What is the worst thing a woman has done to you

[Trump]

I’d like to know if I’m too sensitive or need to man up.

I’ve asked a few members in other threads, but I’m curious, with the mentality of this site, what is the worst thing that a woman, either close to you or one that you have been in a relationship with, has done to you or your family and how did you respond to it, if at all?

 

[logicallefty]

Ex falsely accused me of domestic battery and made me loose my job as a cop. She was also a bigamist and married me when she had two other husbands. Story here.

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I joined this site in 2006 and am a 100% believer in the core values taught/discussed here. I wanted to share my story in hopes it helps someone else down the road. In 2009 I got married to a woman I met online, which was mistake numero uno. Ignoring all of the red flags ozzing from her was...

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[Epic Days]

What has been done “to me” is a mute point. I am responsible for anything that happens to me. This is critical for a man to understand.

“Look at what she did to me!”, natter, only sinks a man deeper. It’s a phase shift in reality. I don’t even think about those things.

Saying “It’s my own fault for dating that b!tch”, IS NOT even close for taking on the evolution of your life.
Saying, “Hahaha well, that was interesting.” Would be a symptom of finding the ground in a new reality.
It is this new ground where men are men.

She is not important enough to invade your world at the deepest levels. That belongs to you. She doesn’t belong there until you have mastered yourself. Then she gets rationed that delicious world of a sane man’s mind.

A sane man’s mind is a creative powerhouse full of wonders. A woman senses and knows this. A sane man, free from the feminine imperative, free from the reality of this failing social structure, is more delicious than a man can understand. It’s a world that she envies and wants for herself. She can’t create that because her mind rarely works that way.

She can never be a sane man with his faculties intact. Some women are to be pitied. They blindly seek what a man has and the man doesn’t even think about it because it’s natural.

Only a man can take her to her femininity. That sacred place where she can be a woman again and feel the safety of this natural state. No matter what was “done”, it’s as insignificant as a bug crawling along a sidewalk. Truly.

 

[Black Widow Void]

When you say "the mentality of this site" ... keep in mind that you are seeking input from many members that advise cheating on wives. But of course, they are victims and that makes it okay.

Okay here's mine: Over half my life ago when I moved out of my folks house, it was a little rough. I did not want them to have the satisfaction of knowing this.
I was working full time, a part time student and also wanting to have fun on the weekends. Back then my 'fun money' consisted of money I got from donating plasma. My girl at the time *knew* that I'd sooner live in a manhole that to give my folks the satisfaction that times were difficult.
After I broke up with her, at some point, she called my folks because she was "worried" about me (allowing her an excuse to spill the beans. ) I found out about this when I visited my folks Christmas Eve. On the inside, I was furious!

How did I react? I later excused myself and went to another room around her family's dinner time (certain that it was their Christmas celebration too) and called her up. Back when I broke up with her, I attempted to be as kind as possible. When I called her Christmas eve night, I left no emotional weakness unbruised. Looking back, my behavior was no different than hers. Plus this offered her some satisfaction that it got to me. Getting her upset (aka pay-back) at the time felt good though.

 

[zekko]

what is the worst thing that a woman, either close to you or one that you have been in a relationship with, has done to you or your family and how did you respond to it, if at all?

You haven't said what happened to you yet, hopefully it wasn't too horrible. I'm sure most of us have been hurt by women, it's part of life for the majority. But in most cases, women can't hurt you unless you give them the power to. And usually those cases are accompanied by mistakes WE make. That's why @Epic Days said he takes responsibility for what happens in his life.

The truth is these are all valuable learning experiences, part of what matures us and makes us adults. You can be bitter and wallow in the pain, or you can learn the lessons from them and move on with your life as a better, smarter, wiser person.

 

[Trump]

You haven't said what happened to you yet, hopefully it wasn't too horrible. I'm sure most of us have been hurt by women, it's part of life for the majority. But in most cases, women can't hurt you unless you give them the power to. And usually those cases are accompanied by mistakes WE make. That's why @Epic Days said he takes responsibility for what happens in his life.

My ex decided it was in her best interest to record our conversation on the phone about how badly I wanted a daughter with her so she could take it to her lawyer and sue me. She also wanted $2,000/month for life or she would have spread lies about me and sued me. Needless to say it was a nasty breakup.

My brother was taking pills for depression. His wife of 3 years hid them and threw them away. Then she pushed him off a 17 storey balcony and killed him. She made up stories to the police, the ambulance, the doctors, and the courts about how she was the innocent victim and taking a shower while it happened. They all sided with her and she was 100% innocent. She sold his 2 condos, cashed out and immediately married and had a child with another guy. That was a tough year.

But I’m likely too sensitive. Like sosuave says, concentrate on the important things in life.

 

[Spaz]

What has been done “to me” is a mute point. I am responsible for anything that happens to me. This is critical for a man to understand.

“Look at what she did to me!”, natter, only sinks a man deeper. It’s a phase shift in reality. I don’t even think about those things.

