Step up cold approach game

[BJP1991]

Looking to step up my cold approach game.

Aside from the obvious (clubs/venues/bars) what do you all recommend or where do you find yourself doing the most cold approach? I know it’s a “in your daily life” sort of thing, but what about going out for the sole purpose of meeting women?

Additionally, what are thoughts on nofap in relation to any of this (if any)?

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Inb4 social group > cold approach

Just got up the busiest public areas. Could be a busy intersection, shopping mall, park, etc. Stay away from clubs. Bars or ok if the vibe is low-key.

 

[wifehunter]

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Cold approach should only be done in Bars / Clubs or where it is appropriate. Anything during the day must be in code or else you will look dumb and feel stupid.

Please don't go around getting kick out of malls and starbucks, that is what pua haggots do.

 

[Spaz]

Please don't go around getting kick out of malls and starbucks, that is what pua haggots do.

I don't think men in general are really that stupid.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I don't think men in general are really that stupid.

You give people too much credit, most people are idiots... *cheers!

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Think about what you're asking. You want to go out specifically for meeting women. That undermines the abundance frame. A person with options doesn't have to do that. Not to mention you'll come off as thirsty because women will smell the fake on you(unless they're super naive and your game is somewhat tight). Go do things you're interested in and socialize with women there. Why would you EVER go out with the sole mission of talking to/picking up women? Women are a compliment to your life, not the end goal.

As far as nofap goes I've got a thread going about that right now and have done some long streaks in the past. Personally it helps me have a more objective view of my life since I'm not getting the constant dopamine. It helps hone self control and general sensory acuity. Rather than beat off when I'm bored I go do other things or if I sense I want to do it to escape some underlying feeling I instead dive into that feeling and figure it out. Aside from that the abstaining provides a bit more energy. It helps hone the proper frame by forcing self control and by effect I get really good at making thirst invisible. The objective view keeps me from putting pusssy on a pedestal. It's a fun challenge try it out. Some guys don't notice a big difference, I personally do.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

I feel so sorry for the guys who have succumbed to the social conditioning that it's morally wrong to have a genuine interaction with a stranger of the opposite sex in daylight, in public. Or the guys who are too insecure and scared of rejection to try it so they say it's wrong, foolish, will get you thrown out, and that if you do it, you are a dancing monkey pickup artist who begs for women. Whatever let's you sleep at night I guess.

Say what you like. Meanwhile I'll continue banging hot 20-something year olds at the ripe old age of 43.

Cheers

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I feel so sorry for the guys who have succumbed to the social conditioning that it's morally wrong to have a genuine interaction with a stranger of the opposite sex in daylight, in public. Or the guys who are too insecure and scared of rejection to try it so they say it's wrong, foolish, will get you thrown out, and that if you do it, you are a dancing monkey pickup artist who begs for women. Whatever let's you sleep at night I guess.

Say what you like. Meanwhile I'll continue banging hot 20-something year olds at the ripe old age of 43.

Cheers

I'm just saying people don't understand the dance of seduction in public it all has to be done in code, innuendoes, looks, hints all that... you can't do pua in public unless your a haggot or wanna get ostracized.

I regular a buffet and there are women who work there that love me. I get free drinks, extra to go boxes, free meals, warm and personalized greetings, questions about my day, week... made a girl squeel in excitment to see me, made another do a spin...

I'm not saying don't socialize in public, I am a master at that. I'm just saying dont go out there pua style looking for a girlfriend.

 

[Spaz]

You give people too much credit, most people are idiots... *cheers!

I said in general.

That means that there are idiots out there but it's too small a figure to factor into the masses.

 

[AttackFormation]

Looking to step up my cold approach game.

Aside from the obvious (clubs/venues/bars) what do you all recommend or where do you find yourself doing the most cold approach? I know it’s a “in your daily life” sort of thing, but what about going out for the sole purpose of meeting women?

Additionally, what are thoughts on nofap in relation to any of this (if any)?

Cold approaching will depend on your psychology and looks.

