Girlfriend Is Behaving Distant?

SoSuave666

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They are NEVER free of past boyfriend or boyfriends. She will continually gauge how much you effect her chemically in comparison to exes.

The problem is it gets harder and harder to feel really strong chemicals over time.
You speak of pair bonding. Not enough people pay attention to it.

Men need to realize women are cold af these days because they have so many options/so much sex, they legit can move on in days. When you get into a relationship with a woman her ex boyfriends are default more alpha than you.
 

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You speak of pair bonding. Not enough people pay attention to it.

Men need to realize women are cold af these days because they have so many options/so much sex, they legit can move on in days. When you get into a relationship with a woman her ex boyfriends are default more alpha than you.
You got a good point there, but i dont think it is always a factor. I would say it depends on many factors of her previous relationship.
 

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Block.
Two reasons why guys don’t block chicks who dump them,

1. They don’t want to close that line of communication. They want the woman to reach out to them, even if they say they don’t.

2. They fear that it will show they are butthurt.

You are in her frame with either 1 or 2. Butthurt?! She is too busy swallowing her new dudes load to even care, doesn’t have an ounce of respect for you and guys are worried about looking butthurt. Block, delete and move on.
 

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I've shared this before but a must watch for this scenario. Dumped through a text message after 2 years and not even a phone call? Move on...

 

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Don't you guys think, blocking her on Whatsapp, may come across to her as me being seriously butt hurt?

I mean I actually agree with the breakup.. I was a dumb ass for investing in a woman I cannot be with for years..

So why not just let her text me if she dicedes to, and I just ignore her.

I don't have on any other social media at all.. I don't use Facebook or Instagram etc etc.

Hmm realistically, you shouldn't care how it looks to her, she is dead, ghost, nada.

But I sympathise and understand what you are saying, personally I would delete her number, therefore you have no desire to contact her, if she contacts you, well then she is operating in your frame and you can choose to ignore etc etc.

My thoughts.
 

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I sense a bit of ego preservation here and I would recommend you look at what led you to spend 2 years in an LDR with a supposed low quality woman. These qualities dont just miraculously show up one day, they are inherent parts of a persons character that we often choose to ignore.

I wouldnt write her off as garbage without throwing yourself in the mix. You spent a significant amount of time with this woman, which is a strong reflection of your character as well.
 

ubercat

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What I don't get man is why you can't find better local options. A ldr with a single lady is tough but doable. She might decide to move I sure as hell wouldn't move for her.

But one with the kid and ex in the picture. Total suicide run. U been here for a while mate you've got to be smarter than that. now if it was just some fun and games and you like to travel occasionally sure. but you keep saying relationship. It just seems like you keep putting yourself in harm's way.
 

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What I don't get man is why you can't find better local options. A ldr with a single lady is tough but doable. She might decide to move I sure as hell wouldn't move for her.

But one with the kid and ex in the picture. Total suicide run. U been here for a while mate you've got to be smarter than that. now if it was just some fun and games and you like to travel occasionally sure. but you keep saying relationship. It just seems like you keep putting yourself in harm's way.

Well it kinda worked for me for a while, the distance.. However for a committed relationship, LDR is a waste of time.

Lesson learned.
 

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Mate you are cherry picking from the replies to protect your ego. LDR is the smaller part. You're obviously relationship oriented. Why do you keep picking woman it's unlikely to work out with?
 
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