Saying “It’s my own fault for dating that b!tch”, IS NOT even close for taking on the evolution of your life.
Saying, “Hahaha well, that was interesting.” Would be a symptom of finding the ground in a new reality.
It is this new ground where men are men.

She is not important enough to invade your world at the deepest levels. That belongs to you. She doesn’t belong there until you have mastered yourself. Then she gets rationed that delicious world of a sane man’s mind.

A sane man’s mind is a creative powerhouse full of wonders. A woman senses and knows this. A sane man, free from the feminine imperative, free from the reality of this failing social structure, is more delicious than a man can understand. It’s a world that she envies and wants for herself. She can’t create that because her mind rarely works that way.

She can never be a sane man with his faculties intact. Some women are to be pitied. They blindly seek what a man has and the man doesn’t even think about it because it’s natural.

Only a man can take her to her femininity. That sacred place where she can be a woman again and feel the safety of this natural state. No matter what was “done”, it’s as insignificant as a bug crawling along a sidewalk. Truly.

Very true.

You have achieved a state that eludes many here.

 

[Trump]

What has been done “to me” is a mute point. I am responsible for anything that happens to me. This is critical for a man to understand.

“Look at what she did to me!”, natter, only sinks a man deeper. It’s a phase shift in reality. I don’t even think about those things.

Saying “It’s my own fault for dating that b!tch”, IS NOT even close for taking on the evolution of your life.
Saying, “Hahaha well, that was interesting.” Would be a symptom of finding the ground in a new reality.
It is this new ground where men are men.

She is not important enough to invade your world at the deepest levels. That belongs to you. She doesn’t belong there until you have mastered yourself. Then she gets rationed that delicious world of a sane man’s mind.

A sane man’s mind is a creative powerhouse full of wonders. A woman senses and knows this. A sane man, free from the feminine imperative, free from the reality of this failing social structure, is more delicious than a man can understand. It’s a world that she envies and wants for herself. She can’t create that because her mind rarely works that way.

She can never be a sane man with his faculties intact. Some women are to be pitied. They blindly seek what a man has and the man doesn’t even think about it because it’s natural.

Only a man can take her to her femininity. That sacred place where she can be a woman again and feel the safety of this natural state. No matter what was “done”, it’s as insignificant as a bug crawling along a sidewalk. Truly.

Epic, you make some good points. Essentially you are saying a man shouldn’t reveal anything about himself that a woman can use against him?

Don’t let her in, don’t reveal anything emotional, don’t talk about insecurities, just be focused on being zen and great and she should come along for the ride, that’s the gist?

 

[Spaz]

I too wanted to share something out of camaraderie-ship but my mind in all honesty can't come up with a single thing that a girl or woman did that was truly bad to me.

In retrospect, its always been my leadership failure that brought an end to that relationship.

 

[user43770]

Epic, you make some good points. Essentially you are saying a man shouldn’t reveal anything about himself that a woman can use against him?

Don’t let her in, don’t reveal anything emotional, don’t talk about insecurities, just be focused on being zen and great and she should come along for the ride, that’s the gist?

I'm picking up on the fact that you've never had a girlfriend. All good, bro. That's what game is for

 

[Epic Days]

Epic, you make some good points. Essentially you are saying a man shouldn’t reveal anything about himself that a woman can use against him?

Don’t let her in, don’t reveal anything emotional, don’t talk about insecurities, just be focused on being zen and great and she should come along for the ride, that’s the gist?

Or be selective on what you let her in on. If a loved one died it’s important to be there. You are you’re own master.

 

[Epic Days]

I'm picking up on the fact that you've never had a girlfriend. All good, bro. That's what game is for

Four children that I know of. Marriage. Girlfriends for short periods. I got pretty bored easily.

 

[AttackFormation]

The worst a woman has done to me is not that bad compared to what other guys will recount, but it still hurt and it was not fun. I contacted her online, we talked for months. She played along for me to fly to her continent to see her and stay there for a week, around new year's eve 2016-17. She knew I was coming, but I didn't say exactly when. When I texted that I'd arrived at the airport, she "switched", and started giving me short, avoidant, very slow answers to my texts. Days later when she finally came out to meet up (I didn't think she would at that point, and I'm not sure why she did) after questioning and changing my plans and despite my attempts to have a lively time, she made it a tense, bad time, snickered at my newest idea, turned her cheek, and then after a while dropped me off.

Red flags:
- No father. I thought since that's practically the same for me, it'd be common ground. As LARaiders85 would later explain to me, big mistake.
- Hints of playing with me throughout talking to her before, but somewhat subtle and easy to overlook for her sexy baits, the feeling of some common ground when talking about life, and wanting to make it work. By the time I booked my tickets I already knew this likely wasn't going to go too well and I was taking a big risk, but I chose to overlook it, especially as I'd already traveled internationally to see a girl successfully before in my own continent (who was a star at sucking d1ck). Big mistake. I don't know whether she really "switched" when I arrived, and if she did what the reasons were, or if it was always her intention to put me down.

