Girlfriend Is Behaving Distant?

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I am very angry, that after 2 years together of a rather happy relationship, she sent a crappy little text message.

This is why, Ignore and ghost seems like the appropriate step to take moving forward
Yep thats the way to go.

Just dont do like some ppl here rationalizing getting in touch with for w/e reasons.

Thats a weak....
 

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Aka, she probably still had feelings for the ex. The recent was just an excuse for an easy out…

Its a possibility man.. but I doubt it.. her Ex is met a new girl and he married her.

They live together now.. So doubt she is seeing him.

Could be fukin anything... I could sense the distance between us from Tuesday onwards... But I didn't want to chase or confront her about it, incase it came across as being needy.

I just thought... give her some space
 

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I am very angry, that after 2 years together of a rather happy relationship, she sent a crappy little text message.

This is why, Ignore and ghost seems like the appropriate step to take moving forward
You're getting blackpilled bruh. She seems all Ms. Demure for two straight years and then BAM! goes low key savage and drops the ax via SMS. Women are ultimate masters of passive aggressive soul stealing game.
 

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Yep thats the way to go.

Just dont do like some ppl here rationalizing getting in touch with for w/e reasons.

Thats a weak....

She aint getting nothing off me man... I treated this chick well, looked after her.. and this is her level of loyalty? She is history man!
 

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You're getting blackpilled bruh. She seems all Ms. Demure for two straight years and then BAM! goes low key savage and drops the ax via SMS. Women are ultimate masters of passive aggressive soul stealing game.

They are MASTER manipulaters.. Two years, and you feel like everything is great... then BHAM... fukin gone in a second
 

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I'm guessing, just ignore her/ghost and move on is the best option?

I could send her a text and just say, 'no problem good luck' but I doubt that will achieve anything.

Going to be a few rough months ahead, but will have to fight through it somehow!
 

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Its a possibility man.. but I doubt it.. her Ex is met a new girl and he married her.

They live together now.. So doubt she is seeing him.
Doesn’t really matter what her ex is currently doing. If she had strong leftover feelings, it raises the real possibility that you were only her rebound…
 

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Doesn’t really matter what her ex is currently doing. If she had strong leftover feelings, it raises the real possibility that you were only a rebound…
Two year rebound? I doubt it man, but who knows.

She was 1 years single before she met me.. Unlikely she is involved with ex.

However.. Its highly likely, the ex messed her upto the point, that she is not able to invest in a man again.

Also could have been low or average interest on her part, its difficult to tell.

She always wanted to see me though. I must admit its thrown me, as its kinda come out of the blue

Maybe that one little argument we had, made her feel distant..

It wasn't even a fukin major argument.

Either way, i'm never going to get the real answer, or get any closure, so no point worrying about it.

Have to expect its for the best and its over.

I just wish I didn't invest 2 years in her.
 

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Two year rebound? I doubt it man, but who knows.

She was 1 years single before she met me.. Unlikely she is involved with ex.

However.. Its highly likely, the ex messed her upto the point, that she is not able to invest in a man again.

Also could have been low or average interest on her part, its difficult to tell.

She always wanted to see me though. I must admit its thrown me, as its kinda come out of the blue

Maybe that one little argument we had, made her feel distant..

It wasn't even a fukin major argument.

Either way, i'm never going to get the real answer, or get any closure, so no point worrying about it.

Have to expect its for the best and its over.

I just wish I didn't invest 2 years in her.
Well, she’s in your rearview mirror now, but for future reference a woman that actually says her feelings are messed up is a huge red flag.
 

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Well, she’s in your rearview mirror now, but for future reference a woman that actually says her feelings are messed up is a huge red flag.

She hid this very well... She only mentioned it 3 weeks ago..

Everything started making sense since she mentioned it.

I wondered why she wasn't effectionate and loving etc.. She was a little, but she was holding back.
 

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Long distance alpha widow single mom that broke up with you over text after 2 years? Yea...ghost her and don't ever look back. You dodged a major bullet.
That's how i'm looking at it.. She hid things well.. Defo an alpha widow, and 4 more years of long distance? Zero chance of a successful relationship
 

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Should I just ignore her, and not respond back?

