Should i break things off?

[CharlieBrown]

So ive worked with this girl for about 10mo. It wasnt until the last couole months I pursued her. She played hard to get at 1st, but now ive been with her for a little over a month. Anyways she told me shes only been with one other guy. Weve been very open and honest with eachother and she trusts me a lot. Anyways after we had sex the other day idky, but i asked her a question about her ex. Next thing i know shes starting to cry saying she hasnt been completely honest with me. She went on to tell me shes been with another guy(not while together), and that i know him. Turns out i work with the guy. Anyways he basically promised a relationship to this girl but instead took her virginity and told her to leave(she said she hated every second of it). She only talked to him once since. She expressed her anger towards him and told me she hates him(maybe still has feelings?). She said please dont be mad and that it would hurt her deeply if i just left too. I told her i need to think about things. I did we ended ****ing again(not sure why i did). I care about her a lot. At least i was the first guy to make her come and the 1st guy she sucked off. But i need to know what you guys think. Do you honestly think if he reaches out to her she will resist? (We both work with him and he works one day a week). Im extremely upset right now and wish i knew this before being with her. Do you think shes over him? Should i end things? Should i just swallow my pride and accept her past? What would you guys do. Keep in mind ive been with quite a few girls, but this one i care about and it really pisses me off that she ****ed this guy. What would you guys do?

 

[CharlieBrown]

Keep in mind it was 7mo ago he was with her. And the last time they talked was 5mo ago.

 

[backseatjuan]

Hate is a feeling last time I checked. She'd lead you to believe she hates him because he left her, but it's not that, she hates him because he only fcked her once. Here comes you, capt's save a ho in a way, she sees champ in you. I'd say she's around your age, even if she's 19, she been around. Unless she's really ugly or fat. I wouldn't buy her bullsht about being with just one guy, and go ahead try anal with her. Keep fcking her, but don't get emotionally attached.

 

[Spaz]

Hate is a feeling last time I checked. She'd lead you to believe she hates him because he left her, but it's not that, she hates him because he only fcked her once. Here comes you, capt's save a ho in a way, she sees champ in you. I'd say she's around your age, even if she's 19, she been around. Unless she's really ugly or fat. I wouldn't buy her bullsht about being with just one guy, and go ahead try anal with her. Keep fcking her, but don't get emotionally attached.

Hahaha

Brutal..

 

[marmel75]

Who cares? Youve been going out with her for a month. Lets be real here.

 

[Alvafe]

what she says don't makes much sense anyway, if was 5 months ago, how is that guy even in the picture?

also why the hell you want to know about her ex? just have your fun with her

 

[Glassguy]

Great. Another "New Member" that has more estrogen in his body than the average woman.

Deep feelings after a month? Loser.

 

[highSpeed]

So ive worked with this girl for about 10mo. It wasnt until the last couole months I pursued her. She played hard to get at 1st, but now ive been with her for a little over a month. Anyways she told me shes only been with one other guy. Weve been very open and honest with eachother and she trusts me a lot. Anyways after we had sex the other day idky, but i asked her a question about her ex. Next thing i know shes starting to cry saying she hasnt been completely honest with me. She went on to tell me shes been with another guy(not while together), and that i know him. Turns out i work with the guy. Anyways he basically promised a relationship to this girl but instead took her virginity and told her to leave(she said she hated every second of it). She only talked to him once since. She expressed her anger towards him and told me she hates him(maybe still has feelings?). She said please dont be mad and that it would hurt her deeply if i just left too. I told her i need to think about things. I did we ended ****ing again(not sure why i did). I care about her a lot. At least i was the first guy to make her come and the 1st guy she sucked off. But i need to know what you guys think. Do you honestly think if he reaches out to her she will resist? (We both work with him and he works one day a week). Im extremely upset right now and wish i knew this before being with her. Do you think shes over him? Should i end things? Should i just swallow my pride and accept her past? What would you guys do. Keep in mind ive been with quite a few girls, but this one i care about and it really pisses me off that she ****ed this guy. What would you guys do?

Hey, at lest she fessed up before you got serious with her. You should consider this a blessing. Many women will deceive the living sh*t out of a guy until they get into a serious LTR with a woman. Now to be fair, I think for the most part you can only be deceived if you want to be deceived, especially as it relates to these kinds of things. You can call it rose color glasses, thinking with your d*ck or whatever, but that's you excusing yourself for being deceived.

