Glassguy
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Just a few of the things that I closely follow when I am spinning a plate, dating a woman or fwb. Trust me, it works for me.
There are no short cuts to having decent looks, being financially stable and also having a good personality (fun, laid back and strong charisma):
1. If you're confused, she isnt.
Think about that for a few minutes.
When a woman's actions (conversations, texts, etc) are confusing you and coming across as mixed signals: She is being very clear with you. You just arent listening.
How to solve the problem: Simply vanish. If a woman is unclear or confusing to me, I eject. I dont even say bye. If her interest is high enough she will return rather quickly and her communication will be much clearer when she does.
I will bet you that out of the 3 current plates I have right now, they will all say that I am tough to figure out and that I send them mixed messages. In actuality I dont send them mixed messages. I simply dont tell them what they want to hear all of the time and that creates an internal turmoil inside of them. In the business of fvcking women, that is good for business. Someone is going to be confused. If it is you, then you are doing something wrong OR the woman's interest is low and you havent figured it out yet.
2. No first date dinners
Ever. Its always drinks. For several reasons- I am seeing multiple women and even though I do fine financially, I will not spend $75 3-4 times a week for dates. I will keep my investment low so if I need to pull out its very easy. I also do not want to give off the "I am looking for a relationship vibe" by buying dinner. Its 2, maybe 3 drinks. I am a busy man. Who has time to go sit at a restaurant for 2 hours if you are a busy man?
How to resolve the problem: If she says "you can take me to dinner" if you invite her for drinks, you simply say "I have limited time on Tuesday evening. I can meet you for a couple of drinks but then I need to get back to get stuff done (whatever). If that doesnt work for you, maybe we can try again some other time". Thats it. She either accepts or you move on like dust in the wind. Many women will use this as a shyte test to see if you are a beta male provider. They dont want dinner, but they want to see if they can get you to lose frame by taking them out to dinner. Stick to your guns.
3. Pursuing
I will pursue in the beginning. I will let them know that I want to meet them for drinks. Thats pretty clear on my intent. However I will never double text. I always assume that she got my text and its her choice to respond back. Guess what? If my text didnt go through she will think I just up and bounced and will hit me up again anyways. Never double text, never call her again if she doesnt answer. One attempt at communication goes unnoticed and I will vanish unless she picks the conversation back up.
How to solve the problem: Simple. Follow what I just said above.
4. Dates for sex
I used to think the 3 date rule was garbage. Guess what? I still do.
I can smash most of these chicks on the first date or second date. I will go to a 3rd date and possibly a fourth. Time wise that is one week to a month. If it doesnt happen then....well I am not sticking around to see how long it takes.
5. I get the best deal on the table
The best negotiating tool that ever was and ever will be.....is the ability to walk away. If a woman isnt doing what I want her to do for me, if she is being confusing, not making getting her out for drinks easy, disrespect, etc....I just walk. And I dont tell anyone I am leaving.
You must maintain frame guys. If interest on both sides is very high, someone will give in. That cant be you. Even in a FWB situation you cannot afford to allow a woman to assume control.
If things arent going well regardless of whatever type of relationship it is, just vanish. Fall off the earth. Sit back and see how long it takes before she comes back with her tail between her legs trying to make things right.
And if she doesnt? Oh well. This is why you should have a 2-4 girl rotation so that you dont have to put up with one woman's bullshyte. Trust me when I tell you that its REALLY easy to vanish from one when you have 3 others over her that are happy to get a "hey" text from you.
6. High standards
I am not over here smashing buck tooth Becky from the trailer park fellas. I am not smashing the chick who is putting mustard on the burgers at McD's.
I am spinning women who all are financially stable, most have grad degrees and make well over $100k. It makes things EASY because they arent looking so much for a man to be a financial provider because they already have that security in themselves. They are looking at me as a fun, laid back guy who is a LTR possibility and then the chase is on to catch me.
When you deal with women who know they have high value and worth it is much easier IMO as long as you have high value and worth as well. You must have high standards. That includes looks, finances, personality, etc.
Even my plates are all LTR possibilities. They ALL offer to pay when we are out. About half the time I let them so that they are invested. But they ALL offer. You guys getting your heads warped by chicks who dont even have a job....let alone some type of high earning skill or degree. SMH.
If you want to eat with the pigs you'll soon be eating what they eat. Nah. Glassguy has higher expectations.
