BeTheChange
Master Don Juan
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For the last two months I’ve experienced a genuine dry patch. Before this period, I’d spent almost six years drifting between gf and plates, often overlapping and so never really experienced true scarcity.
I live in London (population 8 million). Many complain this is a difficult city to game women. I never really paid attention when I was in an LTR but as a single man I was beginning to realise there was a huge amount of truth to this. I’ve spent the last six months dealing with plates, some 7s at best who genuinely believe themselves to be 8s or 9s. Every HB8+ chick I’ve approached in the last two months has rejected me. Tinder and POF deliver scraps and I’m not willing to pay for the added features to even the odds.
I met my HB9 ex gf in 2017. She’d been living in London for less than a month. My previous ex gf (HB8) had only been in London for a month or two when we met also. I doubt these are coincidences. Fast forward to 2019. I have more money, better job, improved dress sense, am just as good looking and have the body of a fitness model. I say this not to brag, but just to highlight that I’m not an average guy and yet if I didn’t know any better London would have me thinking I was a 6.
I came back to my hometown (pop. 500k) as a single man for the first time in years and the contrast was unbelievable. I was getting 10+ matches across Tinder and Bumble a day with ease (and I’m picky). Those are the kind of numbers I do in a month in London. But what really hit home was when I was chatting to a HB9 in a club tonight. Unbelievably hot chick. We vibe over some shared love of dancing and similar work history. A song comes on and she abruptly leaves the conversation to dance with a friend. I shrug my shoulders, assume she's not interested and go back to my mates. Later the chick runs over to me and asks me for my number. She’s coming to London on Monday for the week and wants to meet up.
We could fill a whole thread with the reasons for this difference in mentality between geographies, but I’d say the number one distinction is women in London between 21 and 27 (my target demographic) have practically zero motivation to settle down and so are more than happy to ride the carousel, focus on their careers, friendships, holidays, travelling and their oh so fabulous lives.
That’s when I knew I had to follow my instincts on this one and accept the truth. London is objectively harder than my hometown to secure hot chicks. If I stick with London I have three choices. I could play the hottie lottery and hope to bump into a grounded HB8+ LTR minded chick in London that hasn’t been corrupted by the sheer volume of high quality options available to her (improbable), settle for a HB6 that thinks she’s a HB8 and believes she is the one doing me a favour (no thankyou), or continue to get rejected from the HB8+ who are constantly looking for their best option (not ideal)
Looking to find a woman that would make a good LTR and mother since I want a kid or two, so I’m planning to come back to my hometown more regularly (that Tinder passport feature will come in handy). See family, old friends and start dating here. It also helps that I have business and real estate interests in this city too. Location matters. Something to think about.
I live in London (population 8 million). Many complain this is a difficult city to game women. I never really paid attention when I was in an LTR but as a single man I was beginning to realise there was a huge amount of truth to this. I’ve spent the last six months dealing with plates, some 7s at best who genuinely believe themselves to be 8s or 9s. Every HB8+ chick I’ve approached in the last two months has rejected me. Tinder and POF deliver scraps and I’m not willing to pay for the added features to even the odds.
I met my HB9 ex gf in 2017. She’d been living in London for less than a month. My previous ex gf (HB8) had only been in London for a month or two when we met also. I doubt these are coincidences. Fast forward to 2019. I have more money, better job, improved dress sense, am just as good looking and have the body of a fitness model. I say this not to brag, but just to highlight that I’m not an average guy and yet if I didn’t know any better London would have me thinking I was a 6.
I came back to my hometown (pop. 500k) as a single man for the first time in years and the contrast was unbelievable. I was getting 10+ matches across Tinder and Bumble a day with ease (and I’m picky). Those are the kind of numbers I do in a month in London. But what really hit home was when I was chatting to a HB9 in a club tonight. Unbelievably hot chick. We vibe over some shared love of dancing and similar work history. A song comes on and she abruptly leaves the conversation to dance with a friend. I shrug my shoulders, assume she's not interested and go back to my mates. Later the chick runs over to me and asks me for my number. She’s coming to London on Monday for the week and wants to meet up.
We could fill a whole thread with the reasons for this difference in mentality between geographies, but I’d say the number one distinction is women in London between 21 and 27 (my target demographic) have practically zero motivation to settle down and so are more than happy to ride the carousel, focus on their careers, friendships, holidays, travelling and their oh so fabulous lives.
That’s when I knew I had to follow my instincts on this one and accept the truth. London is objectively harder than my hometown to secure hot chicks. If I stick with London I have three choices. I could play the hottie lottery and hope to bump into a grounded HB8+ LTR minded chick in London that hasn’t been corrupted by the sheer volume of high quality options available to her (improbable), settle for a HB6 that thinks she’s a HB8 and believes she is the one doing me a favour (no thankyou), or continue to get rejected from the HB8+ who are constantly looking for their best option (not ideal)
Looking to find a woman that would make a good LTR and mother since I want a kid or two, so I’m planning to come back to my hometown more regularly (that Tinder passport feature will come in handy). See family, old friends and start dating here. It also helps that I have business and real estate interests in this city too. Location matters. Something to think about.
