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Don Juan
this is a thread that is going to be the affecting factors of why your relationship is failing...
the first reason, and it is the most important reason for this consequence, the number one rule for anybody before going into a relationship is to never change the person they are dating. I'm not talking about the change where you go fix your significant others bad habits and change her for the better, I'm talking about character, that persons decision making, emotions, beliefs. When we are dating a person, its in our human nature to always see what we want to see. We want to see only the magnificent, amazing qualities of that person, and when we don't see them, we get angry, or upset because they aren't acting/feeling like you want them to, we don't accept other peoples **** ups all the time. There was some sort of quote I don't exactly remember it but it had to do with a flower, and us humans adore flowers for their beauty, their smell, their look and once we pull them out of the ground, we destroy those qualities by imprisoning and destroying their lives, the moral of the story isn't about why pulling flowers is bad, its just that humans should be adored the same way, leaving to be for who they are. It's what we humans can't accept because our species was created by a nut job.
the second reason is toned down to psychology, us humans never think what our subconscious might be feeling, or thinking about, its common and basic psychology that if you give something, you wait for something in return. It's us, humans, remember we are *******s, we don't ALWAYS give and never wait for a return. Generally, we wait, so back to the main point, it's called equity theory. Cost-Benefit theory. Basically, this theory shows that the costs of a relationship must always remain lower than the benefits, otherwise it's not worth being in it. The more the person invests into the relationship, the greater they expect out of it. Human nature and psychology literally state that we can only endure a relationship if its possible for both of the partners, you are right people suffer and still stay in relationships, but I'm talking about why it's failing, not why it's over. That's the point, it can be short term but long term something has to happen.
Equity theory predicts that people are happiest when their cost and benefit is equal as their significant others, so both partners are contributing and gaining the equal amount, relationships tend to change, fail or end if this situation falls out of balance.
well, this is all I gotta say if you believe what I wrote thanks and I don't care <3
the first reason, and it is the most important reason for this consequence, the number one rule for anybody before going into a relationship is to never change the person they are dating. I'm not talking about the change where you go fix your significant others bad habits and change her for the better, I'm talking about character, that persons decision making, emotions, beliefs. When we are dating a person, its in our human nature to always see what we want to see. We want to see only the magnificent, amazing qualities of that person, and when we don't see them, we get angry, or upset because they aren't acting/feeling like you want them to, we don't accept other peoples **** ups all the time. There was some sort of quote I don't exactly remember it but it had to do with a flower, and us humans adore flowers for their beauty, their smell, their look and once we pull them out of the ground, we destroy those qualities by imprisoning and destroying their lives, the moral of the story isn't about why pulling flowers is bad, its just that humans should be adored the same way, leaving to be for who they are. It's what we humans can't accept because our species was created by a nut job.
the second reason is toned down to psychology, us humans never think what our subconscious might be feeling, or thinking about, its common and basic psychology that if you give something, you wait for something in return. It's us, humans, remember we are *******s, we don't ALWAYS give and never wait for a return. Generally, we wait, so back to the main point, it's called equity theory. Cost-Benefit theory. Basically, this theory shows that the costs of a relationship must always remain lower than the benefits, otherwise it's not worth being in it. The more the person invests into the relationship, the greater they expect out of it. Human nature and psychology literally state that we can only endure a relationship if its possible for both of the partners, you are right people suffer and still stay in relationships, but I'm talking about why it's failing, not why it's over. That's the point, it can be short term but long term something has to happen.
Equity theory predicts that people are happiest when their cost and benefit is equal as their significant others, so both partners are contributing and gaining the equal amount, relationships tend to change, fail or end if this situation falls out of balance.
well, this is all I gotta say if you believe what I wrote thanks and I don't care <3
