Plate Has A Male Freind Stopping Over At Her House!

[soulforge]

Whats your opinion guys.

She claims he is an EX business partner.. She has known him for twenty years or more. She claims they are strictly freinds.

She is out with him tonight having a couple of drinks, and he will be stopping at her house TONIGHT

She called me tonight and told me all about him... She wants me to meet him very soon.

She also claims they meet up only 2-3 times a year and sleep in separate rooms!

The CRAZY thing is.. She is pushing for a relationship with me.

Do I let this chick know, she needs to DROP the male freinds living at her house.... Or just LEAVE things be as they are!

 

[soulforge]

She sent me a picture of him.... Holy Fvck.... He is one UGLY dude.

I don't think I need to worry about him banging her lol

 

[lamath]

Poor guy lollll.

Would still not accept this from a LTR.
This is how you get into their frame, they make you think **** like this is acceptable.

 

[AJ84]

She sent me a picture of him.... Holy Fvck.... He is one UGLY dude.

I don't think I need to worry about him banging her lol

Ex business partner or ex sugar daddy????

I’m only half joking, be wary. This is the model chick right? I’m sure he would like to tap her. Not saying she would but it’s a bit weird that he stays over. Are there no hotels available?

 

[soulforge]

Poor guy lollll.

Would still not accept this from a LTR.
This is how you get into their frame, they make you think **** like this is acceptable.

Exactly bruv.. Even though he looks like a fukin MONSTER loool... She needs to realise EARLY on, guys stopping at her house is NOT acceptable.

If you fall into her frame and accept this kinda shyte, soon she will have OTHER men living with her.


Best to deal with it now... Let her know what my boundaries are... If she doesn't like it.... She can WALK

 

[soulforge]

Ex business partner or ex sugar daddy????

I’m only half joking, be wary. This is the model chick right? I’m sure he would like to tap her. Not saying she would but it’s a bit weird that he stays over. Are there no hotels available?

No bruv, this isn't the model... This is the one who wasn't messaging me much. Suddenly she wants a relationship with me.

I mean the guy looks a freak, but If standards and expectations are not set now, she will think it is FINE to have other men stopping over.

She will think its okay, to have loads of dudes around her.


And your right... Who is to say, he isn't a sugar daddy...

 

[lamath]

Exactly bruv.. Even though he looks like a fukin MONSTER loool... She needs to realise EARLY on, guys stopping at her house is NOT acceptable.

If you fall into her frame and accept this kinda shyte, soon she will have OTHER men living with her.


Best to deal with it now... Let her know what my boundaries are... If she doesn't like it.... She can WALK

Yeah man its obvious guy is not a threat and he might even be a all around good guy.
But this is where boundaries must be establish.
However she is not your ltr yet. But i would let her know if it was to happened it would not be acceptable.

 

[soulforge]

Yeah man its obvious guy is not a threat and he might even be a all around good guy.
But this is where boundaries must be establish.
However she is not your ltr yet. But i would let her know if it was to happened it would not be acceptable.

This is right... Judging by his looks, he seems like a beta faggit....

However if we go into LTR territory, what next? Another male freind starts living with her, trying to bang her.


I will let her know about my boundaries... If she don't like it... I'll just ghost her.

In a LTR a dude should not have to deal with this kinda shyte

 

[lamath]

This is right... Judging by his looks, he seems like a beta faggit....

However if we go into LTR territory, what next? Another male freind starts living with her, trying to bang her.


I will let her know about my boundaries... If she don't like it... I'll just ghost her.

In a LTR a dude should not have to deal with this kinda shyte

Yep and if they are not bright enough to do it by themself they are not ltr material.

 

[Robert28]

You should be very concerned. He’s the very definition of Chad.

Sorry, I couldn’t say that with a straight face. But I tried.

 

[soulforge]

You should be very concerned. He’s the very definition of Chad.

Sorry, I couldn’t say that with a straight face. But I tried.

Yeh man... biches are ruthless these days.. If she wants a LTR, then she best realise, dudes stopping over is NEVER acceptable.

