I’m fairly new to the whole red pilled community so im just looking for advice, i know this is super long but i honestly don’t know anyone who I could talk this with, i have no friends nor father figure to seek advice from.
Acouple months ago I moved to a new city, I haven’t been making any friends nor have I found any women. I find it hard to create friendships since in my job everyone there is 40+ and I’m 19. There is this chick that’s like 27 but she honestly acts super distant around me and just avoids me at all costs. Where I moved from there was a woman who I really had feelings for, we would periodically go out but as “friends”. We still kept communicating as friends but it ended up to the point where she came down to visit for a concert and I confessed my love to her. She never told me anything and in fact just said she thought that was cute but left it at that. I still talked to her and we would communicate through the phone almost every day. I even planned to go visit her to Orlando and I told her that I wanted to spend a day with her. Once I got to Orlando she said she was happy to have me there but we never met up. On the day that we were supposed to see eachother she flaked on me and told me she was exhausted (keep in mind she worked retail and it was on black friday where she worked overnight) i even told her days before if she was sure that she wanted to do that since she’d be tired but she said that she was down to meet up. That was for me my first flake, I honestly felt like ****. I stopped talking to her and became distant, once I did that she started saying how she loved me and everything. I started talking with her again but i couldn’t do it for long because then I went silent again. This time she just wouldn’t text me either.. We went silent for like a month and then I decided to cut ties with her. I texted her that I just wanted to go my seperate way, she later one texted me how she felt that she just wanted to give me my space and how she didn’t feel that she did anything bad. I confessed to her again that I loved her and that I really wanted to be with her but I just felt that the love wasn’t there. That’s where she confessed that she had fallen in love with me since when I left and that she wanted to be with me, how she saw me as someone she wanted to spend the rest of her life with. We talked on the phone after that and she brought up the idea of a LDR. I was against it at first but honestly, I haven’t felt love like this in a long time, I decided to accept it and give it a shot. It’s been a week since then and we’ve been talking almost every day, we laugh and joke from time to time but everything just feels akward. She only calls me baby or love when i first call her something and it just all feels exactly the same as it did when we were friends
I guess my question is, should I move on and leave her in the past or should I try this out. Also how does day to day love feel like? Oh and any tips for people who recently moved to a new city?
Acouple months ago I moved to a new city, I haven’t been making any friends nor have I found any women. I find it hard to create friendships since in my job everyone there is 40+ and I’m 19. There is this chick that’s like 27 but she honestly acts super distant around me and just avoids me at all costs. Where I moved from there was a woman who I really had feelings for, we would periodically go out but as “friends”. We still kept communicating as friends but it ended up to the point where she came down to visit for a concert and I confessed my love to her. She never told me anything and in fact just said she thought that was cute but left it at that. I still talked to her and we would communicate through the phone almost every day. I even planned to go visit her to Orlando and I told her that I wanted to spend a day with her. Once I got to Orlando she said she was happy to have me there but we never met up. On the day that we were supposed to see eachother she flaked on me and told me she was exhausted (keep in mind she worked retail and it was on black friday where she worked overnight) i even told her days before if she was sure that she wanted to do that since she’d be tired but she said that she was down to meet up. That was for me my first flake, I honestly felt like ****. I stopped talking to her and became distant, once I did that she started saying how she loved me and everything. I started talking with her again but i couldn’t do it for long because then I went silent again. This time she just wouldn’t text me either.. We went silent for like a month and then I decided to cut ties with her. I texted her that I just wanted to go my seperate way, she later one texted me how she felt that she just wanted to give me my space and how she didn’t feel that she did anything bad. I confessed to her again that I loved her and that I really wanted to be with her but I just felt that the love wasn’t there. That’s where she confessed that she had fallen in love with me since when I left and that she wanted to be with me, how she saw me as someone she wanted to spend the rest of her life with. We talked on the phone after that and she brought up the idea of a LDR. I was against it at first but honestly, I haven’t felt love like this in a long time, I decided to accept it and give it a shot. It’s been a week since then and we’ve been talking almost every day, we laugh and joke from time to time but everything just feels akward. She only calls me baby or love when i first call her something and it just all feels exactly the same as it did when we were friends
I guess my question is, should I move on and leave her in the past or should I try this out. Also how does day to day love feel like? Oh and any tips for people who recently moved to a new city?
