This is what makes me feel incredibly hopeless in dating

[LiveYourDream]

call it very casual dating. We went on dates and always had sex afterwards. I paid for the dates but I didn't give her any money.

it was good experience for me, she was very complimentary of me when it was done.

Was she an escort of sorts? Truth. There are men here that use them. Not a big deal. Not judgment. Just looking to understand YOUR situation.
How and where did you meet her?
How often did you see her?
How many times total would you say?
Where would she fit on your scale "these days"?
Whee did she fit on your scale then?
How old were you?
How old was she?
What made it comfortable for you?
How surface/deep did she know you?
What was her primary motivation? Truth.
Who broke it off and why?

 

[bigdave17]

Was she an escort of sorts? Truth.
How and where did you meet her?
How often did you see her?
How many times total would you say?
Where would she fit on your scale "these days"?
Whee did she fit on your scale then?
How old were you?
How old was she?
What made it comfortable for you?
How surface/deep did she know you?
What was her primary motivation? Truth.
Who broke it off and why?

I met her at a bar I always go to. I saw her for maybe 8 months - usually 1-3 times a week. We had sex all the time, it was great. She 47 - very attractive for her age and was great in the bedroom. She's 49 now (i'm 30). She got to know me pretty well but I knew it would never last long term. She was very good looking for her age and in good shape. She sorta broke it off because she knew it would never be a long term thing but we kept having sex for a while and then it just stopped all together

 

[ChillDude6767]

Dave, you mentioned previously that you go on 12 vacations per year? Where do you go to? Doesn't that at least give you something to talk to and make you seem interesting?

Do you have hundreds of cool vacation pictures to show them?

 

[bigdave17]

Dave, you mentioned previously that you go on 12 vacations per year? Where do you go to? Doesn't that at least give you something to talk to and make you seem interesting?

Do you have hundreds of cool vacation pictures to show them?

I go to NYC, Toronto, Miami/Florida/, etc... I have family in NYC and Toronto and friends in Florida that I visit quite often. I really do have an awesome lifestyle - between the frequent vocations, going out to awesome restaurants, bars, clubs, concerts, sports events, festivals, etc... I've been very blessed. My best friend is buying a 6,000 square foot mansion in Destin, Florida for a vacation spot (he will rent it out when we are not there) so that will be fantastic.

There's nothing wrong with me on anything that's objective level in all seriousness. I have good social instincts, I can make people feel very comfortable around me, I have a great lifestyle, I have a great attitude for life - I'm very driven for success, I'm easy to get along with, I treat people extraordinarily well. I have a good balance of all the important traits

My guess is, if i had a normal dating life from the age of say 13, I would be married to a beautiful Latina/Middle Eastern/Armenian/Italian girl by now and have 2 kids and be extremely happy.

My trauma from my younger years of convincing myself that women and dating are totally impossible has made me a complete wreck. I feel so much incredibly intense anxiety when I want to approach a woman at a gym or a store. The only thoughts in my brain are - she has a boyfriend, she won't like me, she will be very annoyed that I'm talking to her, she will be a complete *****. I've convinced myself that all quality women are impossible, never want to meet a man, have impossible standards, are always extremely annoyed to be approached, etc...

How do I get rid of this inner voice telling me I don't deserve to be loved?

 

[LiveYourDream]

How do I get rid of this inner voice telling me I don't deserve to be loved?

Take it off the pedestal you have it on, inside your head. Stop giving it any authority over you, your life, your actions. It's background noise. Nothing more. Nothing less. Background noise. Just like traffic sound, weather sounds, people chatting in the distance. Background noise.

Contemplate this:

You did it with being fat. You transformed yourself. You did! Only after you decided to and then transformed your thinking and actions accordingly.
You did it with selling cars. You transformed yourself. You did! Only after you decided to and then transformed your thinking and actions accordingly.
You can do it with women. Remind yourself of this ---> Dave's Recipe For Success

 

[bigdave17]

Take it off the pedestal you have it on, inside your head. Stop giving it any authority over you, your life, your actions. It's background noise. Nothing more. Nothing less. Background noise. Just like traffic sound, weather sounds, people chatting in the distance. Background noise.

