Plate Has A Male Freind Stopping Over At Her House!

[soulforge]

“Well I’m still up, so come over”.

Nah bruv... I'm going to tell her straight up, if she is expecting a LTR then guys should not be stopping with her.

Or I may tell her, hey its cool... As long as your happy with my attractive females stopping with me at my house

 

[lamath]

How do you keep frame in this situation?

Let her know my boundaries or play the game back?

She sent this text message...

Her - I'm in the taxi going home, wish I was going home with you x

Not sure i got best advice here.

I would not play back, its best to discuss the mater in a calm and flexible way imo.
Dont forget that its no ltr yet. However if it get there i would not tolerate the guy sleeping at her place.

 

[Toddz]

If she's a plate, then what she does in her free time shouldn't concern you.

If you two become exclusive, then you can state boundaries. Until then, I would say absolutely nothing.

 

[soulforge]

If she's a plate, then what she does in her free time shouldn't concern you.

If you two become exclusive, then you can state boundaries. Until then, I would say absolutely nothing.

Well we are on the verge of becoming exclusive.

She just rang me.. I should not have answered the call... she was feeling dread, like she knew i wasn't happy about the situation.

I should have left her in a state of dread.... now that I answered, she must be feeling relieved.

Maybe she is planning to bang this geek, and she needed to talk to me, so she can find out that I am still talking to her.

 

[lamath]

Well we are on the verge of becoming exclusive.

She just rang me.. I should not have answered the call... she was feeling dread, like she knew i wasn't happy about the situation.

I should have left her in a state of dread.... now that I answered, she must be feeling relieved.

Maybe she is planning to bang this geek, and she needed to talk to me, so she can find out that I am still talking to her.

Yeah man, not answering would have had that effect. Probably a good way to show her that you are displease and ngaf

But from what she is doing i can see that her IL is very high, so i would not be too hard on her.

 

[soulforge]

Yeah man, not answering would have had that effect. Probably a good way to show her that you are displease and ngaf

But from what she is doing i can see that her IL is very high, so i would not be too hard on her.

Bruv I should have left her in a state of dread, till atleast the morning...

I could have just said, I was asleep when you called.

Only for her to realise, she could EASILY lose me, by having a dude stop over with her.

 

[stovepipe]

But I don't see the point in playing games?

Speaking from experience once a chick gets in your head where you contemplate playing her games it's better to exit. I made that mistake once and I will never make it again.

 

[lamath]

Bruv I should have left her in a state of dread, till atleast the morning...

I could have just said, I was asleep when you called.

Funny thing is that state of dread would actually increase her attraction to you.
Im too much of a good guy and would have done the same as you.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

No bruv, this isn't the model... This is the one who wasn't messaging me much. Suddenly she wants a relationship with me.

I mean the guy looks a freak, but If standards and expectations are not set now, she will think it is FINE to have other men stopping over.

She will think its okay, to have loads of dudes around her.


And your right... Who is to say, he isn't a sugar daddy...

Yep. He might have been hitting. Still might.

 

[SH03C]

She sent me a picture of him.... Holy Fvck.... He is one UGLY dude.

I don't think I need to worry about him banging her lol

You never know the fetish that lies within these days. Maybe she likes quirky bald dudes that go ham between her legs? Maybe.

 

[Toddz]

Well we are on the verge of becoming exclusive.

She just rang me.. I should not have answered the call... she was feeling dread, like she knew i wasn't happy about the situation.

I should have left her in a state of dread.... now that I answered, she must be feeling relieved.

Maybe she is planning to bang this geek, and she needed to talk to me, so she can find out that I am still talking to her.

Yeah shouldn't have answered the phone. Whatever though, it's not a big deal. I would not confront her or discuss anything about this guy though. If you guys become exclusive and she is hanging with other guys then you can object to such behavior. Until then remain cool as fuk and continue to spin plates.

 

[soulforge]

You never know the fetish that lies within these days. Maybe she likes quirky bald dudes that go ham between her legs? Maybe.

Or maybe some old creepy fuk, who throws her some cash occasionally and she sucks him off...

You don't know what woman are capable of these days.

 

[Toddz]

It already sounds like you and her communicate WAY too much. I would pull back a little simply to change the dynamic. I'm currently sleeping with 4 women and barely communicate with any of them.

 

[soulforge]

Funny thing is that state of dread would actually increase her attraction to you.
Im too much of a good guy and would have done the same as you.

Well I messaged her back with this text...

Me - That was an odd phone call x

Her - Really? Maybe I have had one too many wines, and I am missing you.x

Now I will just ignore her... AND let the DREAD continue.


I agree with Lamath and Stovepipe... Absolutely no point in playing games or payback.

I will let her know my boundaries... she can either operate within my frame.. or I will just drop her azz

 

[lamath]

Come on....
If a man is so insecure to think that the man friend might be hitting her.

Or maybe some old creepy fuk, who throws her some cash occasionally and she sucks him off...

You don't know what woman are capable of these days.

This is the wrong mindset. Idc if she is hitting him or not.
I would be like im awsome and good looking no way that passive afc hit my women

 

[soulforge]

It already sounds like you and her communicate WAY too much. I would pull back a little simply to change the dynamic. I'm currently sleeping with 4 women and barely communicate with any of them.

Bruv I rarely communicate with this chick... a couple of text messages once every 3-4 days, and that is usually to set up dates.

 

[wifehunter]

Sh!t test. Give it time. The truth always comes out.

 

[AJ84]

Well I messaged her back with this text...

Me - That was an odd phone call x

Her - Really? Maybe I have had one too many wines, and I am missing you.x

Now I will just ignore her... AND let the DREAD continue.


I agree with Lamath and Stovepipe... Absolutely no point in playing games or payback.

I will let her know my boundaries... she can either operate within my frame.. or I will just drop her azz

But purposely ignoring her is playing a game. Letting someone know what the boundaries are sometimes means communicating them.
You ignoring her doesn’t mean she will get the meaning behind that. I mean, she thinks it’s ok to have some man sleep at her place while she pushes for a ltr with you. This girl may need stuff communicated more directly lol.

 

[Robert28]

Speaking from experience once a chick gets in your head where you contemplate playing her games it's better to exit. I made that mistake once and I will never make it again.

Yep cause you’ll never win and you’ll always be second guessing everything you do or she does or how to respond. When you have to think about everything all the time that’s not a good sign.

 

[John9999]

Whats your opinion guys.

She claims he is an EX business partner.. She has known him for twenty years or more. She claims they are strictly freinds.

She is out with him tonight having a couple of drinks, and he will be stopping at her house TONIGHT

She called me tonight and told me all about him... She wants me to meet him very soon.

She also claims they meet up only 2-3 times a year and sleep in separate rooms!

The CRAZY thing is.. She is pushing for a relationship with me.

Do I let this chick know, she needs to DROP the male freinds living at her house.... Or just LEAVE things be as they are!

Oh my God the crap women come up with. I’ll tell you how to put it into this immediately. Ask her how she would feel if a woman who you claim to of known forever would be coming to stay at your place to her three times a year. Case closed