DelayedGratification
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 16, 2019
- Messages
- 328
- Reaction score
- 213
- Age
- 59
Just finished "At any cost" on that site. The picture that painted was a really good blend of the dynamics with my ex and my former mistress. Very good material there. It's not the first time I've seen her through that lens, but it's always helpful to have the point reinforced.You both obviously share same wavelengths, the way to get out of it is to get resolved with it, Heal, grow and change. Healing is always about Honoring your own feelings. If you read something similar with your life with her on that site you're obviously been with one heck of a sickos. The worst thing you share with your bpd lover is poor self-worth.. Get that shape up you will over her in no time.
Yes, self-image and self-esteem issues have dogged me my entire life. It's an inner narrative I continually work to negate, but it's a very slow process.
Over the past year I've been fortunate to have a very positive dynamic with my current GF---the differences between the quality of these two women are stark. I'm at a point where I feel like I will have retreated on a lot of hard-earned personal growth by re-engaging in any capacity. There isn't a single thing she has to offer that is worth giving up on that.