I would disagree with this. I've lived by this for a loooong time only to realize that not many other guys do. It's every dog for himself.
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mrgoodstuff
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So you should still want to be around them. Yea people can shyt on you.
Translation: she was going to get some d that night, whether it was yours or someone else's lol. How could you not see that?
As far as your friend who said he would take care of her, well, he did what he promised didn't he? lol
But yeah, you are emotionally unstable and immature. She is not your wife and you have no family, children or assets to protect here. But go ahead and confront him. You are on his radar and there is a good chance he is prepared to defend himself. I will admit it's a bit funny to see the internet tough guys goading you on. They are baiting you for their own entertainment.
He was already out. He's just in denial. She would've cheated on him eventually. He has a controlling, jealous, immature personality and this girl got off on baiting him. He's too easily triggered. It's like a kid chasing pigeons at the park or taunting animals at the zoo for a reaction. He almost certainly displayed a pattern of jealousy and emotional instability before this and she was poking at his weaknesses to amuse herself.
This is some weird, hillbilly, small town drama. No one with options would be going crazy like this.
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I've lived this way my entire life.
Sure there's many men who don't live by this code of conduct.
That doesn't mean I have to lower my value does it?
Because there's an even larger pool of men who admires me for it and would prefer to befriend me.
That's how I get to choose who becomes my friends.
Loyalty brings about plenty of privileges. I could fly from Asia to Europe or from Indonesia to Malaysia today and there's going to be people who will gladly fetch me at the airport or put me up at their house.
mrgoodstuff
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Do you think an emotionally mature and stable female wouldve played those games?
I don't claim that she is or was. I'm pointing out that she told him flat out she was not leaving and therefore unambiguously signaled she would be out scouting for d. If she was loyal to him, she would've left with him. She didn't, and that was a clear, unambiguous sign not just to him, but to everyone present, that he was out.
In effect, she broke up with him right then and there. His only move at that point was to break off any emotional loyalty and look for another girl. The relationship was in effect over.
The terms "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" and "relationship" are all totally meaningless anyway. Unless you are married, there is no such thing as infidelity.
mrgoodstuff
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Why would you marry someone who would do that tho. But they had been off and on for a while. Its that she fvcked his friend. A little messy. Theres no way with respect that couldve occured even if she was open to other dudes.
When did I say he should marry her? Being "on and off" is irrelevant. My point is, there is no such thing as infidelity outside of marriage. If he had been married to her, yes, he has a right to be upset. But he was not, so he has no such right.
Having a "boyfriend" or a "girlfriend" doesn't entail rights or privileges of any kind. Either party can walk away at any time for any reason. That's exactly what she did. As a matter of fact, she was courteous enough to tell him straight up the relationship was over, she was a free agent and she was scouting for d.
But again, even if she hadn't, he has no basis for being angry. There was no legally or morally binding relationship there for him to get upset about.
My question to the OP (or anyone else for that matter): what legal or moral basis do you have for assaulting the man who had sex with a woman who is not your wife? That's right, none lol.
mrgoodstuff
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Yea but i wouldn't want to keep hanging with a female that messy.
if term like BF GF and LTR are meaningless, why marriage would make it so? the last only happen with the first 3
he shouldn't assault a guy because that would be bad for him, don't matter if he would win or not, having a criminal file is bad for you, unless he could do it and he would never see him comming and going and not one else would see, not likely
he should drop both and move on, the best part is pretty much these 2 made a nice suicide on they social circle, and if op is more important then he will still retain everyone and these 2 would be subtrated and lost in time
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I don't know who all these people are who think their friends wont bang their girl or that their girl wont bang their friend. I hear these stories all day on the radio and read about them online all the time. Most of the people you call friends really aren't. And women are not to be trusted, period. I would never leave my girl alone at a bar. And I have boundaries about gf's going out to bars without me to begin with or staying behind without me. She was a sloot.
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The fact that she blames her cheating on YOU leaving her alone says all you need to know. She's an entitled moron. It's never her fault. It's always someone else. This way she can do what she wants and blame everyone else. Dated many sloots like them.
here is the deal you don't, only after it happen, but by then you drop then like a bad habit and move on, its all about character, that is what a person really is, that is what it tells you about a person, when no one is around and not one can see you still choose to do the right thing, that is when you prove you have character, that is when you prove you are trustworthy, both the girl and the dude failed, theya re garbage toss then in the can and move on
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I agree with this guy. Very astute observation.
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Yeah, you do. The vast majority of guys would f your HB9 if they had the chance. It's our genetic programming. This concept of morality is only from the last few thousand years. Billions of years of evolution and genetics will override logic and morals 99% of the time.
