Do I do anything or just leave it alone?

[Murk]

I did start to kiss her and started moving my hands all over her body, thighs, ass, sticked my hand under her shirt, started touching her back. Thing is, she started acting weird during this and the moment I was about to get turned on, I got turned off. As I said, when you're having regular sex with different girls, you're not rock hard and ready to go all the time. I guess it is even a psychological thing of not having to play games anymore. The 4 girls on rotation don't play games. They come hungry and willing, they "grab me by the ****" LOL

You should tone it down. You have your own ways of seducing women, I have mine. You've had 22 girls in London last year, I've had about the same number in my city. Usually, girls come here wanting to bang and there is no need to act weird. I usually don't like period sex, cannot stand the smell even if it's the last day, blood during sex, any type of blood, turns me off massively. I wasn't sex hungry, I didn't act like it and I was willing to wait out the second time when should would not be on her period, so I said fack it, let's lay around and have a nice convo, you go home, you come back 3-4 days later or next week and we get it on properly. Apparently, she changed her mind for it and that's OK. I understand she might have (who knows) wanted to be ravaged, but that's not my way, I'm not the stallion waiting to mount her. I am calm and composed, I like sex and the whole foreplay to be smooth. I usually lead it and there is no resistance or there is resistance that leads to sex anyways.

Ok fair enough, I know that feel when you’re banging multiple girls and that “hunger just is not there” I had it last Saturday when my housemate Sara came home from Oz, the previous night I’d banged a girl and again in the morning, Uber homer and Sara arrives 2 hours later. “I’ve waited three weeks” she says, horny, I’m disinterested, I get the kamagra, glass of water, delay her 15 min and then bang her.

If you don’t want the sex why invite a girl over? We are not machines, you get sex and you wanna chill, you bang regularly and the hunger is not there so i get you. She didn’t feel the hunger from you and dried up. Simple.

“Hey babe, sorry about last night, was just so tired and not really feeling it like usual, come over tonight/tomorrow and I’ll show you what’s up”

That requires belief you will actually show up and perform, you flop after that message your done, but you perform and everything is forgotto . Ask her for another chance, don’t wank or watch porn, pop a kamagra/viagra and do the lizardking name justice. If she’s has bought into you as a person, she will give you another shot. Don’t listen to people here saying it’s done, it’s done only when you allow it.

Get her over again with a promise of a good time and deliver on that.

Period sex: never noticed a smell or mess, I lay a towel but never necessary, I’m not banging girls on heavy flow.

Also you are missing one key point: human nature. You will never know why she changed her mind, if it’s repeated with different girls then you have a problem. As it stands, forget it, could be anything, maybe you touched her and it reminded her of some
Dude that abused her, maybe your breath or bed sheets smelled, maybe she acually
Likes you and regretted putting out so easily.

The first rule is the not give a fvck mate and soldier on.

 

[Spaz]

A different perspective here...something for you to consider.

There are some girls who would purposely go to a man's house, make him all excited and then exit without giving him a fvck.

Then they would gather all their bff and tell their story...having a good laugh and thereby cementing her social "prowess" within her group of female friends.

She now has major standing within her group.

If you contact her again - it will cement your reputation as a typical beta or it will serve the ego of the girl within her circle of friends.

 

[jnMissouri]

If she's not 'feeling it' it's done. This happens all the time to ALL of us. Don't take it personal because there really nothing you can do to turn this around. Your behavior can be a big part of this, but there isn't a whole lot you can do to fix this short term... you have to become a better man. There is no magic pill, everything starts and stops with you mindset.... which is the most difficult thing to fix.

But always remember that even though you do everything right, there is no guarantee that anything is going to happen. The chick has in her mind her emotionally wants, and if you do not meet this then she will lose attraction. Chicks... especially hot chicks will always have options and she really doesn't care about the dude, only about how the dude makes HER feel. To most women men are just useful tools to fill her needs, and we can just be plugged in and out based on her emotional whims.