You'll never reach higher with anything if you are comfortable being at the base level. Women included.
There are no short cuts to having decent looks, being financially stable and also having a good personality (fun, laid back and strong charisma):
1. If you're confused, she isnt.
Think about that for a few minutes.
When a woman's actions (conversations, texts, etc) are confusing you and coming across as mixed signals: She is being very clear with you. You just arent listening.
How to solve the problem: Simply vanish. If a woman is unclear or confusing to me, I eject. I dont even say bye. If her interest is high enough she will return rather quickly and her communication will be much clearer when she does.
I will bet you that out of the 3 current plates I have right now, they will all say that I am tough to figure out and that I send them mixed messages. In actuality I dont send them mixed messages. I simply dont tell them what they want to hear all of the time and that creates an internal turmoil inside of them. In the business of fvcking women, that is good for business. Someone is going to be confused. If it is you, then you are doing something wrong OR the woman's interest is low and you havent figured it out yet.
2. No first date dinners
Ever. Its always drinks. For several reasons- I am seeing multiple women and even though I do fine financially, I will not spend $75 3-4 times a week for dates. I will keep my investment low so if I need to pull out its very easy. I also do not want to give off the "I am looking for a relationship vibe" by buying dinner. Its 2, maybe 3 drinks. I am a busy man. Who has time to go sit at a restaurant for 2 hours if you are a busy man?
How to resolve the problem: If she says "you can take me to dinner" if you invite her for drinks, you simply say "I have limited time on Tuesday evening. I can meet you for a couple of drinks but then I need to get back to get stuff done (whatever). If that doesnt work for you, maybe we can try again some other time". Thats it. She either accepts or you move on like dust in the wind. Many women will use this as a shyte test to see if you are a beta male provider. They dont want dinner, but they want to see if they can get you to lose frame by taking them out to dinner. Stick to your guns.
3. Pursuing
I will pursue in the beginning. I will let them know that I want to meet them for drinks. Thats pretty clear on my intent. However I will never double text. I always assume that she got my text and its her choice to respond back. Guess what? If my text didnt go through she will think I just up and bounced and will hit me up again anyways. Never double text, never call her again if she doesnt answer. One attempt at communication goes unnoticed and I will vanish unless she picks the conversation back up.
How to solve the problem: Simple. Follow what I just said above.
4. Dates for sex
I used to think the 3 date rule was garbage. Guess what? I still do.
I can smash most of these chicks on the first date or second date. I will go to a 3rd date and possibly a fourth. Time wise that is one week to a month. If it doesnt happen then....well I am not sticking around to see how long it takes.
5. I get the best deal on the table
The best negotiating tool that ever was and ever will be.....is the ability to walk away. If a woman isnt doing what I want her to do for me, if she is being confusing, not making getting her out for drinks easy, disrespect, etc....I just walk. And I dont tell anyone I am leaving.
You must maintain frame guys. If interest on both sides is very high, someone will give in. That cant be you. Even in a FWB situation you cannot afford to allow a woman to assume control.
If things arent going well regardless of whatever type of relationship it is, just vanish. Fall off the earth. Sit back and see how long it takes before she comes back with her tail between her legs trying to make things right.
And if she doesnt? Oh well. This is why you should have a 2-4 girl rotation so that you dont have to put up with one woman's bullshyte. Trust me when I tell you that its REALLY easy to vanish from one when you have 3 others over her that are happy to get a "hey" text from you.
6. High standards
I am not over here smashing buck tooth Becky from the trailer park fellas. I am not smashing the chick who is putting mustard on the burgers at McD's.
I am spinning women who all are financially stable, most have grad degrees and make well over $100k. It makes things EASY because they arent looking so much for a man to be a financial provider because they already have that security in themselves. They are looking at me as a fun, laid back guy who is a LTR possibility and then the chase is on to catch me.
When you deal with women who know they have high value and worth it is much easier IMO as long as you have high value and worth as well. You must have high standards. That includes looks, finances, personality, etc.
Even my plates are all LTR possibilities. They ALL offer to pay when we are out. About half the time I let them so that they are invested. But they ALL offer. You guys getting your heads warped by chicks who dont even have a job....let alone some type of high earning skill or degree. SMH.
If you want to eat with the pigs you'll soon be eating what they eat. Nah. Glassguy has higher expectations.
You'll never reach higher with anything if you are comfortable being at the base level. Women included.
