Bipolar ladies.. More common these days it seems

[RickTheToad]

Was at an event a few nights ago and it was surreal. A lady I hadn't seen in a six weeks or so came up smiling and gave me a hug. She ordered drinks for us, but I said she'll be buying me so and so and I'll buy her a Blue Moon beer. She said I don't know if I want that, then she said, good choice. Night progressed and we were having fun with some other people, then she changed and started becoming b!tchy. We were talking about old times since we're from the neighborhood, and I said, nah, she's not from the neighborhood, she's been too aclimated to the ways and means of the ladies here in Stamford and everyone laughed, she smiled. She took a few light hearted jabs at me to, and that's cool. A couple hours later, and after three alcoholic drinks, I asked are you okay? Are you driving home? She said, don't tell me what to do. I am fine, etc. I said okay. I was talking to another dude and then he left and she said, hey you've been on me all night, and I feel like you've been an a-s-s-h-o-l-e and bulling to me? Myself and others didn't know what she was talking about. I said, it's just harmless banter, we all do and you do it too. Well, I don't like it, I said, oh, well, my bad... Then she said, you know Rick, Fvck off and fvck you, then folded her hands. I just said, no problem. I will not talk to you again. She said fine and I got up and walked away. She still trolled behind me, but I just ignored her completely. Saw her the other day, and she said hi again with a hug? I just said, dude, just stay away. She was like why? I don't do drama and I don't put up with disrespect. We're like oil and water and you are like up and down. I do not tolerate people telling me to fvck off and go fvck myself, be well and I walked away. Came back and she apologized. I said, not good enough. She then said what do you want.. Well, you think about it, figure it out, and if you think you know what's on my mind, feel free to reach out. If not, cheers.

Yes, I'd love to bang her, but I know the drama would be unreal and surreal. And yes, she's really b!tchy, so IDK. It's one of the reasons why I tend to not like to fvck around with mid 20's y.o. ladies. The arrogance is sky high. Yet, she has all these dudes pandering to her.

 

[Robert28]

Oh it’s not just in mid-20’s, trust me. I’ve dated two BPD girls in my life, one was 21 at the time (now 35) and the other was this year and she’s 33. They’re two different types of BPD, one was super bitchy and the other was more able to draw you in before her true colors showed. She wasn’t ever bitchy but something was just off about her, at least she wasn’t bitchy around or to me. Both women NEEDED drama in relationships to remain interested, this I figured out, which is why I never stuck around long term. I had too good of a head on my shoulders and wouldn’t do the drama thing with them to arouse them, and that’s really what makes them tick, the over the top drama. It’s a dangerous situation to be in because you click so well with these women that you lose all thought and frame but they’re good at what they do and unless you’ve had countless experience with it you’ll just be another victim. The weird thing is BPD girls are the hardest to get over, at least for me. I hope I never meet another one ever.

 

[user43770]

She could just be a mean drunk.

 

[RickTheToad]

Oh it’s not just in mid-20’s, trust me. I’ve dated two BPD girls in my life, one was 21 at the time (now 35) and the other was this year and she’s 33. They’re two different types of BPD, one was super bitchy and the other was more able to draw you in before her true colors showed. She wasn’t ever bitchy but something was just off about her, at least she wasn’t bitchy around or to me. Both women NEEDED drama in relationships to remain interested, this I figured out, which is why I never stuck around long term. I had too good of a head on my shoulders and wouldn’t do the drama thing with them to arouse them, and that’s really what makes them tick, the over the top drama. It’s a dangerous situation to be in because you click so well with these women that you lose all thought and frame but they’re good at what they do and unless you’ve had countless experience with it you’ll just be another victim. The weird thing is BPD girls are the hardest to get over, at least for me. I hope I never meet another one ever.

Yes, I agree. There is a lot of tension between us, but she goes hot and cold. I run into her once a week or so when I go to the bar in Stamford. She comes over, then ignores, then talks again, then turns away, then sits next to me, etc. I move away, she comes back. It's a mery-go-round.

 

[RickTheToad]

She could just be a mean drunk.