I agree with this. She WAS into it at some point, but judging by your post, it sounds like you didn't close the deal like she wanted you to. She seemed to put forward ALL of the signs. I mean, she asked you out for a drink, then she invited herself over instead, she was practically jacking you off while telling you she sleeps with guys she is into on the first date. And what happened? Did you have her blow you? NOPE. Did you bust your load in her mouth since she was offering to jack you off? NOPE. I think she was a slut who moved on to a guy who recognized she is and treated her like one. Heck, I am dating a girl like this now. We have sex in the bathroom in public places and at my work. I initiated this with her rather than her with me and she obliged. Now imagine if she tried to initiate it with me and I didn't do anything. That's what happened here....IMO.

 

[jnMissouri]

She just not deserve your attention just for her validation. No contact. Move on.

The reality is though that she will be "validated" by someone else. It's not like hot girls don't get validation just because ONE guy doesn't give her attention. I think some people are too keen to just quit with this no contact move on business. I'd create competition, basically find a discreet way to let her know you're dating other women. You'd be surprised how effective this is at re-kindling her attraction/attention.

 

[redskinsfan92]

The reality is though that she will be "validated" by someone else. It's not like hot girls don't get validation just because ONE guy doesn't give her attention. I think some people are too keen to just quit with this no contact move on business. I'd create competition, basically find a discreet way to let her know you're dating other women. You'd be surprised how effective this is at re-kindling her attraction/attention.

Whether she finds validation elsewhere does not matter. In order to make your attention more valuable it must be scarce.

 

[jnMissouri]

Whether she finds validation elsewhere does not matter. In order to make your attention more valuable it must be scarce.

First you said not to validate her, don't contact her. And now you are saying whether she finds validation elsewhere doesn't matter. Do you really not understand that your statements contradict each other? Here is the reality of the situation: hot women have options. They are not going to sit at home telling other men no because they are waiting for you to validate them as if you are the only man in the world to validate her. All that happens if you completely back out is competition will move on her unabated.

But go ahead and keep thinking that merely not talking to her anymore is not going to validate her and that other men validating her has no bearing on the situation at all. As I said, there are 1,000 guys ready to validate all over her face and she won't give a damn whether you are talking to her anymore or not. She won't even notice. Merely being scarce doesn't create value or attraction. You can't create attraction if you are not even on her mind. Sparking attraction, hooking her on you and THEN making yourself a little unavailable sure, but merely not contacting her just doesn't work.

 

[redskinsfan92]

First you said not to validate her, don't contact her. And now you are saying whether she finds validation elsewhere doesn't matter. Do you really not understand that your statements contradict each other? Here is the reality of the situation: hot women have options. They are not going to sit at home telling other men no because they are waiting for you to validate them as if you are the only man in the world to validate her. All that happens if you completely back out is competition will move on her unabated.

But go ahead and keep thinking that merely not talking to her anymore is not going to validate her and that other men validating her has no bearing on the situation at all. As I said, there are 1,000 guys ready to validate all over her face and she won't give a damn whether you are talking to her anymore or not. She won't even notice. Merely being scarce doesn't create value or attraction. You can't create attraction if you are not even on her mind. Sparking attraction, hooking her on you and THEN making yourself a little unavailable sure, but merely not contacting her just doesn't work.

What I am saying is if things are not escalating then stop giving her attention. Waste of your time that could be spent on a woman who is interested. If she goes with other 1,000 guys cool. Plenty of other women.

 

[lizardking82]

@Spaz she's not that type of girl. She has no pics with any girl friends, no pics with any sisters, she didn't talk about any of them LOL her only "friends" are the 3 other girls she shares an apartment here in the city. She's more like a lone wolf type of girl and in this case, I tend to "like" @Murkserious idea that maybe she didn't feel the hunger or sth else unknown happened and she dried up.

Thing is, it's been 4 days now since we last communicated.

 

[Spaz]

She was in your bed and you didn’t bang? I’ve said this many times to guys posting similar scenarios... you whip your fvcking hard **** out, grab her wrist (gently) and make her grab your hard pulsating member while you kiss her neck and suck her earlobes and that’s murder she wrote, wham bam thank you mam. Maybe not enough kissing/sensuality to get her in the mood?

More aggressive in the approach once she is in bed/bedroom.

