Do you abide by the "bro code" when out socially and around attractive women?

[oc16]

When out at the bar, at a party, concert, etc.

I usually abide by the bro code. If you were talking to her first, I won't interfere. If you know her from the gym or know her from some other context (and she is attractive) ; I won't try and hit on her. (If I am unsure of your feelings towards her)

However, I noticed not all friends abide by this. Is this ****blocking?

Last year I was out with a friend (not a good friend) who met these two women that he knows out. I was getting a good vibe from the one, but out of respect for the bro code; I did not make a move. He knew her first, and maybe he had a thing for her (I am not sure), so I did nothing. However, if the role was reversed, this guy would of went for it without giving a thought to my feelings.

Am I thinking too much? Being too much of a rule follower? Too nice?

 

[oc16]

I do yes

Then there are those "friends " who seem to get envious if you are talking to a hottie or will take jabs at you to make themselves look better.

 

[TheProspect]

Then there are those "friends " who seem to get envious if you are talking to a hottie or will take jabs at you to make themselves look better.

That's them acting out their own insecurity and jealousy, a good friend should be happy and talk you up instead of making it a lose/lose for everybody.

Ultimately, the women will choose who she wants.

 

[zekko]

Bro code my @ss. Is that why they teach "boyfriend destroyers"? And why guys come on here all the time bragging about how some other guy's chick really wants to fvck him?

 

[HughJasolphd]

I'll always follow code if there is a mutual respect between us. I've had times where I could have gotten a chick but I knew my friend liked her so I'd cut it off..in return theyd talk good about me to another chick while I'm out & introduce us to see if there's any chemistry. I've also had "friends" who will still try to pull some slick **** with a girl if I went to the bathroom or something.
One of my exxes came to visit me years ago after I had a surgery for a collapsed lung & my supposed best friend at the time drove her because she was a few yrs younger than us (I was 18, she was 16). When he drove her home after seeing me post op he tried to force her into having sex with him & he dumped a bunch of negative words about me to her about me being weak or something. Obviously, no bro code there lol.

 

[Tilex]

Following the bro code is not the same as going out with a wingman.
The Bro Code = Not f'cking your friend's girlfriend.
But if they aren't in a relationship and they just met that night, it's open game.
And just because he "knows" girls doesn't mean anything.
He could be an orbiter placed in the friend zone with them, and you wouldn't even know it.

 

[fanatic22]

I would never hit on a friend’s gf or date. But if they get rejected by a girl while we’re out, or she’s looked over at me a few times, it’s fair game.

I do have a friend who purposely goes after girls at the bar that I say I like. Honestly I find it hilarious. I have literally had to run in front of him so I could beat him to the approach.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I would never hit on a friend’s gf or date. But if they get rejected by a girl while we’re out, or she’s looked over at me a few times, it’s fair game.

I do have a friend who purposely goes after girls at the bar that I say I like. Honestly I find it hilarious. I have literally had to run in front of him so I could beat him to the approach.

I had a friend like that he was quiet and mopey when we went out, when I chatted up a female he would perk up and insert himself in the convo every damn time. He ended up being jealous of me and randomly deleting me

 

[Bible_Belt]

Do you abide by the "bro code?

Bro or not, "don't sh!t where you eat" ought to be advice enough.

 

[oc16]

When I saw her in gym this morning, I gave her a half ass hello and avoided eye contact when I was in her proximity.

I'm sure she can see I am acting distant.

Am I going about this the right way?

 

[Masculinity]

When out at the bar, at a party, concert, etc.

I usually abide by the bro code. If you were talking to her first, I won't interfere. If you know her from the gym or know her from some other context (and she is attractive) ; I won't try and hit on her. (If I am unsure of your feelings towards her)

However, I noticed not all friends abide by this. Is this ****blocking?

Last year I was out with a friend (not a good friend) who met these two women that he knows out. I was getting a good vibe from the one, but out of respect for the bro code; I did not make a move. He knew her first, and maybe he had a thing for her (I am not sure), so I did nothing. However, if the role was reversed, this guy would of went for it without giving a thought to my feelings.

Am I thinking too much? Being too much of a rule follower? Too nice?

Attraction isn't a choice. The guy who makes the first approach get priority with a chick; however, if a broad likes my buddy more than me, I will not try to manipulate the situation because I know women are abundant.

 

[fanatic22]

I had a friend like that he was quiet and mopey when we went out, when I chatted up a female he would perk up and insert himself in the convo every damn time. He ended up being jealous of me and randomly deleting me

That’s too bad. My friend just thinks it’s fun to make it more of a competition. He doesn’t care who wins.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

That’s too bad. My friend just thinks it’s fun to make it more of a competition. He doesn’t care who wins.

It is to bad we weren't particularly close, he had no reason to be jealous. Women showed him interest to, although he was awkward and had a confused look always. When I go out with other friends who each try and pull a chick or multiple women. If she's down to do the team cheers