Contemplate this:

You did it with being fat. You transformed yourself. You did! Only after you decided to and then transformed your thinking and actions accordingly.
You did it with selling cars. You transformed yourself. You did! Only after you decided to and then transformed your thinking and actions accordingly.
You can do it with women. Remind yourself of this ---> Dave's Recipe For Success

when you get this inner voice, you feel so hopeless and so much like a victim

it's a powerful thing when you start to realize you're in control of your destiny

 

[LiveYourDream]

when you get this inner voice, you feel so hopeless and so much like a victim

it's a powerful thing when you start to realize you're in control of your destiny

There was a time in your life when you were fat and bullied. You felt like a victim. At some point you had enough of that experience. You choose to live a different experience. You changed your thinking. You acted in alignment with what you desired and over time you transformed. You made that happen through YOUR choices. It wasn't a random occurrence. You did it. From the inside-out bit by bit. You did it!!!

There was a time when you felt desperate to sell cars and sucked at it. You felt like a victim. It felt hopeless. At some point you decided you had enough of that experience. You choose to live a different experience. You changed your thinking. You acted in alignment with what you desired and over time you transformed. Selling cars is easy now!!! You changed your thinking! You changed how you interacted and how you approached people! You changed you from the inside-out and acted accordingly. You made it happen. Lots of rejections. Lots of sales. Now almost only sales. You did that. You are amongst the top of the top in car sales. You did it!!!

You choose to give up the victim mentality of where you were. You decided you had enough of that experience!!! You choose to change your thinking!!! You choose to act in congruence with what you desired. Was it always easy??? Fck No!! Was it 1,00,000 times better than how you felt when you were fat and bullied and sucked as a car salesman???? Absolutely!!! Without question!!!!

Was it worth it the struggle and discomfort that you had to go through???? Absolutely!!!! Without question!!!!

Would you ever want to go back and be that fat bullied kid??? Would you want to go back and be that man desperate to sell cars with no sales??? No!!! You choose to leave behind YOUR victim mentality!!!!! (on those issues) You transformed your experience into feeling like a winner in those area now. You do!!! You put in the needed steps!!! You did!!!! Was it easy??? Nope!!!! Did you want eat or give up or make excuses??? Maybe??? You had ALREADY DECIDED that you wanted something more!!!! YOU DECIDED!!!

You decided you want what you are living now. Fit and proud of it!!! Top salesman or so at what you do!!! Lots to be proud of!!!

You @bigdave17 Are at choice about your experience with women!!! Just as you were once at choice about being fat and bullied or sucking at selling cars!!! Do you need to hang out and play victim and wallow in it, like a pig rolling in mud???? Poor me...Poor me...Poor me...Poor me...

Did Poor me get you from fat to fit???? Did poor me get you from sucking at selling cars to being the best???? It was the bottom rung on the ladder. You had to step off it in order to move up. Can't stand on the bottom rung and also stand at the top!!! Not possible!!!
You choose to give up being a victim, to being fat and bullied, and thenyou moved up the ladder one step at a time!! You gave up being victim, to your desperation to sell cars!! You moved up the ladder one step at a time!! You LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the results of those choices!!!!

You LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, being fit and the top salesman!!!! You LOVE IT!!!!

The ball is in your court Dave. You have 3060 posts playing VICTIM about women. Your feet are on the bottom rung of the ladder. Are you going to stay there??? Are you going to play victim and justify more???? The fat bullied you could have justified and still be there!!! The sucking salesman could still be playing victim and broke beyond words!!! That's where you would be!!!! YOU CHOOSE NOT TO BE!!!!

YOU CHOOSE!!! YOU CHOOSE TO GIVE UP YOUR EXCUSES!!! YOU CHOOSE TO CHANGE YOUR MINDSET AND YOUR THINKING!!! YOU CHOOSE TO ****TAKE ACTION IN ALIGNMENT**** WITH WHAT YOU WANTED TO BECOME!!!!! YOU DID IT!!!! YOU TRANSFORMED!!!!

