As of this writing, I'm a little over a month away from turning 39 years old. I'm a little bit overweight (due to a medication thing, I do workout 5 days a week and eat cleanly) and have a shaved head. I'm not particularly good looking and, in fact, have a multitude of scars that come from having nearly 50 surgeries while having cancer as a kid. I can't lift weights with my left arm, the left side of my stomach appears to be a small "beer gut", a result from surgery from that time that gave what essentially is an untreatable medically induced hernia. I don't have much money and don't pretend to. I drive a 1999 Mercedes ML430 that I bought for around $3000 and I don't own my own house. I'm not sure what my credit score is, because I stopped buying into that system a long time ago.
Yet, I consistently have a steady flow of amazing women in my life. Oftentimes at the same time. Right now, there is a gorgeous redheaded pinup model (32), an unbelievably hot latina school teacher (28), an incredibly soulful (and incredibly beautiful) singer and musician (31), and a sexy & cute / deciding to explore her "wild side" blonde (22). I'm intimate with each of them on a regular basis. They all know about each other and/or know that I absolutely date others as well as them. (This is actually fairly chill for me, if you go back and read past posts of mine.)
How is this possible?
I wish I had a system, but I don't. I'm not selling anything.
It's tragic, but in a way it's perfect.
The truth is this:
My relationships with women is among the least interesting subjects in my life.
It's not that I don't love women. I really do. It doesn't mean that I don't thoroughly enjoy the ones that I spend time with. I absolutely do. They are fantastic. I love the feminine energy and love the dance that happens between us when we meet. I love the seduction phase, from first meeting to those first incredible encounters. I enjoy the conversations, etc. Yet, as much as I get a kick out of these things, my real interest lies in my work, what I feel I was put here to do.
While I have learned techniques in the past, do you know how many I use? Maybe 1 or 2. TOPS.
Here they are:
1) I remain unneedy and nonjudgemental
2) I show a passion for life and let them know that I find them attractive
That's it.
Oh and I dress well...wearing clothes I bought from the Salvation Army. (No joke, go to a place like that in a fairly upscale part of town...you'll find incredibly good clothes that have barely been worn at a 95%+ discount. )
I say these things to begin not to brag (there are MANY out there better than me), but because I hope it will inspire some of you that might still be struggling and let you know that it is possible to have this type of abundance in your life without all of the trappings that we are told that we will need to do so.
Something else entirely has begun to happen and it's what prompted me to write this.
I'm getting to a point where I've seen this type of interaction so many times that I can "see around corners" as my old martial arts teacher used to say. I'm able to see where things are going with reasonable accuracy (probably about 85-90%).
I've noticed that I can pick up a subtle sense when a woman is attracted or aroused, many of which are counterintuitive. I've also learned to very easily spot when a woman is trying to "play" me, and I refuse to buy-in. I've finally reached a stage in dating that I once heard referred to as "going through the world with dead shark eyes", although I don't remember who said it. It's a game, for sure, but I am more and more confident in my ability to duck and weave with the best of them.
However, I have that the idea of actually being able to "fall in love" is falling further and further away. Part of me (perhaps the old part) still looks for it, yet the rest of me has no desire to fall into such madness. I've seen the wreckage that it can bring. I have a different journey ahead of me, with many lovers whom I will find while on the road.
For those who say that you aren't fully alive until you do so, I strongly disagree. I'm finding more and more that for many, what we call love is a distraction from us realizing who we truly could be. I aim to pull down the barriers between myself and love, and oddly, with that has gone the need for a "great love". Instead, I have seen the call for me to make my life, my work, my story to be my "great love affair" with the world. I've found that by falling in love with this very existence, by living in deep gratitude through adding to the good and creating value for others, we can start to grow more than we ever thought possible.
My aim here is to suggest that while we are all so focused on our relationships (understandably so), we are distracting ourselves or cutting ourselves off from what we could be achieving in our own lives. It's like a type of spell that we fall under through our hormonal guidance system (don't underestimate that) and our culture, in general.
Don't get me wrong. I'm definitely not a MGTOW guy and I honestly believe in the study of attraction and seduction for the betterment of one's life experience. This isn't meant in any way as a call down or to disrespect anyone on this forum. Rather, it is to reiterate what has been mentioned many times here, which is that your life needs to be purposeful and so interesting to you that you "forget" that the girl hasn't texted you back for a few days. You need to not need them, but desire them...and give them incredible (high vibing energy) experiences when they decide to meet up with you.
In other words, tune into the signal of your mission. Your contribution to the world. Your health, your family, your friends, your career...THEN the girl (or girls).
Make your relationships with women among the least interesting subjects in your life.