She will either agree with me... or NEXT

 

[Robert28]

In this day and age you can’t really say anything about him coming over. But what you can do is play along. “Cool well y’all have fun, im going out with my friend tonight for her birthday.” Doesn’t have to be exactly like that but get your point across that you’re free to hangout with the opposite sex too. Watch your phone blow up all night lol

 

[soulforge]

In this day and age you can’t really say anything about him coming over. But what you can do is play along. “Cool well y’all have fun, im going out with my friend tonight for her birthday.” Doesn’t have to be exactly like that but get your point across that you’re free to hangout with the opposite sex too. Watch your phone blow up all night lol

Problem with that is, it becomes a GAME

Who has time to play games like that? Either she gets with the programme or she can fuk off.

I have pictures of myself on nights out with OTHER chicks... I could easily tell her I am out drinking with some female friends and send her some pics of me with hb8

Do i really want to play games? Or set boundaries.

 

[Robert28]

Problem with that is, it becomes a GAME

Who has time to play games like that? Either she gets with the programme or she can fuk off.

I have pictures of myself on nights out with OTHER chicks... I could easily tell her I am out drinking with some female friends and send her some pics of me with hb8

Do i really want to play games? Or set boundaries.

The thing is she’s ALREADY begun the games if she’s telling you another guy is coming to stay at her house. She chose to play the game when she didn’t have to, now it’s up to you to show her she can easily lose you over something stupid by your actions of acting unfazed but yet still make a point. I haven’t met a woman in the last 10 years that hasn’t played the game with me or attempted to, whether they do it subconsciously or on purpose. Some will stop with the games eventually while others the whole damn relationship is a game.

 

[lamath]

Problem with that is, it becomes a GAME

Who has time to play games like that? Either she gets with the programme or she can fuk off.

I have pictures of myself on nights out with OTHER chicks... I could easily tell her I am out drinking with some female friends and send her some pics of me with hb8

Do i really want to play games? Or set boundaries.

Only way to win here is not to play her game/keep your frame.

 

[Robert28]

Only way to win here is not to play her game/keep your frame.

Yep that too

 

[soulforge]

The thing is she’s ALREADY begun the games if she’s telling you another guy is coming to stay at her house. She chose to play the game when she didn’t have to, now it’s up to you to show her she can easily lose you over something stupid by your actions of acting unfazed but yet still make a point. I haven’t met a woman in the last 10 years that hasn’t played the game with me or attempted to, whether they do it subconsciously or on purpose. Some will stop with the games eventually while others the whole damn relationship is a game.

Well she called me and told me about him, while she was out with him.

Now she messaged me, and told me she is getting a taxi home.

Maybe she just wanted to be honest and let me know? Instead of keeping it a secret.

She also wants me to meet him... Maybe she wants me to be OKAY about the whole thing by meeting him.

I can easily do exactly the same to her, have some chick stop at my house with me, let her know that I am out getting drunk with her, and send her some pics.

Only difference is... my female friends are good looking.

But I don't see the point in playing games?

 

[soulforge]

Only way to win here is not to play her game/keep your frame.

How do you keep frame in this situation?

Let her know my boundaries or play the game back?

She sent this text message...

Her - I'm in the taxi going home, wish I was going home with you x

 

[Robert28]

Well she called me and told me about him, while she was out with him.

Now she messaged me, and told me she is getting a taxi home.

Maybe she just wanted to be honest and let me know? Instead of keeping it a secret.

She also wants me to meet him... Maybe she wants me to be OKAY about the whole thing by meeting him.

I can easily do exactly the same to her, have some chick stop at my house with me, let her know that I am out getting drunk with her, and send her some pics.

Only difference is... my female friends are good looking.

But I don't see the point in playing games?

What I’d do is arrange a night where SHE can meet all of your attractive female friends or at least some of them. Let her see you interact with them. It’s a very subtle way of reminding your woman how high value you are and that any one of them could be a threat if she messes up.

 

[Robert28]

How do you keep frame in this situation?

Let her know my boundaries or play the game back?

She sent this text message...

Her - I'm in the taxi going home, wish I was going home with you x

“Well I’m still up, so come over”.