it is crazy? you are what you think and belive, if you don't think, you are nothing, just a meat bag who do nothing, self control and something knowing how to take a step back and look at the situation on a emontionless thinking then to help you a lot over the time
using the school example, if you are smart and go well in school, you will hate school, becasue you understand everything you need to get a grade is memorize what that idiot upfront is vomiting on you, and spill in back at him in a way he will be content, sometimes you even start to notice to get a passing grade you don't need to be smart, good or even know, you jsut need to spill it like the teacher want to heard
so pretty much its what we do, we try to please others to get what we want, the true power we want and search for is the one we can stop trying to please and still get what we want, and that is what options come into play you know people are sh!t so you don't complain about it, it will change nothing, you just search for someone who are smart enough to keep sh!t to the minimum with you, so if a girl is not doing what you was hoping you don't complain to her she is not doing it, you replace her, you are not pleasing her to get what you want you are looking for a girl who will please you to get what you want
also lets keep thing here civil, I could skip 2 pages of 2 posters who are looking like little girls fighting each other about who is prettier