She wants sex, no dating, no strings attached

[backseatjuan]

There is this woman, she's 30 I think, she says she's 30. She's my client, I fixed her phone, and she basically said fvck me. She's married, 2 children, husband. We went out almost, once, I took her out and her sister and my friend, her sister got nervous and they went away home. She's not the type of chick I consider sexy. Yesterday she come to my office and we kinda had sex on my chair. She had her period, and I don't like that, so I went soft in the middle of it.

I don't know men, I think if you don't chase it, it's not sweat. Free sex yes, she wants more, she's sending me porno of what she wants over whatsapp, and want to fvck everyday. Today I declined, because I wanted to sleep and took some pills so I'm limp. Christ, I can't even get it up on her lol.

I like to fvck in public and in the woods, in the car. So I'm gonna explore that, then pass her over to my friend, we'll see, maybe she wants an orgy. She doesn't take it in her ass, I asked, sucks only after shower, likes hard sex. But what I'm b1tching about here is that I did'nt chase her, she come over and said fvck me, and it's not that sweet as when you chase a woman. You know what I'm saying?

 

[Malcontent]

You don't really think she's that sexy. Maybe that's why it's not so "sweet." If she was a 10 it'd be an ego boost.

 

[sodbuster]

OR the fact she's cheating on her husband bothers you.... you know her character.....

 

[glass half full]

yep...and it could cost you somehow.

they say nothing good comes easy.

You'll have more fun in a different situation. That one could be a real pain.

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

sucks only after shower

Is this a thing? i am seeing someone that insists on not showering until AFTER. I thought it was just his fetish and maybe it is but i have a feeling it’s a guy thing i don’t get.

Also, why do some (most) men get so attached so quickly? Before I started dating (i was married forever) I always thought women were the “needy” ones that emotionally attached first. I am finding the opposite is true. Is this normal? Or an i dealing with damaged men?



Any insights?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Is this a thing? i am seeing someone that insists on not showering until AFTER. I thought it was just his fetish and maybe it is but i have a feeling it’s a guy thing i don’t get.

Also, why do some (most) men get so attached so quickly? Before I started dating (i was married forever) I always thought women were the “needy” ones that emotionally attached first. I am finding the opposite is true. Is this normal? Or an i dealing with damaged men?



Any insights?

Its easy to get attached to good *****. That's not a damaged man.

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

Its easy to get attached to good *****. That's not a damaged man.

Possibly. But remember, i am at the wall (39) and pretty disinterested in relationships. I sometimes wonder

Its easy to get attached to good *****. That's not a damaged man.

I have read on here that a women that gets too attached, too quickly is a red flag. i guess i see that as a red flag for a man too!

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Possibly. But remember, i am at the wall (39) and pretty disinterested in relationships. I sometimes wonder


I have read on here that a women that gets too attached, too quickly is a red flag. i guess i see that as a red flag for a man too!

A non player will naturally attach to the good pusszy after half a dozen times or so. He will love her and want to take care of her. Experience daters and players keep distance and have a few games they play to prevent feelings from developing. So whos3 brok3n?

 

[Billtx49]

Is this a thing? i am seeing someone that insists on not showering until AFTER. I thought it was just his fetish and maybe it is but i have a feeling it’s a guy thing i don’t get.

Any insights?

In ‘some’ situations a man showering only after sex can be an indication of cheating. i.e., he has sex with you, wash's your scent off, goes home and gets in bed with another woman…

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

In some situations a man showering only after sex can be an indication of cheating. i.e., he has sex with you, wash's your scent off, goes home and gets in bed with another woman…

We are in an open relationship so that’s not it. If he’s been with another female i do make him wash beforehand because i am grossed out. His primary GF has a fishy scent. ewww.

He says he likes me to have his “scent.” It kind of makes sense. But it’s also a little gross. I doubt he’s doing what you suggest because he’s 57 and doesn’t recover from orgasm on the same day. He tells me to not wash my sheets for a day too. Lol. i am still thinking it’s a fetish thing or maybe some male hypnosis?

 

[Billtx49]

His primary GF has a fishy scent. ewww.

He says he likes me to have his “scent.”

So he showers after you, but not after her…

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

So he showers after you, but not after her…

It’s a bit more complex than that. Our thing is i bathe him afterwards with me. It’s just our thing. We have an agreement i won’t do sexual stuff with him the day of or after he’s been with another (because i get gross out by the thought and because he needs time to recover). So he will come to me after a few days of showering but if it’s end of day he’s not washed and has been sweating etc. His junk still smells. Even after i wash him (after me). I don’t know what’s up. Maybe it’s his scent down there and i am blaming the chicks. loll. But after he is with his primary girl he always comes to see me to “reconnect “. So we are naked together but not sexual. This might not make sense but it’s a different kind of relationship.