Lesson learned:
- Never give away power to someone else over your own outcome. I formulated that sentence after I was dropped off, and keep in mind and repeat it to this day. It doesn't matter if she tempts you with things like this. When I "came to see her" I spent too much time and money and went too far away. I handed the outcome of what I was doing, to her. There wasn't a good way for me to convert my stay into something I would enjoy anyway, I wouldn't have gone if not for seeing her, and that was the mistake. Had this same thing happened in my home city I wouldn't even have made this post as I would not have risked any time or money. But I decided to give it a chance, and gave away power to her over my outcome. That's a mistake I'll never do again.

I've had some other mean or disrespectful stuff like anyone might, but nothing else in the same league as that.

 

[user43770]

Four children that I know of. Marriage. Girlfriends for short periods. I got pretty bored easily.

Wasn't speaking to you, but 4 childrens?

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

OP you're acting like a victim. Epic is on the right path, you only receive what you allow and you should only allow that which you're comfortable with. I've only ever diminished myself because I catered to other's needs rather than my own. I allowed my first gf to act out and be rude for a while(nothing crazy, she raised her voice and whined loudly). But after that I was pretty solid and only failed in relationships due to my own slip into self negligence(doing stuff with the gf when I should have focused on my craft) and excessive hedonism/relaxation(being content with enjoying lots of hot sex on demand). Because I take full responsibility for what I've allowed, nothing was 'done to me'. I own it all and my mistakes have made me who I am. And at the risk of soundy c0cky I'm a pretty independent, smart, risk taking, skilled, badass mofo. My life isn't an easy one but I wouldn't have it any other way. I needed to be rocked the way I was, otherwise I'd be cucked to some terrible woman. Instead I know exactly what I want/don't want and I'm not afraid to go without it. I'm grateful to all my exes. They opened my eyes and I'm better for it.

 

[Spaz]

OP you're acting like a victim. Epic is on the right path, you only receive what you allow and you should only allow that which you're comfortable with. I've only ever diminished myself because I catered to other's needs rather than my own. I allowed my first gf to act out and be rude for a while(nothing crazy, she raised her voice and whined loudly). But after that I was pretty solid and only failed in relationships due to my own slip into self negligence(doing stuff with the gf when I should have focused on my craft) and excessive hedonism/relaxation(being content with enjoying lots of hot sex on demand). Because I take full responsibility for what I've allowed, nothing was 'done to me'. I own it all and my mistakes have made me who I am. And at the risk of soundy c0cky I'm a pretty independent, smart, risk taking, skilled, badass mofo. My life isn't an easy one but I wouldn't have it any other way. I needed to be rocked the way I was, otherwise I'd be cucked to some terrible woman. Instead I know exactly what I want/don't want and I'm not afraid to go without it. I'm grateful to all my exes. They opened my eyes and I'm better for it.

Glad to hear this.

There's hope yet in this forum.

 

[Medina]

Become a transexual lesbian after moving to a different city with her

I just turned 18, very young. She was stunning and sweet

Then one day she sprouted out all this SJW nonsense

I laughed at first but soon it would change me forever

She shaved her head, grew out armpit hair, became obese on purpose

Naturally as a white male with a normal functioning brain I was booted out

An unfamiliar city with no where to go. That'll make or break you

That'll send you onto the road of redill and anti-feminism

I watched a butterfly transform into a disgusting slug

 

[user43770]

Become a transexual lesbian after moving to a different city with her

I just turned 18, very young. She was stunning and sweet

Then one day she sprouted out all this SJW nonsense

I laughed at first but soon it would change me forever

She shaved her head, grew out armpit hair, became obese on purpose

Naturally as a white male with a normal functioning brain I was booted out

An unfamiliar city with no where to go. That'll make or break you

That'll send you onto the road of redill and anti-feminism

I watched a butterfly transform into a disgusting slug

I love this post, man. Very original and thought provoking. I like how you space everything out

 

[zekko]

My ex decided it was in her best interest to record our conversation on the phone about how badly I wanted a daughter with her so she could take it to her lawyer and sue me.

I don't quite understand that, how can she sue you for wanting a daughter? But yeah, women love to use the legal system to do their dirty work for them.

Those are some nasty things. I have a cousin who was murdered by his wife and her new lover.

But like @EyeOnThePrize said, you can't be a victim. You can let it destroy you (in which case she wins), or you can bounce back stronger than ever. You're not dead, and you have resources, so you might as well live well. There's almost no situation where you can't get better results with a positive attitude than a negative one.

Chin up, young man. If there's one thing a woman can't stand is a guy who sits around and feels sorry for himself. Strength is a masculine trait, embrace it, you're naturally wired for it.

 

[Atom Smasher]

A sane man’s mind is a creative powerhouse full of wonders.

So true. Love it.

If only more men would grasp this. It is a truth that is all but forgotten.