@TyTe`EyEz, in my 37+ years of life, I've never had a lady tell me to fvck off or go fvck myself in a social setting. Totally uncalled for. I was debating switching everything around to stay away from her, but I ain't changing my routine. However, she's been slowly infiltrating our social group. Some of the dudes hang over her words and everything she says. It's strange. Yes, she's attractive, but a 7 or 8 due to her age. She's not getting with any of them, I just pull away and focus in other places. She only acted like this in front me, none of the other guys. Even when she told me to fvck off, me and one of her gfs looked puzzled too. So, IDK. I'm just going to be cordial and avoid. She sounds like a #metoo chick.

 

[Kotaix]

I think that's more her having repressed anger issues (alcohol brings out the real self), and she might be struggling with the cognitive dissonance that feminism causes. If she's going to Standford then that explains a lot of it. Universities have become indoctrination centers, and feminism is based in lies, tends to **** up minds but she appears to be self aware enough to realize you're right.

I agree 100% you shouldn't put up with it, but she's making an effort. You might want to actually reward her good behavior and see what happens. Call her out on being two-faced and see what happens, it obvious you're in no danger of getting sucked into her frame. Do it for the bro-science if nothing else.

 

[Billtx49]

Yes, I agree. There is a lot of tension between us, but she goes hot and cold. I run into her once a week or so when I go to the bar in Stamford. She comes over, then ignores, then talks again, then turns away, then sits next to me, etc. I move away, she comes back. It's a mery-go-round.

If she’s cycling that rapidly, she’s trouble In the wild…

 

[RickTheToad]

I think that's more her having repressed anger issues (alcohol brings out the real self), and she might be struggling with the cognitive dissonance that feminism causes. If she's going to Standford then that explains a lot of it. Universities have become indoctrination centers, and feminism is based in lies, tends to **** up minds but she appears to be self aware enough to realize you're right.

I agree 100% you shouldn't put up with it, but she's making an effort. You might want to actually reward her good behavior and see what happens. Call her out on being two-faced and see what happens, it obvious you're in no danger of getting sucked into her frame. Do it for the bro-science if nothing else.

She went to a sh!tty college in NYC, not Stanford in Cali. She was hanging out with us in Stamford, CT at a City Center bar and billiards. I remember she told me she got over a bad breakup from her ex-fiance', but that was 2 years ago. She's very hot and cold, but I refuse to put up with disrespect. Could be cause I don't chase, but I've never chase ladies.. I don't care that much. She was complaining when we met for drinks a few weeks ago that all her gf's want to go out and find bfs instead of girls night out and drink with each other. It seems, her gf's may either be older than her or are more mature. She just turned 26. Again, I generally stay between 28 - 35, but she approached me. I was just giving some info to the community. I do not know what's in the water, but it ain't good.

Ironically, because I joked that she's not really from the old neighborhood, she's a vegan and doesn't like meat and that she doesn't have a hard job as an music teacher (I did say just kidding on this one), I was being on her all night, skipped her turn a few times because she was at the bar, and like a "middle school bully". Yet, she joked on me for being a bit tipsy, age difference between us and other things. Myself and others were a bit confused by that statement, so then she looked me right in my eyes, you know what Rick, I am trying here, but fvck off, fvck you and leave me alone. So, now I give her the silent treatment from now on. I will bet anyone here that next week, she will gravitate towards me again. I seriously think it's because she wants the drama and see a reaction from me. Something I don't do. Aside from my bad, and I will not talk or bother you again. Her response was fine. When I walked away and until I left, about 20 minutes later, I caught her eying me. I said by to most and just walked out thinking WTF just happened?

 

[RickTheToad]

If she’s cycling that rapidly, she’s trouble In the wild…

She was all over the place last night. That was why I said maybe you drank too much, she said don't tell me what to do. Then she was shooting pool earlier and was messing up big time, she again said, don't tell me what to do. One of her gf's then said an hour later you're holding the cue wrong. She then said, don't tell me what to do. So, IDK, I think she's just all over the place emotionally. It was a surreal event. She even then started talking to this other dude next to me, but around her age. They brought me in and out of the Q & A, but just a crazy experience. She gave her number out to him too, so IDK. I think she's a c0ck tease.

 

[Robert28]

Yes, I agree. There is a lot of tension between us, but she goes hot and cold. I run into her once a week or so when I go to the bar in Stamford. She comes over, then ignores, then talks again, then turns away, then sits next to me, etc. I move away, she comes back. It's a mery-go-round.