Every moment you are at choice!!!! Are you going to live another minute in YOUR VICTIM STORY, IN YOUR VICTIM EXCUSES?????
You can't be on the bottom rung and the top at the same time!!! You have to give one up to get to the other!!!!

You have EVERYTHING TO GAIN BY STEPPING OFF THAT RUNG!!!! Is it scary??? Sure!!! Was it scary when you were fat and bullied??? Yep!! Was it scary when you sucked as a car salesman??? Yep!!

Why was it scary??? Because you didn't know how the fvck it was going to work!!! Because you had to give up HOW YOU HAD KNOWN YOURSELF, to become who you wanted to be!!! Scary???? For a while!!! Sure can be! Worth it???? You tell me!!!!! Would you go back to being fat and bullied and sucking at selling cars as you did??? Or was the discomfort worth it????

You are proud of who you are in those facets of your life!!!!! You deserve to be!!!! You choose differently!!!!

Will it be hard to not post all the reasons it seems hard/impossible/unlikely for you to meet the woman you want???? Sure!!!
You can change the channel!!!!!! Is that the voice you want dominant in your head???? Dave is a VICTIM!!! VICTIM!!! VICTIM!!! Is that what you want your claim to fame to be???? Right now...that is how you are known here!!!! Truly!!!! You've filled pages and pages of your victim mentality!!! It FEEEEEEEEELs soooooooo REAL!!!! I get it!!!! It felt like you had no option when you were fat and bullied and when you sucked t selling cars!!!! It feeeeeeelt like there was no way out!!!! It was a Feeeeeeeeling!!!! Was it the truth????? Not what you are living Now!!!!!

Honestly, right now you are 3060 posts and currently the BIGGEST FVCKING VICTIM WHINER ON THIS SITE!!!!!! (with all due respect)
Is that REALLY what you aspire to???? You know the HABIT....YES HABIT....HABIT....is to justify and defend why you are victim, in your experience with women!!! HABIT!!! FVCKING HABIT!!! You smoke??? Every time you try to sell another VICTIM POST HERE imagine yourself blowing stinky smoke in a beautiful woman's face. VICTIM...VICTIM...VICTIM!!!!

I think your time has come to step off that last rung and leave that VICTIM DAVE behind!!!! Do you know what is ahead??? Nope. Do you know you want to be successful with women and standing at the top of the ladder???? You sure do!!!!

It is your journey!!!! You can wallow or you can declare enough is enough!!! You have to step off and start MOVING to get there!!!

I tell you this Dave!!! You have ZERO...ZERO....ZERO regrets about moving on from being a fat bullied kid and a sucky car salesman!!!! Life is a million times better in each of those areas!!!!!!!!!!!

Bottom rung??? Top rung??? Where are you going to live your life with women???????? CHOICE IS YOURS!!!!!!

You'll NEVER get a different result until you leave the bottom rung and move yourself up!!!

When you get to the top, how do you think you are going to feel??????

Top rung is waiting for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You did it with fat to fit!
You did it with svcky to top salesman!
You - You - You - YOU DID IT!!!!!

YOU CAN DO IT WITH TOO!!!!

Gotta leave the bottom rung to do it!!!! All those victim posts happen on the bottom rung!!!! Check yourself!!!! When you hear that voice inside, change the channel and move on up!!!!!!

You can do it!!!!

Maybe even retire @bigdave17 and leave him behind like you let go of your fat self. Start a new name as your journey up....tracking your actions....your actions....your changes...your wins.....your successes.

YOU ARE THE ONE AT CHOICE!!!! TRANSFORMATION IS ALL YOURS FOR THE HAVING!!!! ONLY YOU CAN CHOOSE AND TAKE THE STEPS TO CHANGE YOUR THINKING AND ALIGN YOUR ACTIONS!!! RESULTS ARE WAITING FOR YOU!!!!

 

[LiveYourDream]

it's a powerful thing when you start to realize you're in control of your destiny

Yep!!! You--@bigdave17 are in control of your destiny!!!!!! YOU!!! YOU!!! YOU!!!! YOU!!! YOU ARE!!!!

