My wife and I are in a Dom/sub lifestyle (in and out) as well as have a contract (not like the 50 shades bullcrap...that is a joke). Within the contract there is multiple sections (not going to list them all as there is 12 sections) like Dom rules, sub rules, guidelines, extension of contract, list of disciplinary actions/punishments,etc. Each rule/guideline has a list "violation scale" depending on the type of rule or guideline. I.E. "The sub shall respect the Dom at all times." That is a Severe scale 1, "The sub shall not ask for permission to orgasm while pleasing her Dom. The Dom will let his sub know when and if she may orgasm." That is Mediocre scale 2. The scale goes as follows: Minor Scale 1 (S1), Minor Scale 2 (S2), Mediocre S1, Mediocre S2, Severe S1 and Severe S2. When she violates a rule/guideline, the disciplinary action is determined by the severity of the scale. A Disciplinary Action list has the type of discipline listed based on the scale of the violation. If she commits more than one violation, then they are added up. If it exceeds Severe S2 on the scale, then we refer to the Punishments list. It is an almost full proof system (for us).
The issue at hand is this, recently she pitched one of her tantrums and violated 16 of the 51 rules/guidelines. After we added everything up, it came to 5 Punishments. I gave her the options of picking all five punishments from 7 types of punishments on the list, or we can go with the 8th type of punishment, which is the Dom decides a fitting punishment that is not on the list) and knock it down to just 2 punishments. She chose to pick her own. One of the punishment is loss of privileges for an amount of days not to exceed 7 days. So, the part that became the issue is this, I took the dogs out and when I came back in she was one her phone, wbich she is suppose to ask permission to do seeming she has lost her privileges. In doing so she violated two rules/guidelines. The part that i am having trouble deciding is this: I already do not like disciplining/punishing her, but she blalently violated the current punishment being administered. So do I add another punishment that is harsher than any of the five she picked from the list (to be administered today), or do I be lenient and just let it go?
Thoughts?
The issue at hand is this, recently she pitched one of her tantrums and violated 16 of the 51 rules/guidelines. After we added everything up, it came to 5 Punishments. I gave her the options of picking all five punishments from 7 types of punishments on the list, or we can go with the 8th type of punishment, which is the Dom decides a fitting punishment that is not on the list) and knock it down to just 2 punishments. She chose to pick her own. One of the punishment is loss of privileges for an amount of days not to exceed 7 days. So, the part that became the issue is this, I took the dogs out and when I came back in she was one her phone, wbich she is suppose to ask permission to do seeming she has lost her privileges. In doing so she violated two rules/guidelines. The part that i am having trouble deciding is this: I already do not like disciplining/punishing her, but she blalently violated the current punishment being administered. So do I add another punishment that is harsher than any of the five she picked from the list (to be administered today), or do I be lenient and just let it go?
Thoughts?