This is all part of the file you should be building on her, if you at this point would consider anything serious with her (not sure I would honestly) and while it may seem somewhat innocuous, this is a serious breach of your trust.

Of course, while others may have said it already or will say it, you don't sh*t where you eat. Why would you be banging women you're working with? Do you know the drama that you can stir up by doing this? I mean, I guess if you don't intend on keeping this job at all, who cares but sexual harassment cases can now get you on the hook personally, so this is drama that's not worth it, don't care how hot the chick is. If she's hot enough that you want to bang her and you don't care about the job, move on to another job and then bang her but don't do it while you work with her.

 

[CharlieBrown]

Hate is a feeling last time I checked. She'd lead you to believe she hates him because he left her, but it's not that, she hates him because he only fcked her once. Here comes you, capt's save a ho in a way, she sees champ in you. I'd say she's around your age, even if she's 19, she been around. Unless she's really ugly or fat. I wouldn't buy her bullsht about being with just one guy, and go ahead try anal with her. Keep fcking her, but don't get emotionally attached.

That's what pisses me off. I got involved wi

Hate is a feeling last time I checked. She'd lead you to believe she hates him because he left her, but it's not that, she hates him because he only fcked her once. Here comes you, capt's save a ho in a way, she sees champ in you. I'd say she's around your age, even if she's 19, she been around. Unless she's really ugly or fat. I wouldn't buy her bullsht about being with just one guy, and go ahead try anal with her. Keep fcking her, but don't get emotionally attached.

Let me just say this. Shes only been with 2 other guys. Im her 3rd. Shes very tight and sex hurts her. Plus ive had to train her to give better *******s(all teeth the 1st few times). Thats what im doing just ****ing. But the thing is id like to keep her around, but like you said capt save a hoe is how i feel now. Maybe ill just bull**** her and **** her til i get bored.

 

[marmel75]

Great. Another "New Member" that has more estrogen in his body than the average woman.

Deep feelings after a month? Loser.

Lmao...harsh but true.

 

[marmel75]

That's what pisses me off. I got involved wi

Let me just say this. Shes only been with 2 other guys. Im her 3rd. Shes very tight and sex hurts her. Plus ive had to train her to give better *******s(all teeth the 1st few times). Thats what im doing just ****ing. But the thing is id like to keep her around, but like you said capt save a hoe is how i feel now. Maybe ill just bull**** her and **** her til i get bored.

You are acting like your wife of 30 years was banging the pool boy. Stop being so emotional over something so dumb. So what? She banged a dude you know a while back. There are a lot of girls who probably have banged guys you know if you went around trying to find out.
Dude get a grip.

 

[AJ84]

That's what pisses me off. I got involved wi

Let me just say this. Shes only been with 2 other guys. Im her 3rd. Shes very tight and sex hurts her. Plus ive had to train her to give better *******s(all teeth the 1st few times). Thats what im doing just ****ing. But the thing is id like to keep her around, but like you said capt save a hoe is how i feel now. Maybe ill just bull**** her and **** her til i get bored.

She’s only been with two other guys, and she’s now a hoe? She disclosed to you that she was led on and dumped after he got sex and clearly this has effected her (weirder if it didn’t don’t you think?). Maybe she’s trying to prevent that from happening again.

You’re solution is to now do exactly the same to her, because of what some other guy did that hurt her and has absolutely nothing to do with you.

Maybe she had bad judgement with the last guy, let he who has never had bad judgement cast the first stone lol.

This is reason 14,898,777 why women learn not to disclose stuff to guys. You will do a good job of teaching her to lie and conceal the next time, and of course men complain that women hide their sexual past well gee I wonder why?

If you prefer an untouched woman with zero sexual past activity you need to join an ultra religious community. And even then....