Yep and you can’t call them out on the hot and cold because they act like they don’t remember or know what you’re talking about. It’s truly a mind fvck of epic proportions. I was DATING this girl and we’d go days without even talking, sometimes 2-3 weeks without seeing each other. However when we did hangout she was ALL OVER ME like everything was fine and dandy. It was so weird! If you want to date a BPD girl you better have a lot of plates and other stuff to keep your mind occupied because if she’s the only one you’re messing with you will be mentally screwed up. Don’t ever mention you have other plates though or they will hit you and make your life even more hellish. Let them think they’re the only one and play their game, you’ll never beat them but don’t let them know what they do upsets you cause they’ll just laugh inside and ramp it up even more.

 

[Robert28]

@TyTe`EyEz, in my 37+ years of life, I've never had a lady tell me to fvck off or go fvck myself in a social setting. Totally uncalled for. I was debating switching everything around to stay away from her, but I ain't changing my routine. However, she's been slowly infiltrating our social group. Some of the dudes hang over her words and everything she says. It's strange. Yes, she's attractive, but a 7 or 8 due to her age. She's not getting with any of them, I just pull away and focus in other places. She only acted like this in front me, none of the other guys. Even when she told me to fvck off, me and one of her gfs looked puzzled too. So, IDK. I'm just going to be cordial and avoid. She sounds like a #metoo chick.

No what she’s doing is trying to get you back in her web. You’ve made it clear you will walk away and these types of women have serious abandonment issues, you’re walking away is a challenge to her and makes her want you even more. You’ll never be rid of her unless she finds someone else who can play her game, but when she’s bored she will come back. You have to have your balls screwed on tight to be with these women because it really is dangerous for your mental well being. You’re basically messing with a sick in the head person who’s had a lifetime of experience to perfect her craft.

 

[RickTheToad]

Yep and you can’t call them out on the hot and cold because they act like they don’t remember or know what you’re talking about. It’s truly a mind fvck of epic proportions. I was DATING this girl and we’d go days without even talking, sometimes 2-3 weeks without seeing each other. However when we did hangout she was ALL OVER ME like everything was fine and dandy. It was so weird! If you want to date a BPD girl you better have a lot of plates and other stuff to keep your mind occupied because if she’s the only one you’re messing with you will be mentally screwed up. Don’t ever mention you have other plates though or they will hit you and make your life even more hellish. Let them think they’re the only one and play their game, you’ll never beat them but don’t let them know what they do upsets you cause they’ll just laugh inside and ramp it up even more.

One thing that was weird that happened was that the bartender gave us some free beers in cans. We opened them and she said, with a weird facial remark, I got some spit on her, which I didn't. But, I said, oops, I wasn't aware, my bad. Please note, we were at same bar, we were trying each others drinks and shots. So, the lady is wacko.

 

[RickTheToad]

No what she’s doing is trying to get you back in her web. You’ve made it clear you will walk away and these types of women have serious abandonment issues, you’re walking away is a challenge to her and makes her want you even more. You’ll never be rid of her unless she finds someone else who can play her game, but when she’s bored she will come back. You have to have your balls screwed on tight to be with these women because it really is dangerous for your mental well being. You’re basically messing with a sick in the head person who’s had a lifetime of experience to perfect her craft.

I'm already actually fvcking two other ladies right now, so I am good. I am sending zero IOIs to her. Again, she came over to me when I walked in, hugged me and chatted me up and walked with me to get a beer. She sat next to me at the billiards area. I did join some of her chats as I was going in and out of talking to the other people there, but we were nearly always hovering around each other. Again, the tension between us is certainly there. I mean, when she said fvck off to me, she was about 2 inches away from my face. If it wasn't public or if I was more tipsy, I would had moved in. I know she was trying to get a reaction, I just do not know what. Everything this chick does is mind-boggling. She even said earlier on, why didn't you come to my singing event? I said, huh? I didn't know, why didn't you text me? No answer, though, I wasn't going anyway. I vaguely knew about it, but I actually had a better offer from another lady that night.

 

[Robert28]

One thing that was weird that happened was that the bartender gave us some free beers in cans. We opened them and she said, with a weird facial remark, I got some spit on her, which I didn't. But, I said, oops, I wasn't aware, my bad. Please note, we were at same bar, we were trying each others drinks and shots. So, the lady is wacko.