 

[sosousage]

when you get this inner voice, you feel so hopeless and so much like a victim

it's a powerful thing when you start to realize you're in control of your destiny

Women dont like men who are bad in bed

 

[zekko]

How do I get rid of this inner voice telling me I don't deserve to be loved?

First off, you have to realize this inner voice is coming from YOU, and that it's a habit.

I used to struggle with negative thoughts, and I had to unlearn that way of thinking. I did this by being vigilant - keeping close watch over my thinking. When I caught myself thinking a negative thought, I stopped myself, and replaced it with a positive thought. I kept this up until positive thinking became a new ingrained habit.

Because you will almost always accomplish more with positive thinking than you will with negative thinking, and you will almost always be happier with a positive attitude than with a negative attitude.

 

[sazc]

so much good advice and wisdom being given, will he listen this time?

 

[bigdave17]

There was a time in your life when you were fat and bullied. You felt like a victim. At some point you had enough of that experience. You choose to live a different experience. You changed your thinking. You acted in alignment with what you desired and over time you transformed. You made that happen through YOUR choices. It wasn't a random occurrence. You did it. From the inside-out bit by bit. You did it!!!

There was a time when you felt desperate to sell cars and sucked at it. You felt like a victim. It felt hopeless. At some point you decided you had enough of that experience. You choose to live a different experience. You changed your thinking. You acted in alignment with what you desired and over time you transformed. Selling cars is easy now!!! You changed your thinking! You changed how you interacted and how you approached people! You changed you from the inside-out and acted accordingly. You made it happen. Lots of rejections. Lots of sales. Now almost only sales. You did that. You are amongst the top of the top in car sales. You did it!!!

You choose to give up the victim mentality of where you were. You decided you had enough of that experience!!! You choose to change your thinking!!! You choose to act in congruence with what you desired. Was it always easy??? Fck No!! Was it 1,00,000 times better than how you felt when you were fat and bullied and sucked as a car salesman???? Absolutely!!! Without question!!!!

Was it worth it the struggle and discomfort that you had to go through???? Absolutely!!!! Without question!!!!

Would you ever want to go back and be that fat bullied kid??? Would you want to go back and be that man desperate to sell cars with no sales??? No!!! You choose to leave behind YOUR victim mentality!!!!! (on those issues) You transformed your experience into feeling like a winner in those area now. You do!!! You put in the needed steps!!! You did!!!! Was it easy??? Nope!!!! Did you want eat or give up or make excuses??? Maybe??? You had ALREADY DECIDED that you wanted something more!!!! YOU DECIDED!!!

You decided you want what you are living now. Fit and proud of it!!! Top salesman or so at what you do!!! Lots to be proud of!!!

You @bigdave17 Are at choice about your experience with women!!! Just as you were once at choice about being fat and bullied or sucking at selling cars!!! Do you need to hang out and play victim and wallow in it, like a pig rolling in mud???? Poor me...Poor me...Poor me...Poor me...

Did Poor me get you from fat to fit???? Did poor me get you from sucking at selling cars to being the best???? It was the bottom rung on the ladder. You had to step off it in order to move up. Can't stand on the bottom rung and also stand at the top!!! Not possible!!!
You choose to give up being a victim, to being fat and bullied, and thenyou moved up the ladder one step at a time!! You gave up being victim, to your desperation to sell cars!! You moved up the ladder one step at a time!! You LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the results of those choices!!!!

You LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, being fit and the top salesman!!!! You LOVE IT!!!!

The ball is in your court Dave. You have 3060 posts playing VICTIM about women. Your feet are on the bottom rung of the ladder. Are you going to stay there??? Are you going to play victim and justify more???? The fat bullied you could have justified and still be there!!! The sucking salesman could still be playing victim and broke beyond words!!! That's where you would be!!!! YOU CHOOSE NOT TO BE!!!!