 

[dude99]

So ive worked with this girl for about 10mo. It wasnt until the last couole months I pursued her. She played hard to get at 1st, but now ive been with her for a little over a month. Anyways she told me shes only been with one other guy. Weve been very open and honest with eachother and she trusts me a lot. Anyways after we had sex the other day idky, but i asked her a question about her ex. Next thing i know shes starting to cry saying she hasnt been completely honest with me. She went on to tell me shes been with another guy(not while together), and that i know him. Turns out i work with the guy. Anyways he basically promised a relationship to this girl but instead took her virginity and told her to leave(she said she hated every second of it). She only talked to him once since. She expressed her anger towards him and told me she hates him(maybe still has feelings?). She said please dont be mad and that it would hurt her deeply if i just left too. I told her i need to think about things. I did we ended ****ing again(not sure why i did). I care about her a lot. At least i was the first guy to make her come and the 1st guy she sucked off. But i need to know what you guys think. Do you honestly think if he reaches out to her she will resist? (We both work with him and he works one day a week). Im extremely upset right now and wish i knew this before being with her. Do you think shes over him? Should i end things? Should i just swallow my pride and accept her past? What would you guys do. Keep in mind ive been with quite a few girls, but this one i care about and it really pisses me off that she ****ed this guy. What would you guys do?

I can tell by reading this that you are very insecure. Her past is none of your business. If she cheated on you that is another story. She didn't. Some other guy took her v card before she got with you.

Her "i hate him," is nothing but blah blah blah. She is saying that because she believes this is what you want to hear. Pay it no mind.

Focus on you. Focus on setting dates. The last guy is history, and if he reaches out, nothing is going to happen, unless she is a poor quality woman, who isn't loyal. Then you next her.

You have been only dating a brief amount of time. Do not take it so serious. Do not behave like a jealous insecure woman to her. Be a man and lead

 

[lamath]

This is reason 14,898,777 why women learn not to disclose stuff to guys. You will do a good job of teaching her to lie and conceal the next time, and of course men complain that women hide their sexual past well gee I wonder why?

This is true

Only problen i see , is her not being over the last guy.

Just dont get attach so fast.

 

[AJ84]

This is true

Only problen i see , is her not being over the last guy.

Just dont get attach so fast.

True she may not be and if he knows how to watch for red flags he will see that. Big one would be her contacting him or her responding to him contacting her.

I don’t think he should get attached too fast either. Always be mindful until he has a clearer sense of her and what he wants.

What would be crappy to do is treat her like sh*t because he can’t deal with the fact that her sex lift existed before him. Leading someone on and using them for sex then dumping them when bored with it is treating someone like sh*t.

I always feel that if the person is decent, but you decide in the end that they are not for you, to leave them in the same or better place than when you found them.

 

[Glassguy]

Lmao...harsh but true.

You know that I'm not one for fluff. People that come here for solid advice will get honesty.

Good honesty is hard to find these days.

If they come here looking for someone to stroke their feminine ego and congratulate their weak frame, I'll not participate.

 

[CharlieBrown]

Great advice guys. I think ill keep her around and see where things go. And youre right i dont know why i wanted to know about her past. Things would be so much better right now if i didn't. I think i may have screwed things up big time though. I wouldnt say im insecure about it. I just feel lied to. But she was honest about it, and i can tell she really cares about me. If she goes back to him or establishes contact youre right she was never really worth it to begin with. Thanks for the perspective guys. Ill update this post in the future to let you guys know how things went.

 

[John9999]

So ive worked with this girl for about 10mo. It wasnt until the last couole months I pursued her. She played hard to get at 1st, but now ive been with her for a little over a month. Anyways she told me shes only been with one other guy. Weve been very open and honest with eachother and she trusts me a lot. Anyways after we had sex the other day idky, but i asked her a question about her ex. Next thing i know shes starting to cry saying she hasnt been completely honest with me. She went on to tell me shes been with another guy(not while together), and that i know him. Turns out i work with the guy. Anyways he basically promised a relationship to this girl but instead took her virginity and told her to leave(she said she hated every second of it). She only talked to him once since. She expressed her anger towards him and told me she hates him(maybe still has feelings?). She said please dont be mad and that it would hurt her deeply if i just left too. I told her i need to think about things. I did we ended ****ing again(not sure why i did). I care about her a lot. At least i was the first guy to make her come and the 1st guy she sucked off. But i need to know what you guys think. Do you honestly think if he reaches out to her she will resist? (We both work with him and he works one day a week). Im extremely upset right now and wish i knew this before being with her. Do you think shes over him? Should i end things? Should i just swallow my pride and accept her past? What would you guys do. Keep in mind ive been with quite a few girls, but this one i care about and it really pisses me off that she ****ed this guy. What would you guys do?

She’s a keeper buddy. You have no idea how big it is that she came clean with you and told the truth. Wait till later in life when you had woman after woman lied to you. Some of them are very good at it