Some women are just better at hiding it than others. Luckily for you she’s out in the open with her BPD and easy to read. The last girl I mentioned I had no idea what I was dealing with but now looking back it all makes sense. She love bombed me the first month and then the second month started the issues of her pulling WAY back for no reason, then she would basically ghost me but not let me stray too far (which was why she made sure when we saw each other that our dates were fun so I’d forget how she was being towards me). I tried to end things but her response was the same “this is a lot to process and comprehend, why do you not want to see me anymore? I just have a lot going on and I’m not in a good place but I want to be with you. I see a future with us”. Then we’d be back to the same place again. Thank God for google and other peoples experiences is all I can say because I was headed down a bad road.

 

[Robert28]

I'm already actually fvcking two other ladies right now, so I am good. I am sending zero IOIs to her. Again, she came over to me when I walked in, hugged me and chatted me up and walked with me to get a beer. She sat next to me at the billiards area. I did join some of her chats as I was going in and out of talking to the other people there, but we were nearly always hovering around each other. Again, the tension between us is certainly there. I mean, when she said fvck off to me, she was about 2 inches away from my face. If it wasn't public or if I was more tipsy, I would had moved in. I know she was trying to get a reaction, I just do not know what. Everything this chick does is mind-boggling. She even said earlier on, why didn't you come to my singing event? I said, huh? I didn't know, why didn't you text me? No answer, though, I wasn't going anyway. I vaguely knew about it, but I actually had a better offer from another lady that night.

She sees you as a challenge. And not the good type that we tell each other to be on here. This is a dangerous woman, just be careful and know what you’re dealing with. These are not women that will drop out of your life for good, you’ll be hearing from her for years to come.

 

[RickTheToad]

She sees you as a challenge. And not the good type that we tell each other to be on here. This is a dangerous woman, just be careful and know what you’re dealing with. These are not women that will drop out of your life for good, you’ll be hearing from her for years to come.

I do not think she knows what she wants. I know I will not tolerate her BS. The problem is she has an aggressive personality and I have an aggressive personality, so we continue to lock horns as neither of us will give in. In time, as she ages, she will prob. realize she must give in for a man with value to take her on. Will that be me? Prob. not. She's in her prime with many dudes orbiting. Even in my blue pill days, I never orbited, I just walked away. My mentor once told me, never stay around people who don't want to be around you. If she wants to circle back, make up to me by inviting me over to her place, cook me a dinner (she says she can cook) and hag out, sure. If not, no worries. I do not think her mindset is fit to do this though.

 

[Robert28]

I do not think she knows what she wants. I know I will not tolerate her BS. The problem is she has an aggressive personality and I have an aggressive personality, so we continue to lock horns as neither of us will give in. In time, as she ages, she will prob. realize she must give in for a man with value to take her on. Will that be me? Prob. not. She's in her prime with many dudes orbiting. Even in my blue pill days, I never orbited, I just walked away. My mentor once told me, never stay around people who don't want to be around you. If she wants to circle back, make up to me by inviting me over to her place, cook me a dinner (she says she can cook) and hag out, sure. If not, no worries. I do not think her mindset is fit to do this though.

You do not want to invite this woman to your place, trust me. She will show up randomly when you have other girls over. You create drama for her and she feeds off of that, that’s what BPD women need to get sexually aroused. Constant drama.

 

[Epic Days]

I didn’t see anything too crazy in any of that. It’s an act. I’ve been told to “fuk off” a few times myself. Lol
Who cares.
Your attention was on her even after a lot of that went down. Do you think she doesn’t know that? You were way too easy. No offense intended.

 

[RickTheToad]

I didn’t see anything too crazy in any of that. It’s an act. I’ve been told to “fuk off” a few times myself. Lol
Who cares.
Your attention was on her even after a lot of that went down. Do you think she doesn’t know that? You were way too easy. No offense intended.

Don't see how as I walked away when she said "fvck off" and "fvck you". I didn't say one word to her after I said no problem, I won't speak to you again.

 

[Epic Days]

Don't see how as I walked away when she said "fvck off" and "fvck you". I didn't say one word to her after I said no problem, I won't speak to you again.

I guess I read that wrong. My oversight. I was thinking the pool table stuff went on and everything else was after the incident.