only in the first dates?

Because if she talks TOO much you won't be having any more dates.

 

[devilkingx2]

It's good if she wants to do most of the talking but the only reason to avoid talking is if you're certain that opening your mouth is going to screw you more than it would help you lol.

If you're a person with a great fun personality just don't overtalk and you'll be fine

 

[BURT MCQUEEN]

First Dates – Let HER Do the Talking - Alpha Male 2.0

One of the fundamental techniques for successful first dates is to let the woman do 80% of the talking. The problem is that most guys don’t know how to do this.

blackdragonblog.com

Excellent article. It articulated the stuff I've been running through my head for a while now.

This kind of sites are made to sell.

There all the stuff that you need about game on the internet for free, like DJ's Bible, heartiste, the rationale male, etc.

 

[glass half full]

What if the woman you have the date with has read that article?

‘Oh, he’s going to let me talk because he wants to have sex with me? I’m going to shut up on purpose. Then what will be his game plan?”

What are you going to do, call a timeout?

No, but she will. Head off to the restroom for about 30 minutes, then come out and game the fvck out of you.

But why not try it anyway first. Chances of success are better than running into that kind of woman in 80% of places.

 

[Mike32ct]

I would probably avoid “one size fits all” rules like this.

It’s a judgement call depending on different factors. You have to tailor it to the person you are talking to.

Is she a chatty extrovert? Then yes, let her talk say 80 percent. Is she an introvert? She might appreciate 50/50. Is she a SHY introvert? You might have to do say 75 percent.

The only significant mistake I ever made during a first date was letting the conversation go on TOO LONG. Plenty of times, I got too comfortable and talked with her for 2+ hours straight. Total friendzone or lack of a second date lol.

End the date on a high note, and leave her wanting more.

 

[Dash Riprock]

A few thoughts on this:

Generally speaking, a charismatic, funny, extroverted man is MUCH MORE interesting to a woman than the stolid, quiet, stoic, type. Some men (usually the ones who aren't outgoing and charismatic) argue against this, but it's very true. Now, sprinkle in some teasing and good, humorous stories and your odds of getting laid skyrocket.

BUT, don't overdo it. MAKE SURE you are asking open-ended questions of her especially the ones that garner her opinion. Try pop culture, music. and lately I've been telling funny dating stories and asking if she has any and also throw out my opinion that dating apps have ironically made dating and relationships a lot more difficult. These are great topics. Make sure you disagree with something she says even if you really don't. Show her you have balls and aren't mystified by her looks or t*its.

So to recap: Charisma + Humor + Good Story Telling + Asking open-ended "opinion" Questions = vastly increased chances of getting laid.

Good luck.

~Dash~

 

[devilkingx2]

What if the woman you have the date with has read that article?

‘Oh, he’s going to let me talk because he wants to have sex with me? I’m going to shut up on purpose. Then what will be his game plan?”

What are you going to do, call a timeout?

"Staring contest, go!"

 

[backseatjuan]

She will not make it sexual, platonic at best.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

How to Win Friends & Influence People will tell you the same. People as a general rule love to hear themselves talk...

I usually let the man do most of the talking but I’ll ask interesting questions that require thought and I am truly interested in his answers. And I listen actively.

That way I remain rather mysterious and less known...and I get lots of comments appreciating my wit & intelligence.

But I tend to gravitate to men who are charismatic and gregarious to begin with...men who like having an audience. It’s rarely a good idea to rattle on with such men. They’ll get bored or lose interest. If they are talking, they are investing in the interaction...and that is a good thing.

Works on women or men. You just may have to work a bit harder to draw an introvert into a conversation. With extroverts it’s easy.

I might add that the most important skill is reading engagement during a conversation. Some people (myself included) can actually get bored/check out while still talking. If you can accurately read engagement during a conversation that is a most important skill and will help you transition to an activity or change the subject or etc. before interest drops off. It’s subtle but important.