 

[Billtx49]

It’s a bit more complex than that. Our thing is i bathe him afterwards with me. It’s just our thing. We have an agreement i won’t do sexual stuff with him the day of or after he’s been with another (because i get gross out by the thought and because he needs time to recover). So he will come to me after a few days of showering but if it’s end of day he’s not washed and has been sweating etc. His junk still smells. Even after i wash him (after me). I don’t know what’s up. Maybe it’s his scent down there and i am blaming the chicks. loll. But after he is with his primary girl he always comes to see me to “reconnect “. So we are naked together but not sexual. This might not make sense but it’s a different kind of relationship.

Just cook him dinner then…

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

Just cook him dinner then…

Just cook him dinner then…

He buys dinners. He’s a plate for me, not a BF.

 

[AJ84]

It’s a bit more complex than that. Our thing is i bathe him afterwards with me. It’s just our thing. We have an agreement i won’t do sexual stuff with him the day of or after he’s been with another (because i get gross out by the thought and because he needs time to recover). So he will come to me after a few days of showering but if it’s end of day he’s not washed and has been sweating etc. His junk still smells. Even after i wash him (after me). I don’t know what’s up. Maybe it’s his scent down there and i am blaming the chicks. loll. But after he is with his primary girl he always comes to see me to “reconnect “. So we are naked together but not sexual. This might not make sense but it’s a different kind of relationship.

Is he uncut? If that’s not rolled back and cleaned properly it will smell bad.

Also I hope you’re using a condom.

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

Is he uncut? If that’s not rolled back and cleaned properly it will smell bad.

Also I hope you’re using a condom.

He’s cut. He sleeps with 2-6 women (i don’t know exactly) so yes he wears a condom. And i use mouthwash right after, lol. How romantic. Even then i get tested every year. He’s 57 so he should know how to clean by now. But i wonder. I maybe should Google about men’s health in case the issue is him. Honestly i never thought of that and blamed his (much older) primary for having constant yeasts.

 

[Billtx49]

Honestly i never thought of that and blamed his (much older) primary for having constant yeasts.

Another common cause of a fishyvaginal odor is a yeast infection. ..
You mention constant yeasts and he wants to shower after sex, does that tell you anything…

 

[RickTheToad]

Is this a thing? i am seeing someone that insists on not showering until AFTER. I thought it was just his fetish and maybe it is but i have a feeling it’s a guy thing i don’t get.

Also, why do some (most) men get so attached so quickly? Before I started dating (i was married forever) I always thought women were the “needy” ones that emotionally attached first. I am finding the opposite is true. Is this normal? Or an i dealing with damaged men?



Any insights?

Depends on what each of your goals are. As long as two have not discussed exclusivity, then it's open to interpretation. As for a lady sleeping around, that all fine and good, just make sure you are well aware of the risks. As for the wall, a lady who eats healthy and exercises moderately, doesn't excess over alcohol and avoids drugs; the wall can be delayed.

Define neediness you see in your dudes you're dating/fvcking?

 

[RickTheToad]

Another common cause of a fishyvaginal odor is a yeast infection. ...

Nah, I have one better. BV. Bacterial Vaginosis. Some ladies that go through a lot of dudes will have a change in their vaginal flora. BV, while it cannot harm a dude, it can wreck a lady's vaginal flora. Causing a lot of pain itching, smells and white or green discharge. If a lady gets it more than once, it could become chronic. When it's chronic, you're fvcked; and not in a good way. I dated a lady once like this. We didn't last because we couldn't have sex due to BV. I didn't really know what BV was until I researched it years later. There is no cure. Also, it can make it easier to catch other sexual infections.

Again, for ladies who like to play around, there can be some serious consequences for playing the field.

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

Depends on what each of your goals are. As long as two have not discussed exclusivity, then it's open to interpretation. As for a lady sleeping around, that all fine and good, just make sure you are well aware of the risks. As for the wall, a lady who eats healthy and exercises moderately, doesn't excess over alcohol and avoids drugs; the wall can be delayed.

Define neediness you see in your dudes you're dating/fvcking?

Everything is discussed and out in the open. I am aware of the risks, which is why i don’t sleep around as much as i would like. condoms don’t even prevent everything like HPV and most men have that.

i was being facetious about “the wall.” I don’t believe there’s a certain age for that. Men and women hit a wall when they become bitter and angry imo. I have never worn makeup, tanned, i eat right and i look young and i am not bitter, but happy. So i’ll never hit the so called wall!

As far as clingy and needy, i am up front with men i see in the beginning that i am not looking for anything too serious. No implied dates, marriage or monogamy. It’s just not where i am at now. they ALL say “oh cool no problem “ and seem thrilled. After a few dates (sometimes ONE) they get needy by texting a lot, saying how great it was and i am. And trust me, i’m not great. I’m flawed and annoying like all of us. I have to keep playing defense saying and say “i will let you when i am free” because they ask about another get together too often. They are okay at first that i am non exclusive and then they ask about the other guys and get weird. I feel like i must somehow be attracting damaged men. i am trying to figure it out. It may be because i am being too emotional with them. Too loving. But that’s who I am.