YOU CHOOSE!!! YOU CHOOSE TO GIVE UP YOUR EXCUSES!!! YOU CHOOSE TO CHANGE YOUR MINDSET AND YOUR THINKING!!! YOU CHOOSE TO ****TAKE ACTION IN ALIGNMENT**** WITH WHAT YOU WANTED TO BECOME!!!!! YOU DID IT!!!! YOU TRANSFORMED!!!!

Every moment you are at choice!!!! Are you going to live another minute in YOUR VICTIM STORY, IN YOUR VICTIM EXCUSES?????
You can't be on the bottom rung and the top at the same time!!! You have to give one up to get to the other!!!!

You have EVERYTHING TO GAIN BY STEPPING OFF THAT RUNG!!!! Is it scary??? Sure!!! Was it scary when you were fat and bullied??? Yep!! Was it scary when you sucked as a car salesman??? Yep!!

Why was it scary??? Because you didn't know how the fvck it was going to work!!! Because you had to give up HOW YOU HAD KNOWN YOURSELF, to become who you wanted to be!!! Scary???? For a while!!! Sure can be! Worth it???? You tell me!!!!! Would you go back to being fat and bullied and sucking at selling cars as you did??? Or was the discomfort worth it????

You are proud of who you are in those facets of your life!!!!! You deserve to be!!!! You choose differently!!!!

Will it be hard to not post all the reasons it seems hard/impossible/unlikely for you to meet the woman you want???? Sure!!!
You can change the channel!!!!!! Is that the voice you want dominant in your head???? Dave is a VICTIM!!! VICTIM!!! VICTIM!!! Is that what you want your claim to fame to be???? Right now...that is how you are known here!!!! Truly!!!! You've filled pages and pages of your victim mentality!!! It FEEEEEEEEELs soooooooo REAL!!!! I get it!!!! It felt like you had no option when you were fat and bullied and when you sucked t selling cars!!!! It feeeeeeelt like there was no way out!!!! It was a Feeeeeeeeling!!!! Was it the truth????? Not what you are living Now!!!!!

Honestly, right now you are 3060 posts and currently the BIGGEST FVCKING VICTIM WHINER ON THIS SITE!!!!!! (with all due respect)
Is that REALLY what you aspire to???? You know the HABIT....YES HABIT....HABIT....is to justify and defend why you are victim, in your experience with women!!! HABIT!!! FVCKING HABIT!!! You smoke??? Every time you try to sell another VICTIM POST HERE imagine yourself blowing stinky smoke in a beautiful woman's face. VICTIM...VICTIM...VICTIM!!!!

I think your time has come to step off that last rung and leave that VICTIM DAVE behind!!!! Do you know what is ahead??? Nope. Do you know you want to be successful with women and standing at the top of the ladder???? You sure do!!!!

It is your journey!!!! You can wallow or you can declare enough is enough!!! You have to step off and start MOVING to get there!!!

I tell you this Dave!!! You have ZERO...ZERO....ZERO regrets about moving on from being a fat bullied kid and a sucky car salesman!!!! Life is a million times better in each of those areas!!!!!!!!!!!

Bottom rung??? Top rung??? Where are you going to live your life with women???????? CHOICE IS YOURS!!!!!!

You'll NEVER get a different result until you leave the bottom rung and move yourself up!!!

When you get to the top, how do you think you are going to feel??????

Top rung is waiting for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You did it with fat to fit!
You did it with svcky to top salesman!
You - You - You - YOU DID IT!!!!!

YOU CAN DO IT WITH TOO!!!!

Gotta leave the bottom rung to do it!!!! All those victim posts happen on the bottom rung!!!! Check yourself!!!! When you hear that voice inside, change the channel and move on up!!!!!!

You can do it!!!!

Maybe even retire @bigdave17 and leave him behind like you let go of your fat self. Start a new name as your journey up....tracking your actions....your actions....your changes...your wins.....your successes.

YOU ARE THE ONE AT CHOICE!!!! TRANSFORMATION IS ALL YOURS FOR THE HAVING!!!! ONLY YOU CAN CHOOSE AND TAKE THE STEPS TO CHANGE YOUR THINKING AND ALIGN YOUR ACTIONS!!! RESULTS ARE WAITING FOR YOU!!!!