If you genuinely don't care about getting rejected and awkward situations hundreds of times all the time, not because you tell yourself that but because you really don't care, then cold approaching as a lifestyle over and over and over and over and over will work for you mentally... regardless of setting. If you are hot and handsome then you'll experience more positive interactions and that will both make results come quicker and lessen the severity of rejection and awkwardness. My advice is to do what you enjoy doing and not do what you don't enjoy doing. I would also advice chatting with any women, rather than just women you want to "pick up", at least that's more enjoyable for me. I don't know of any particular venues, and I think if you were really mentally fine with cold approaching, venues wouldn't matter.

Nofap doesn't do anything for me. It's only when I have actual sex that I stop wanking, to save my libido performance for the woman.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

I'm just saying dont go out there pua style looking for a girlfriend.

You realize you can go out with the express purpose of meeting women, while not being a "PUA" right? This is a primary point I keep trying to make and it's just not sinking in for some people.

PUA: Mystery. Peacocking. Dancing monkey trying to entertain women and say whatever needs to be said to "create" attraction in them.

Normal, but enlightened Person: In daily life, and sometimes with the sole intent, goes out on a walk and enjoys interacting with strangers. If he sees someone he is attracted to, he will stop her and have a genuine interaction with her and if she qualifies herself to him, he will ask her out on a date.

If you are waiting in the subway and see a hot girl, you are allowed to talk to her. Shocking I know! And flirt with her. And ask her for her number. And ask her out on a date. 999/1000 won't immediately reach into their purse and spray you in the face with mace (I'm still waiting for that #1000). And if you are allowed to do all this while on your way to work, there is no difference in going out with the sole intent to do it. I've seen people argue that this will cause you to reek of desperation that girls will smell on you but I've not experienced this myself. My guess would be that the guys who are saying that are either too afraid to cold approach so they are making excuses, or they don't know how to hold a conversation like a man with a stranger they are interested in sleeping with so they had some bad experiences and rather than working to improve themselves, they simply throw out the excuse that it's "not a viable option."

I'm not saying don't socialize in public, I am a master at that.

Ah but there is a big difference between friendly chit-chat vs putting yourself at risk of rejection by asking a girl out and expressing your genuine intent and desire. You may get the girls at the buffet to give you free to-go boxes, but the guys who express their desire and intent (like me) are fvcking them.

 

[jaymbrs]

I feel so sorry for the guys who have succumbed to the social conditioning that it's morally wrong to have a genuine interaction with a stranger of the opposite sex in daylight, in public. Or the guys who are too insecure and scared of rejection to try it so they say it's wrong, foolish, will get you thrown out, and that if you do it, you are a dancing monkey pickup artist who begs for women. Whatever let's you sleep at night I guess.

Say what you like. Meanwhile I'll continue banging hot 20-something year olds at the ripe old age of 43.

Cheers

It's not just guys but women too. A lot of women have become social retards who have no idea how to react to a guy making small talk these days.

 

[In2theGame]

This topic will never die out because of the different perspectives of each guy. Many factors play a role in how they perceive things from where they grew up, where they live, the Women they've been exposed to in their lives and/or their experiences talking to Women. The guy who has been rejected consistently will have a dark view of approaching Women because he assumed rejection from previous experience and the opposite of that is true however changes can be made in how they view things. Self improvement will yield more confidence in approaching Women. If you have a beer belly, You aren't going to feel that great about interacting with a Sexy chick although some guys don't care and approach anyway and seduce that Women with charm and his charisma.

See a chick you find attractive > Go talk to her > Let her know you're attracted and your intentions on why you're talking to her > Exchange contact Info. Rinse and repeat.

Some guys think that going up and approaching Women they find attractive is silly and in their minds they are thinking of some PUA in their Youtube videos running across busy traffic just to approach. That to me is not smooth at all. You don't have to run and creep up on Women for the sake of an approach. That'll make you look like a clown. I'm talking about smoothing your style up,... Go walk calmly and tap her on the arm... "Excuse me, I don't mean to bother you but I wanted to come over and say Hi, What's your name?".... "Nice to meet you, I thought you were incredibly sexy" "Let's meetup sometime to get a drink, Let's exchange numbers" ......or some type of variation of that. This is how I always approached some hot ass Women and had a FWB. I'll consider posting some pics of the Women I was landing with this style later on.