Many guys think the girl is gonna take charge and lead to sex on the first time, these guys make posts like this. Rarely you will find a confident wh0re to do all the work. Have a routine you go through: kissing, groping, pushing hard **** on her, take it out while kissing, push it against her while out, if she’s hasnt already... guide her hand there... whisper “I hope you know we’re not having sex”
Bit more kissing and rubbing, boxers come straight off, tit grab, tit suck, neck kiss, hand goes wandering, spread lips/play with cliit/gauge wetness

Jesus, shall I come and bang these broads for you?

LOL!

Exactly.

If a chick is on my bed it's 100% fvcking time.

Aggression all the way.

There's NO way a simple NO will be taken as a NO by then.

 

[Spaz]

@Spaz she's not that type of girl. She has no pics with any girl friends, no pics with any sisters, she didn't talk about any of them LOL her only "friends" are the 3 other girls she shares an apartment here in the city. She's more like a lone wolf type of girl and in this case, I tend to "like" @Murkserious idea that maybe she didn't feel the hunger or sth else unknown happened and she dried up.

Thing is, it's been 4 days now since we last communicated.

My bad I just read ur initial post then posted my 1st post without reading the whole thread LOL

Yeah I'm in agreement with Murk here.

Next time a chick is in ur bed - let the d1ck do all the action.

 

[lizardking82]

If you guys were to hit her up again after 4 days of no contact at all, how would you?

 

[Murk]

It’s all learning, I’ve shared a bed and not banged, I learned what to do in that situation and have never been back there. As long as you are learning that every bad experience in life is valuable.

If you guys were to hit her up again after 4 days of no contact at all, how would you?

I told you above in my post, tell her you were tired, off day, whatever, and promise to put the situation right this time come over for a drink.

 

[lizardking82]

It’s all learning, I’ve shared a bed and not banged, I learned what to do in that situation and have never been back there. As long as you are learning that every bad experience in life is valuable.


I told you above in my post, tell her you were tired, off day, whatever, and promise to put the situation right this time come over for a drink.

Do I call her or text her?

 

[Murk]

Do I call her or text her?

Call, you can be more persuasive, laugh a little and make it into a joke, she’s less likely to say know on the phone too

 

[marmel75]

Sounds like lack of escalation on your part turned her off

 

[guru1000]

Likely dead. Interested women don’t behave this way, not so much that you didn’t bang her, but her not feeling it and her lack of interest thereafter.

It’s part of the game. When you get more seasoned, you will be able to identify exactly why and where she dried up, which was somewhere between her coming to your apt through the point that you identified she was not feeling it.

As what to do: whenever you find yourself in doubt of what to do in a social situation, do nothing.

 

[lizardking82]

I guess it did turn her off the way I took it easy. After some thinking of it, I think it is not worth toying with the situation any longer. As @guru1000 said, an interested woman does not behave like this. I will leave it be.

 

[guru1000]

I guess it did turn her off the way I took it easy. After some thinking of it, I think it is not worth toying with the situation any longer. As @guru1000 said, an interested woman does not behave like this. I will leave it be.

Sometimes it has nothing to do with what you do or not do. Just the vibe wasn’t there.

My best girls I did nothing, just showed up, and they were gaga. The worst girls didn’t matter what I did, it was not going to happen.

That’s why the pro strategy is to let her work to demonstrate her investment. If you feel the vibe was off, let her be when the date ends. The onus is not always on you to make this happen; she’s gotta put in some effort too.

 

[flowtheory]

Yea man, I’d stop thinking what went wrong or what to do with her. Look at your actions and lack thereof of then address next time.
Her interest probably plummeted somewhere between seeing you and being in the bed. I think your chicken was cooked before she was even in your bed and at that point she was just going through the motions, because why not? She was already there.

No contact. Move on. Can’t negotite true desire. And you don’t want to be trying to gain her interest back. Plus, why do you care so much if you have 4 others on rotation, as you said.

 

[guru1000]

It’s important for a lot of you guys to understand: the hottest chicks get dissed too. Doesn’t matter if she is a 9, Instagram model with a few million followers, pro or amateur model ... they ALL get dissed and dismissed as well. So don’t let your ego get in the way of understanding that this game is truly a numbers game.