I was bullied and mocked for my lack of dating life in 8th and 9th grade

but the ironic thing is that I encountered those guys again when I was 22/23 (when I was already good looking and successful) and those guys had nothing but positive things to say about me. The issue was I internalized the damage so badly that I couldn't get it out of my head

 

[17 shots]

so much good advice and wisdom being given, will he listen this time?

He'll listen... and then he'll jerk off 6 times, and come back even stupider then before

 

[spinich]

Dave, lose the fricken ego, admit your gay and go away. Thank you.

 

[LiveYourDream]

I was bullied and mocked for my lack of dating life in 8th and 9th grade

but the ironic thing is that I encountered those guys again when I was 22/23 (when I was already good looking and successful) and those guys had nothing but positive things to say about me. The issue was I internalized the damage so badly that I couldn't get it out of my head

@bigdave17 When you went from fat to fit...you made a choice! You followed though on it! Part of doing so were hard! Parts of doing so were challenging! You stuck through it! You Did! You made it happen! You got the results because of it!

You have talked here about learning to be comfortable being slightly hungry....or something like that in your words.

Being ok with not always satisfying that urge to eat!!! Think about it---You have truly transformed that!!! You have turned it around!!! When you use to react to eat and eat, eat, eat, eat, eat.....NOW you don't!!!!! THAT IS A HUGE CHANGE!!!!

YOU got HUGE results for DISCIPLINING YOURSELF to no longer let the urge to eat, eat, eat...dictate YOUR CHOICES AS A MAN!!!!!!

YOU DECIDED TO BE THE BOSS OF YOU AND WHAT YOU CHOOSE TO PUT IN YOUR MOUTH AND WHEN!!!!

YOU BECAME OK....YEP YOU BECAME OK....TRULY OK......with NOT, NOT, NOT, NOT, NOT, NOT responding to AN IMPULSE to eat!!!!!

YOU CHANGED YOUR THINKING!!!! YOU @bigdave17 !!!!! YOU did it!!!! YOU, YOU, YOU, YOU changed your thinking!!! YOU changed your actions to match!!!! YOU have yourself a NEW BODY THAT YOU ARE PROUD OF!!!! BECAUSE YOU CHOOSE AND FOLLOWED THROUGH!!!!

Was it easy at first to not eat when you felt that impulse????? Nope....it was NOT EASY!!! YOU DID IT ANYWAY!!!!!

YOU CHOOSE to NO LONGER let those IMPULSES to eat, decide that you would eat, eat, eat, eat, eat.
YOU TOOK CONTROL!!!!!!! YEP, YOU TOOK CONTROL!!!!!!! YOU TOOK YOUR POWER BACK!!!!
YOU DECIDED WHEN AND WHAT YOU ATE....NOT some fvcking impulse!!!!
Impluse to eat....YOU WERE BOSS!!!! Didn't eat!!! Impulse to eat, eat, eat....YOU WERE BOSS!!!! Didn't eat, eat, eat.
Instead YOU became the BOSS of when and what you ate!!!! YOU ARE THE BOSS OF THAT NOW!!!! YOU HAVE A BODY TO SHOW FOR IT!!!!

IT is a SUPER important analogy for you to ANCHOR in YOU as you move forward because YOU KNOW how powerful and conniving that IMPULSE...just a fvcking IMPULSE to eat, eat, eat....ONCE RULED what and how you ate!!! THAT LITTLE FVCKING IMPULSE led you to be fat and miserable!!!! YOU BECAME THE MASTER OF YOU!!!! YOU MASTERED THE IMPULSE!!!!

YOU HAVE A BODY TO SHOW FOR IT!!! YOU DESERVE IT BECAUSE YOU CHOOSE IT FOR YOURSELF AND YOU CHANGED YOUR THINKING AND YOUR ACTIONS AND YOU GOT YOURSELF A NEW RESULT!!!!!

