jnMissouri
Master Don Juan
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Background: she is a colleague from another department. She got my number via a mutual female colleague. It's been about two months and we went out on a date recently. She Always takes two steps forward one step back, as in, she'll put up a little road block or availability issue when I ask her out the first time, but she comes right back forward the next time, especially if I pull away by not texting her for a couple weeks, etc. After our first date she texted me about 30 minutes later saying she had a great time, etc. I suggested that she cook us dinner at her place next time. She agreed.
I went to ask her if she had anything good to eat for dinner for us about 4 days later, and she said not yet. Note she said not YET...
So I joke about what I'm going to do with her since she hasn't done that yet and she comes back with how she has been busy (my line I always give her) because she is starting to exercise and take English classes. So I tell her I can help her get a workout (wink wink) and I'll teach her English if she teaches me her language, but yet telling her at in the same text that maybe she is right (as in maybe she is too busy), so as to take myself away if she doesn't bite at the options I presented her. She comes back with laughter (this was via text) and asks about the details of the exercise and I tell her I'll have to setup a time to short her. We ran into each other at the office since this exchange, strong eye contact, a little flirting, but low key since people were around us.
So I'm about to ask her out again and these are some of the options for a text I'm thinking of sending her:
A) Text her the unexpected: since she is expecting me to ask her out again, ask her what kind of music she likes or if she likes to dance. Then after that exchange ask her out. Be unpredictable.
B) Text her asking what her schedule is like. Then suggest watching a movie together X day. Asking what her schedule is like worked well for our first date. We had tried to meet up a couple times and schedules didn't match. After a few weeks went by and I contacted her again (after she came and talked to me at the office to show interest still) I asked her out this way, asking what her schedule was like and she told me she was doing X with her family on one day, and Y on another, but that she was free to hang out Saturday if we wanted to do something...so I set something up for that Saturday.
C) Tell her to clear her schedule Saturday. When she asks why, tell her it's a surprise... (I'm going to her place though). It's a little bit dominant but also mysterious.
D) Joke about going to Vegas together, then scale back to just hanging out and watching a movie at her place together. This escalates two steps forward after our first date by suggesting a trip out of town, yet scaling it back after by saying maybe we should just stay in and watch a movie. A little change of direction.
E) ?
I went to ask her if she had anything good to eat for dinner for us about 4 days later, and she said not yet. Note she said not YET...
So I joke about what I'm going to do with her since she hasn't done that yet and she comes back with how she has been busy (my line I always give her) because she is starting to exercise and take English classes. So I tell her I can help her get a workout (wink wink) and I'll teach her English if she teaches me her language, but yet telling her at in the same text that maybe she is right (as in maybe she is too busy), so as to take myself away if she doesn't bite at the options I presented her. She comes back with laughter (this was via text) and asks about the details of the exercise and I tell her I'll have to setup a time to short her. We ran into each other at the office since this exchange, strong eye contact, a little flirting, but low key since people were around us.
So I'm about to ask her out again and these are some of the options for a text I'm thinking of sending her:
A) Text her the unexpected: since she is expecting me to ask her out again, ask her what kind of music she likes or if she likes to dance. Then after that exchange ask her out. Be unpredictable.
B) Text her asking what her schedule is like. Then suggest watching a movie together X day. Asking what her schedule is like worked well for our first date. We had tried to meet up a couple times and schedules didn't match. After a few weeks went by and I contacted her again (after she came and talked to me at the office to show interest still) I asked her out this way, asking what her schedule was like and she told me she was doing X with her family on one day, and Y on another, but that she was free to hang out Saturday if we wanted to do something...so I set something up for that Saturday.
C) Tell her to clear her schedule Saturday. When she asks why, tell her it's a surprise... (I'm going to her place though). It's a little bit dominant but also mysterious.
D) Joke about going to Vegas together, then scale back to just hanging out and watching a movie at her place together. This escalates two steps forward after our first date by suggesting a trip out of town, yet scaling it back after by saying maybe we should just stay in and watch a movie. A little change of direction.
E) ?