 

[In2theGame]

It's not just guys but women too. A lot of women have become social retards who have no idea how to react to a guy making small talk these days.

This too. Thanks to Social Media. Women hardly actually talk nowadays unless its with their own girlfriends. Everything is texting and Social Media.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Looking to step up my cold approach game.

Aside from the obvious (clubs/venues/bars) what do you all recommend or where do you find yourself doing the most cold approach? I know it’s a “in your daily life” sort of thing, but what about going out for the sole purpose of meeting women?

Additionally, what are thoughts on nofap in relation to any of this (if any)?

Avoid porn. Its pretty cucked. Literally. At least, limit it lulz.

As for cold approach, chat up baeeees everywhere. Do so the way you would if you already smashed. Matched with indifference. Already hit it. Zero ****s. Repeat till d stops working or dead lololol.

Think Jet Li unleashed. Collars off. Instead of kicking ass, you're crushing baaaaae. Take D out. Get girls. Its game time all the time. Acquisition of compliance is the measuring stick. You break the ice. You bait her. She follows or next. Go get more girls.

Don't seek familiarity. Don't be domain dependent. Obv. Bars and clubs. Get creative. I picked up at a dog park. The gym coffee shop, grocery store, mall, street pickup, etc. Its ballsy only in contrast to the cuck society and abundance of low testosterone phaggotry we have today. Acquire competence on game not Mpua status. Much of pickup now is pseudo science self help and click bait marketing. Get the badics down. Beyond AA. The field knows all. Its your best indicator.

Lastly play the hand you are dealt. RooshV is driving through America. A life time of game and cannot find a wife. Its indicative of the **** cesspool SMP we have today. Your average girl today cannot cook or clean. Is combative. Covered in tattoos, high kills, probably a few abortions, and is majoring in lesbianism dance therapy and a minor in left handed puppetry.

She's not your girl. It's just your turn.

 

[AttackFormation]

This topic will never die out because of the different perspectives of each guy. Many factors play a role in how they perceive things from where they grew up, where they live, the Women they've been exposed to in their lives and/or their experiences talking to Women. The guy who has been rejected consistently will have a dark view of approaching Women because he assumed rejection from previous experience and the opposite of that is true however changes can be made in how they view things. Self improvement will yield more confidence in approaching Women. If you have a beer belly, You aren't going to feel that great about interacting with a Sexy chick although some guys don't care and approach anyway and seduce that Women with charm and his charisma.

See a chick you find attractive > Go talk to her > Let her know you're attracted and your intentions on why you're talking to her > Exchange contact Info. Rinse and repeat.

Some guys think that going up and approaching Women they find attractive is silly and in their minds they are thinking of some PUA in their Youtube videos running across busy traffic just to approach. That to me is not smooth at all. You don't have to run and creep up on Women for the sake of an approach. That'll make you look like a clown. I'm talking about smoothing your style up,... Go walk calmly and tap her on the arm... "Excuse me, I don't mean to bother you but I wanted to come over and say Hi, What's your name?".... "Nice to meet you, I thought you were incredibly sexy" "Let's meetup sometime to get a drink, Let's exchange numbers" ......or some type of variation of that. This is how I always approached some hot ass Women and had a FWB. I'll consider posting some pics of the Women I was landing with this style later on.

I think men and women are basically the same everywhere, but I have never seen or heard of anyone meeting through cold approaching around me nor do I think I've ever seen a cold approach happen. So while I don't think there would be (50% because people are the same, 50% because I don't want to make up excuses), I'm still curious if there might actually be a cultural difference based on location where cold approaching is maybe more in the culture of certain places than others. I'm from Stockholm, Sweden and have just never heard or seen cold approaching being a thing, but at the same time like I said, I don't want to make up excuses. And just yesterday I talked to a couple of girls that seemed to like me... who I assume were lesbians because they were holding hands, lol. But it was unrelated to picking them up, I am actually just quite gregarious.

