Ever play a pick up game of football? Maybe you like to go to big tourney paintball games? Maybe you did the boyscouts, frat, or anything that required someone to be a leader.
Now you ever been in a group or seen a group where everyone is trying to be the king? Everything just falls apart, you lose the game, you get shot up with a lot of paint and lose the game, and you don't get your merit badges....... Its sad to watch and even more pitiful if your involved.
Hey it pays to be a leader. They get the job done, problems get solved and you feel real good about yourself and so do the others around you because something got done, and done well.
Sounds good right.......
Well what about your social circles, what about your dating experiences?
It pays to be a leader.
Everyone has had a bad date, if not you either are a liar or never gone out on one. Everyone at one point did not start out in the spotlight of attention when you were around your friends. And if you are not at least being active and leading somewhere along the way, your sitting down watching everyone leave you behind.
Date like a leader!
Know what you want to do! Call the shots, you want to see a movie, take her to a movie. You like mini-golf, its game time. You go clubing, tell her to get dressed up. Take the conversation where you want it to go, don't wait on her to ask questions. Thats on you. Its on you to talk about her, share experiences that you have in common.
Of course if you don't...
She'll be rolling her eyes, she'll complain. She will sigh and she will most certainly not want a second date. Try calling up a girl wanting a date and not knowing what it is you want to do. Try letting her take the lead. You will sit there and you will watch waiting for you to man up. When she sees you do not, well you can book another date with someone else on saturday night, because I promise you, you will be free that evening.
Be a leader amongst your friends!
Take an active interest in what they are doing and saying, don't just contribute and wait on them to do something. Do like the Romans did, offer them "Bread and Circuses" In other words get them to do things that will interest them, get them to go to different clubs, and do different stuff on the weekends. Watch those that already do this, you will see the eyes of others follow them. You will see people be drawn to them, no just the guys but women too. Because they see this guy is something special, he is not a sheep, he is doesn't sit in the background. He makes the social circle spin, what woman doesn't want a man who can do that and treats the limelight just like sunlight when day breaks.
Become a leader!
1. Take a greater interest in what happens.
2. Make desicions.
3. Make suggestions.
4. Take a risk and stand out, especially when you have something to say.
5. Don't wait for oppurtunity, make oppurtunity.
6. Practice by doing. No one is born a leader, they all stumble at first then they take up the role after some experience by doing.
7. Confidence comes by doing.
8. Confidence comes by failing.
9. Confidence comes by succeding.
10. Think, Talk, Act with Indepedence.
12. Be friendly, sincere and understanding.
Note well that should you go around and bang your iron fists on the table demanding things and shouting orders that is not what I mean. Part of this is being able to be friendly in your manner, sincere with people, and of course subtle in how you move things. Temper yourself with understanding and compassion and be sincere. Nobody likes an arrogant busy-body barking orders. Look at your friends who do spin your social circles, see how they do it, the really good ones are interested in having a good time and bringing in their friends to do just that. But they never have to order, shout or demand.
Lead and take chances, you know when you are doing well when the eyes of others are upon you interested in you and what you'll do next!
-Grey Fox
Now you ever been in a group or seen a group where everyone is trying to be the king? Everything just falls apart, you lose the game, you get shot up with a lot of paint and lose the game, and you don't get your merit badges....... Its sad to watch and even more pitiful if your involved.
Hey it pays to be a leader. They get the job done, problems get solved and you feel real good about yourself and so do the others around you because something got done, and done well.
Sounds good right.......
Well what about your social circles, what about your dating experiences?
It pays to be a leader.
Everyone has had a bad date, if not you either are a liar or never gone out on one. Everyone at one point did not start out in the spotlight of attention when you were around your friends. And if you are not at least being active and leading somewhere along the way, your sitting down watching everyone leave you behind.
Date like a leader!
Know what you want to do! Call the shots, you want to see a movie, take her to a movie. You like mini-golf, its game time. You go clubing, tell her to get dressed up. Take the conversation where you want it to go, don't wait on her to ask questions. Thats on you. Its on you to talk about her, share experiences that you have in common.
Of course if you don't...
She'll be rolling her eyes, she'll complain. She will sigh and she will most certainly not want a second date. Try calling up a girl wanting a date and not knowing what it is you want to do. Try letting her take the lead. You will sit there and you will watch waiting for you to man up. When she sees you do not, well you can book another date with someone else on saturday night, because I promise you, you will be free that evening.
Be a leader amongst your friends!
Take an active interest in what they are doing and saying, don't just contribute and wait on them to do something. Do like the Romans did, offer them "Bread and Circuses" In other words get them to do things that will interest them, get them to go to different clubs, and do different stuff on the weekends. Watch those that already do this, you will see the eyes of others follow them. You will see people be drawn to them, no just the guys but women too. Because they see this guy is something special, he is not a sheep, he is doesn't sit in the background. He makes the social circle spin, what woman doesn't want a man who can do that and treats the limelight just like sunlight when day breaks.
Become a leader!
1. Take a greater interest in what happens.
2. Make desicions.
3. Make suggestions.
4. Take a risk and stand out, especially when you have something to say.
5. Don't wait for oppurtunity, make oppurtunity.
6. Practice by doing. No one is born a leader, they all stumble at first then they take up the role after some experience by doing.
7. Confidence comes by doing.
8. Confidence comes by failing.
9. Confidence comes by succeding.
10. Think, Talk, Act with Indepedence.
12. Be friendly, sincere and understanding.
Note well that should you go around and bang your iron fists on the table demanding things and shouting orders that is not what I mean. Part of this is being able to be friendly in your manner, sincere with people, and of course subtle in how you move things. Temper yourself with understanding and compassion and be sincere. Nobody likes an arrogant busy-body barking orders. Look at your friends who do spin your social circles, see how they do it, the really good ones are interested in having a good time and bringing in their friends to do just that. But they never have to order, shout or demand.
Lead and take chances, you know when you are doing well when the eyes of others are upon you interested in you and what you'll do next!
-Grey Fox