For that reason I don't believe in men and women being able to be friends. Check my thread of the married DEVOUT religious girl buying me lunch, packing me lunches, flirting with me, talking about coming over to my place via text, etc. She doesn't eat pork or drink, but I'm sure if her husband saw our texts he would be PISSED.
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Bro, you speak wise words. Maturity and masculinity at its core.
Dog eats dog, and then a wolf comes along and turns those both dogs into tasty meals. I have to say, its important to define yourself who you want to be and go work on being that guy. If you can't be friends, atleast you will earn their respect by being the proper type of guy.
It's a leadership thing being the mature guy. The pragmatic guy. Lots of self development and going into uncharted territory to be who you wish to be. Also it depends on how you want to sleep at night and how (a)moral you are. It's all about how integrity is important to you. Now I'm not saying go trust everyone but rather don't do something unpleasant if you can, because as one famous soldier said, you need to make some decisions because once you start firing, that bullet exiting your rifle can never be put back, and would you be willing to accept the responsibility behind bullet? Same thing with the decisions you decide to make. Another similar quote is "Don't spit the well you drink your water from".
Obviously there's more, how to find friends, and how to judge that they are a good fit but the main issue is guys think naively that once they make guy friends, they are their for life and they will never go after their girls, wives, mothers or sisters. No no that's not how the world works, treat every guy as a loaded gun that has a round in the chamber that you should treat carefully, and by carefully, I mean responsibly. Because if you start pointing that gun at people, and it's loaded, well you are going to have a bad day. On the other hand, a Man must be able to live in solitude and not count on anyone but himself.
Would have OP left his so called "girlfriend" alone in the bar, if there was no friend in that bar? Again its a hypothetical situation, but if you leave a guy or a girl, a friend or a wife, all alone, is that even considered normal? Again it could be said that this is a rhetorical question and theres so much to talk about on how should a guy behave, but I'll leave it at that. Indeed, would you leave a child at a bar or at a park all alone telling them go play, I'll see you tomorrow. Do you ask the local neighbor to look after your children, or a stranger to look after your bags at an airport. Probably not, so the first major error was why did he leave her? Because he got tired, or because he tried to not give a damn, but he did, by calling his friend and asking for an update. So does this mean, they weren't exclusive after all because if they were, a woman would go after her man, and a man would not leave his woman behind. 2+2=4 right not 5? Therefore they weren't exclusive and he expected her to be trustful when they probably didn't have the talk...
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Men need to hold a code but codes never apply to women. They don’t have codes. Not real ones. Lip service type codes.
But then this isn’t really about the woman. She is a woman and thus is an arbitrary in the equation.
I would never sleep with the woman of a real friend. But then my friend would be a high quality human being. A man will sleep with his own brother’s wife. So in effect he has ruined his own relationship with his family.
I had a manager that I despised. I did sleep with his wife and it was on purpose. Every single hole. There wasn’t a woman on the planet that wouldn’t have stepped out on him. So messing with me can have consequences. Beating the crap out of him would have been like beating up a kid. He would have zero chance. Even though people were afraid of him.
But the wife of a man I respected? Never. Had I been smarter I wouldn't have fukked his wife. She was a hot little Hispanic and I wanted to see her looking up at me during a good BJ.
Again this is about men and friends. His friend was never a friend. Piss on the woman. She has no real value.
Men have value if they are the productive type. Wasting your value on friends that aren’t friends is a really bad idea. A man needs to re-assess his life. The surest way to get even is to flourish and prosper.
But then this isn’t really about the woman. She is a woman and thus is an arbitrary in the equation.
I would never sleep with the woman of a real friend. But then my friend would be a high quality human being. A man will sleep with his own brother’s wife. So in effect he has ruined his own relationship with his family.
I had a manager that I despised. I did sleep with his wife and it was on purpose. Every single hole. There wasn’t a woman on the planet that wouldn’t have stepped out on him. So messing with me can have consequences. Beating the crap out of him would have been like beating up a kid. He would have zero chance. Even though people were afraid of him.
But the wife of a man I respected? Never. Had I been smarter I wouldn't have fukked his wife. She was a hot little Hispanic and I wanted to see her looking up at me during a good BJ.
Again this is about men and friends. His friend was never a friend. Piss on the woman. She has no real value.
Men have value if they are the productive type. Wasting your value on friends that aren’t friends is a really bad idea. A man needs to re-assess his life. The surest way to get even is to flourish and prosper.
Thanks for all your opinions and insight.
All taken on board.
The damage is done now in my opinion. I suppose I chalk it down as a lesson learned, deal with him when I see him and finally like she said "Put this thing with her to bed"
A loss ain't a loss its a lesson.
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All taken on board.
The damage is done now in my opinion. I suppose I chalk it down as a lesson learned, deal with him when I see him and finally like she said "Put this thing with her to bed"
A loss ain't a loss its a lesson.
You are all awesome