I’m with Dash in playing with words entirely. His and Her words were just that ... words, and Dash showed some social intelligence by looking beyond them. Though, I say this for general discussion and want to qualify this general point further now that the discussion has ended. I disagree with two things that Dash did.
1) When she asked what he what he was looking for and he said nothing serious.
Many Women do not want to be used like rubber band and thrown away, or even as a FB in such an open delineation. Even many FBs would like to hear it may turn into something more down the road. They feel a sense of violation both within themselves and within society (ASD). By being so open as to your intent of FB, you are arresting her ego. Especially given she had a bf, she was relationship-minded, so it was apparent that any answer that went against that mindset would not assuage her ASD concerns.
Now this does not mean that some girls are not dtf only, but rather on a larger scale by playing the numbers, most aren’t in such an open fashion, so the answer to her question of his intent should be more refined to assuage her ego in consideration of the above.
It benefits their ego and themselves to play pretenses even while they very well understand the sub-context.
2)I don’t do chicks with bfs/husbands.
It’s just bad business, akin to entering a business deal and hurting a client long term, but not short-. Not my style nor desire/intent, and nothing I want to surround myself with especially considering there are thousands of hot women who are single.
Even though others will enable such situations with,” if I don’t, someone else will,” I won’t enable such a context.
Ultimately my grander purpose is give this world much more than I have taken (and I have taken much without regard for others), and this specific dynamic does not fit into this ideology.
