jnMissouri
Master Don Juan
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Background: this girl and I fight all the time. It's her up and down drama. I've been told a thousand times in the last 8 months that she's blocking me, don't ever text her again, etc. She ends up texting back within days or hours and we make up. Longest we went without talking was 12 days after a major fight. Usually it's a day or two. Most of the time hours.
Long story short we were supposed to meet up in Oklahoma for her to introduce me to her family at the reunion. She told them I was coming, I bought the ticket. I've been trying to get her to come back for a few months, she left town to go see her family like she usually does every year but stayed longer due to issues she has in her life. She ended up having to go to court for her step son's BS from her ex husband.
We fought, I told her she needs to show me that she is coming back and put effort into the relationship, show me by having me fly down to Florida to see her, etc. She came back saying you call me names, blah blah blah, that's how you really feel about me, I'm staying here, blah blah blah, these are my terms, your gf needs to move out 3 months before I come back if I'm really the one you want and I'm your real gf and you need to prove she hasn't been back before I come back. I'm blocking you, no need to reply...(except how would I respond to her terms if she blocked me...she never does, it's the same pattern over and over again...).
So I didn't respond. Next day she pretends to send me accidental texts intended for her lady friend based on the wording about how she'll be fine, she always is, blah blah blah, thanks for the soup. It was three texts several minutes apart to bait me to text. I didn't.
Third day she finally sends me a long text saying she is sorry for her stuff but what about my stuff, she does really love me obviously, etc. She wants my gf gone before she comes back etc. I didn't respond...
So she sends me an email 8 hours after that (because she thinks I blocked her, I have told her I would before) telling me fine you win, I have to go do this court thing which is why I'm flaking on this thing, why don't you have your gf move out and then fly down and drive me back (yet she could have come and seen me when she had nothing else going on, she suggested dates even on her own but she didn't because she said she felt like I was going to **** her for a week then say it's not going to work. I told her I already ****ed her for 3 months when she was here, I want her long term...
NOTE: I ignored her for 3 days and she kept reaching out daily after claiming goodbye, she was blocking me, yet giving me her terms. Then she kept reaching out over those three days and with each message she was more submissive...went back on her terms...said she would do things my way once we drive back together.
SO I told her I want her to come here to see me first since I don't want to wait another three months only to have her flake again. That I wouldn't buy another ticket to fly to her and drive back with her until then (I got most of that money back). I told her that I'd give her the money for her ticket when she arrives and pay her expenses while here. She had offered proof of the court order in her email so I said sure let's see it. I also told her that if she can't come and see me first this is goodbye, because I don't tolerate flakiness, that I don't want to talk anymore unless it's about when to pick her up at the airport, etc.
That was 48 hours ago. Not a peep since then. Either she is ghosting me back because I ghosted her for 3 days or she is waiting to see if I chase her, which she likes (she told me before). I don't think it's over, we've had FAR FAR worse arguments and always end up back together talking. But I'm debating if she'll reach out again or if I should and if so, what to say.
Everyone of my friends says she'll reach out again, she always does. Although I broke no contact once when it was my **** up. It brought us closer together. She knows I'm way better than her and have options. I doubt she will walk away so easily. I'm trying to figure out what is going on in her head and what she is trying to do by not responding and how to play it.
Mind you, I have been no angel. I was hard on her emotionally, lied, and she doesn't like that I am sleeping with another woman who lives with me. She is jealous of her, it's obvious, it comes up a lot. She wants her gone before she comes back.
Long story short we were supposed to meet up in Oklahoma for her to introduce me to her family at the reunion. She told them I was coming, I bought the ticket. I've been trying to get her to come back for a few months, she left town to go see her family like she usually does every year but stayed longer due to issues she has in her life. She ended up having to go to court for her step son's BS from her ex husband.
We fought, I told her she needs to show me that she is coming back and put effort into the relationship, show me by having me fly down to Florida to see her, etc. She came back saying you call me names, blah blah blah, that's how you really feel about me, I'm staying here, blah blah blah, these are my terms, your gf needs to move out 3 months before I come back if I'm really the one you want and I'm your real gf and you need to prove she hasn't been back before I come back. I'm blocking you, no need to reply...(except how would I respond to her terms if she blocked me...she never does, it's the same pattern over and over again...).
So I didn't respond. Next day she pretends to send me accidental texts intended for her lady friend based on the wording about how she'll be fine, she always is, blah blah blah, thanks for the soup. It was three texts several minutes apart to bait me to text. I didn't.
Third day she finally sends me a long text saying she is sorry for her stuff but what about my stuff, she does really love me obviously, etc. She wants my gf gone before she comes back etc. I didn't respond...
So she sends me an email 8 hours after that (because she thinks I blocked her, I have told her I would before) telling me fine you win, I have to go do this court thing which is why I'm flaking on this thing, why don't you have your gf move out and then fly down and drive me back (yet she could have come and seen me when she had nothing else going on, she suggested dates even on her own but she didn't because she said she felt like I was going to **** her for a week then say it's not going to work. I told her I already ****ed her for 3 months when she was here, I want her long term...
NOTE: I ignored her for 3 days and she kept reaching out daily after claiming goodbye, she was blocking me, yet giving me her terms. Then she kept reaching out over those three days and with each message she was more submissive...went back on her terms...said she would do things my way once we drive back together.
SO I told her I want her to come here to see me first since I don't want to wait another three months only to have her flake again. That I wouldn't buy another ticket to fly to her and drive back with her until then (I got most of that money back). I told her that I'd give her the money for her ticket when she arrives and pay her expenses while here. She had offered proof of the court order in her email so I said sure let's see it. I also told her that if she can't come and see me first this is goodbye, because I don't tolerate flakiness, that I don't want to talk anymore unless it's about when to pick her up at the airport, etc.
That was 48 hours ago. Not a peep since then. Either she is ghosting me back because I ghosted her for 3 days or she is waiting to see if I chase her, which she likes (she told me before). I don't think it's over, we've had FAR FAR worse arguments and always end up back together talking. But I'm debating if she'll reach out again or if I should and if so, what to say.
Everyone of my friends says she'll reach out again, she always does. Although I broke no contact once when it was my **** up. It brought us closer together. She knows I'm way better than her and have options. I doubt she will walk away so easily. I'm trying to figure out what is going on in her head and what she is trying to do by not responding and how to play it.
Mind you, I have been no angel. I was hard on her emotionally, lied, and she doesn't like that I am sleeping with another woman who lives with me. She is jealous of her, it's obvious, it comes up a lot. She wants her gone before she comes back.
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