YOU DID THAT!!!! ALL YOU!!! ALL YOU!!! YOU DID THAT!!! YOU ARE THE ONE THAT IGNORED THAT Fvcking IMPULSE to eat, eat, eat!
Eventually it quit knocking on your door trying to ell you food every 2 minutes because you weren't buying any more!!! Does that IMPULSE still try to sell you some food and get you to eat, eat, eat sometimes now? Likely here and there. YOU ARE THE BOSS NOW!!!! NOT THE Fvcking IMPULSE!!!! YOU DECLINE!!! YOU CHOOSE WHAT AND WHEN YOU EAT!!!

YOU HAVE A GREAT BODY NOW!!!! Top of the ladder!!!!! YOU DID THAT!!!! YOU became the MASTER over that Fvcking IMPULSE!!!

Why am I going on here....You know this...I know!!!

Because you are about to transform (IF YOU CHOOSE) another area.... AND just as you did there....you will be CHOOSING to let an IMPLUSE/old thinking RULE who you are OR YOU WILL CHOOSE WHO YOU ARE IN YOUR LIFE!!!! IMPULSE or YOU????

IMPULSE to old thinking OR YOU CHOOSING TO HEAD UP THE LADDER????

IMPULSE to old thinking OR YOU CHOOSING TO DISTRACT YOURSELF????

YOU became the MASTER when those IMPLUSES told you to eat, eat, eat!!!! YOU likely distracted yourself, ignored it, YOU CHOOSE NOT TO ENGAGE THE IMPULSE!!! YOU CHOOSE to focus elsewhere and ALIGN WITH NEW THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS!!!

THINK ABOUT IT!!! YOU TRANSFORMED by NOT, NOT, NOT, NOT engaging that impulse to eat, eat, eat... time after time after time after time. YOU BECAME THE NEW BOSS not the impulse to eat, eat, eat!!!!

IT WAS NOT LIKELY EASY...YOU DID IT ANYWAY!!!!! YOU CHOOSE to become the MASTER and YOU CHOOSE to have a BODY you are proud of!!!!

So....REMIND YOURSELF OF THAT....EVERYTIME IF YOU NEED TO!!!! REMIND YOURSELF OF HOW YOU MASTERED THAT IMPULSE AND YOUR NEW RESULT!!!!

SAME PROCESS....IMPULSE to old victim thinking...... WHO is the boss???? Fvcking Impulse or YOU??? YOU!!!! YOU!!! YOU!!!
YOU BE THE BOSS!!!!!

Impulse to victim thinking about women..... WHO is the boss???? FVCKING IMPULSE....FVCKING OLD HABIT.....just like that eat, eat, eat IMPULSE or...ARE YOU @bigdave17 ARE YOU GOING TO CHOOSE TO BE THE BOSS in that area of your life now???

IMPULSE to victim thinking..... Are you gong to eat, eat, eat????? Are YOU going to CHOOSE DIFFERENT NOW????

I am not going to explain every rung on the ladder right now. Don't ask.

YOU had an impulse to eat, eat, eat....and ONE yep ONE little Fuvcking IMPULSE ...YOU took back YOUR POWER and YOU CHOOSE not to eat, eat, eat!!!! YOU DID IT!!!

How does that translate???

You post, post, post, as a victim, victim, victim.
You have. JUST like you once ate, ate, ate!!! YOU post, post, post, victim, victim, victim.

IT IS JUST ANOTHER IMPULSE!!!!! JUST AN IMPULSE...to THINK of yourself as a VICTIM....AN IMPULSE to eat, eat, eat....AN IMPULSE to justify, defend, explain, question all in the name of being a VICTIM.

I am NOT judging it!!! BEST you do NOT judge it either! It is just a HABIT...a HABIT....a HABIT of listening to a fvcking IMPULSE.

THIS impulse happens to be victim thinking. It is just another salesman at your door!!!! Are you going to buy or SAY NO THANK YOU????

Do you eat, eat, eat, eat when that IMPULSE comes around now or DO YOU SAY, NO THANK YOU????
YOUR RESULTS SPEAK FOR THEMSELVES!!!!