The relations I've seen or heard other people establish, have all been through some sort of proximity - mutual friends and parties, both are club goers who enjoy the environment and music there (and the guy is experienced, knows what to look for and what he's doing), school. The only cases I am aware of that aren't like that and are still offline, are when women contact or invite the man through IOIs because they think he's hot/handsome, meaning it wasn't actually the man doing the first step. That's what leads me to speak about two different realities on this board, one if you're handsome/hot enough to really stand out to women, another if you're not. But this of course is just my limited experience which is why I would like to broaden it by hearing other perspectives.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

It's not just guys but women too. A lot of women have become social retards who have no idea how to react to a guy making small talk these days.

I agree with this, however, I have found that if you can hold and lead a conversation like a man, the women are shocked and become extremely turned on. If you know what to do, you don't (and shouldn't) have to be the one to keep the conversation going. You can play them like a puppet if you know how, and I mean that in a respectful way. She's not initiating questions or bringing up subjects? You just stay silent and look at her until she can't handle the pressure so she asks you something, or you decide to end the interaction. You are literally training her on how to have an adult interaction. This is very useful not just in cold approach, but in any situation, with anyone.

 

[jaymbrs]

I agree with this, however, I have found that if you can hold and lead a conversation like a man, the women are shocked and become extremely turned on. If you know what to do, you don't (and shouldn't) have to be the one to keep the conversation going. You can play them like a puppet if you know how, and I mean that in a respectful way. She's not putting in effort? You just stay silent and look at her until she can't handle the pressure so she asks you something. You are literally training her on how to have an adult interaction. This is very useful not just in cold approach, but in any situation, with anyone.

I find this difficult to do since I go off the reactions I receive. If she's being distant/uninterested/weirded out, it totally kills my vibe for her and I'll just stop and move on to the next one. Maybe that's something I should work on, maybe it's not. I personally don't like to gamble my time on a female who isn't responding like a normal person.

 

[corrector]

You realize you can go out with the express purpose of meeting women, while not being a "PUA" right? This is a primary point I keep trying to make and it's just not sinking in for some people.

PUA: Mystery. Peacocking. Dancing monkey trying to entertain women and say whatever needs to be said to "create" attraction in them.

Normal, but enlightened Person: In daily life, and sometimes with the sole intent, goes out on a walk and enjoys interacting with strangers. If he sees someone he is attracted to, he will stop her and have a genuine interaction with her and if she qualifies herself to him, he will ask her out on a date.

If you are waiting in the subway and see a hot girl, you are allowed to talk to her. Shocking I know! And flirt with her. And ask her for her number. And ask her out on a date. 999/1000 won't immediately reach into their purse and spray you in the face with mace (I'm still waiting for that #1000). And if you are allowed to do all this while on your way to work, there is no difference in going out with the sole intent to do it. I've seen people argue that this will cause you to reek of desperation that girls will smell on you but I've not experienced this myself. My guess would be that the guys who are saying that are either too afraid to cold approach so they are making excuses, or they don't know how to hold a conversation like a man with a stranger they are interested in sleeping with so they had some bad experiences and rather than working to improve themselves, they simply throw out the excuse that it's "not a viable option."

The thing is I don't think if you don't work out the nerves about approaching women that you won't even talk to a nice girl on the way to work. You'll just stay in your shell. However, if you are used to talking to girls like that, then it's an easier stretch to do that if you see someone on your way to work. If you don't cold approach because you feel desperate, then in that example of meeting someone on your way to work the desperate vibes will still come out because those vibes are based on how many hard options or positive experiences you've actually have, not on how or when you are approaching.

Either way, if you go out there with the sole purpose of talking to girls then that's like molting or like a snake shedding its skin and makes it easier to talk to women because you are working on the anxieties and phobias. Now, if you take this medication known as "Propranolol Hydrochloride" 40 mg after cold approaching, it should work on the brain to relieve the phobia/nerves aspect of cold approaching, so that during consolidation (i.e. how your brain assorts memories after you sleep), if you cold approach the NEXT day in this treatment, then I think that should work at making it easier to work on the mind to cold approach.