Or simply agree with the break up, and say "Thats fine with me good luck"
Sorry to hear that, soulforge. It might be painful, but as with most breakups, probably for the best in the long run.

As for your options, I would say:
Does it really matter? Either choice looks like a legitimate response to me. But it seems like you're looking for the perfect DJ move here, and I just don't think it matters that much. As long as you aren't damaging your self respect, which you're not.

If you're looking to cause her the most pain or anguish, the ignoring/ghost thing is probably your choice.
I just don't think that in the grand scheme of things, which one you choose is really going to matter much.
More important is that you maintain a healthy positive attitude and move on in the right direction.
Keep your chin up, brother.
 

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Sorry to hear that, soulforge. It might be painful, but as with most breakups, probably for the best in the long run.

As for your options, I would say:
Does it really matter? Either choice looks like a legitimate response to me. But it seems like you're looking for the perfect DJ move here, and I just don't think it matters that much. As long as you aren't damaging your self respect, which you're not.

If you're looking to cause her the most pain or anguish, the ignoring/ghost thing is probably your choice.
I just don't think that in the grand scheme of things, which one you choose is really going to matter much.
More important is that you maintain a healthy positive attitude and move on in the right direction.
Keep your chin up, brother.

Zekko thanks Bruv, I appreciate the kind words.

I'm excepting the fact that its truly over.. I am also realising that I made mistakes.

Investing in a woman, with no possibility of actually really being together till 4-5 years down the line was foolish of me.

And this is why I feel the breakup is the best thing for me.. Better now, than few more years down the line.

I guess my anger stems from the fact, that I treated this woman well at all times.. And all I got was a crappy text message lol

This is why Ghosting is the way forward.. There is nothing else to say.

My doors are closed to her.. Forever!
 

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@soulforge great advice here listen to it. Everyone has been on point! I would strongly suggest a ghost tactic. My ex told me her feelings were messed up, single mom, baggage, stopped being affectionate. Please listen it's not gonna end well a strong ghost tactic will be the cure. And do not go back no matter how much she messages you.
 

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@soulforge great advice here listen to it. Everyone has been on point! I would strongly suggest a ghost tactic. My ex told me her feelings were messed up, single mom, baggage, stopped being affectionate. Please listen it's not gonna end well a strong ghost tactic will be the cure. And do not go back no matter how much she messages you.
Thanks brother.. My plan is to ghost 100%

I treated this woman better than any man has before.. Not in a million years would I take her back.. My trust for her is gone!

Let the animals have her now, and continue treating her like garbage.
 

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I guess my anger stems from the fact, that I treated this woman well at all times.. And all I got was a crappy text message lol!
Well, there's no good way to do it.
It sucks that women are usually the ones who initiate breakups, but I've heard that one reason for this is because females are more attuned to relationships than we are. They know it's over before we do usually. That's given me some small comfort in the past.
It's definitely hard to maintain a long distance relationship.
 

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@soulforge are you sure your not me in a different body? Lol?? Right.... our story sounds very very similar indeed. I spent over 3000k on my last one and I'm in the same position as you.. speaking of which I just got a text her asking for money roflmao
 

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Well, there's no good way to do it.
It sucks that women are usually the ones who initiate breakups, but I've heard that one reason for this is because females are more attuned to relationships than we are. They know it's over before we do usually. That's given me some small comfort in the past.
It's definitely hard to maintain a long distance relationship.
We managed long distance for two years, but another 4-5 years of it would have been impossible.

Plus the fact that she was holding back emotionally and she NEVER discussed the future.. I.e future plans..

Just doesn't seem a relationship worth investing in any longer.
 

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@soulforge are you sure your not me in a different body? Lol?? Right.... our story sounds very very similar indeed. I spent over 3000k on my last one and I'm in the same position as you.. speaking of which I just got a text her asking for money roflmao

Don't give her chit lol

To be honest I never spent much money on my ex, she always paid her way
 
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