Are the first days and weeks changing your thinking/eating challenging??? Sure. Can you do it???? ABSOLUTELY!!!

YOU DID IT WITH YOUR BODY!!! This is just another impulse. Doesn't matter what the IMPULSE is selling!!! IT JUST MATTERS WHAT YOU CHOOSE!!!! DO YOU give in to the impulse eat, eat, eat or DO YOU DECIDE WHAT AND WHEN YOU EAT AND HAVE THE BODY TO SHOW FOR IT???? YOU CHOOSE!!! YOUR AWESOME BODY SHOWS!!!!

IMPULSE to victim think, question, argue, justify...old victim thinking = OLD RESULTS Eat, Eat, Eat = OLD RESULT = FAT AND BILLIED

Impulse to victim think as you relate to women or NEW THOUGHTS with NEW ACTIONS, ACTIONS, ACTIONS to match???

YOU no longer eat, eat, eat because of a fvcking IMPULSE!!! YOU are the MASTER now!!!! YOU CHOOSE AND YOU ACT ACCORDINGLY!!!!

Same here!!! IMPULSE to post/victim, post/victim, post/victim....or....NO MORE.

Impulse

 

[sazc]

ironically, a LOT of the issues he calls out about women are issues that everyone on these boards agree with. In a sense, y'all created this monster. However, this particular monster isnt willing to become 'unstuck'

 

[Atom Smasher]

We created this "monster"?

First and foremost, he's not a monster. He's confused, yeah; he's not grasping the concepts, but to call him a monster is a little much.

Increasingly, @sazc, you are revealing yourself to be someone who very much reviles the men of this community. It is slipping out more and more with your increasingly caustic and condescending comments against men.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

We created this "monster"?

First and foremost, he's not a monster. He's confused, yeah; he's not grasping the concepts, but to call him a monster is a little much.

Increasingly, @sazc, you are revealing yourself to be someone who very much reviles the men of this community. It is slipping out more and more with your increasingly caustic and condescending comments against men.

Some of them get upset when men play the dating game as its meant to be played.

 

[lamath]

We created this "monster"?

First and foremost, he's not a monster. He's confused, yeah; he's not grasping the concepts, but to call him a monster is a little much.

Increasingly, @sazc, you are revealing yourself to be someone who very much reviles the men of this community. It is slipping out more and more with your increasingly caustic and condescending comments against men.

Dave just meed a little confidence and things will change, but he need to stop finding excuse and just act on his shortcoming.

Monster is indeed going a bit too far, but to be fair not sure it was meant literally.

Too much bitterness and whining from ppl lately

 

[sazc]

We created this "monster"?

First and foremost, he's not a monster. He's confused, yeah; he's not grasping the concepts, but to call him a monster is a little much.

Increasingly, @sazc, you are revealing yourself to be someone who very much reviles the men of this community. It is slipping out more and more with your increasingly caustic and condescending comments against men.

it's a figure of speech, not a direct accusation

"revile" huh? That was an angry criticism? I think not. It's erroneous to attempt to assign an emotional motivation to my posts. Being a complete spectator allows me to see the many dimensions that play out here. I'm more 'interested' and 'fascinated'. Fascinated at the double standards that play out. Fascinated that Dave is complaining about the same stuff that normally gets posted, yet, instead of the high fives, posters are annoyed. But I understand why. However, I am extremely far from 'reviled'.

I disagree, I dont think he's confused. I think he's struggling with some deep rooted demons. I dont even think the demons are particularly detrimental per se, but I do think he needs to talk this thru with a qualified therapist in order to get beyond it. Honestly, it appears that, the only thing the content of this board has done is reaffirm his belief that dating is hopeless, for him. Again, its not the posters, it's the content, and the content isn't necessarily wrong - it's the way Dave has chosen to integrate the new knowledge into his psyche. It's a shame but nothing that anyone here did directly. It's really weird tho because this board is supposed to be 'self help', but all it's done is reinforced his already negative viewpoints.

anyways, yea, I dont revile anyone. y'all are who you are, no worries here