SirBigBell
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Dec 28, 2018
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I've been a lurker for a year but have finally decided to come out of the shadows.
Brief intro
I grew up as a weak kid, both in stature and in character. At school I was always one of the smallest boys. I had very little confidence and sometimes got picked on by other kids. In my teens, I started to naturally discover the joys of girls. I had my sporadic success with girls here and there but was never top of the food chain due to my lack of confidence. In my mid 20s my mindset improved a little and I stopped putting women on a pedestal. That simple shift in mindset started to yield incredible results, to my utter shock. My success with girls shot up over night. All of a sudden I had 6 plates spinning. My confidence as a result started to improve, even though I was still ultra skinny. I however was never an 'approacher', and was simply capitalising on the women who initiated and largely feeding on scraps (scavenger style). I guess the fear of rejection was just too great to overcome.
Into my early 30s, life was good. I was on my purpose (career and finances) and my value was going up. I was still spinning plates and not 'pedestalising'.
But even though I was enjoying success with women, at the back of my mind I always felt like I had lots of untapped potential which was being suffocated by my skinny frame. I had a few plates playfully use tags and phrases like "little" and "I will snap you in half"; and even though they didn't mean any harm, that stung like mad. I finally decided that I was going to do something about my body in June 2015. I was 34 years old and weighed 120 pounds and 5ft 7in, a proper ectomorph. I joined a gym and read every fitness article and watched countless fitness videos on Youtube I could find to school myself on lifting and nutrition. I stuck to the program, never skipped a workout and never skipped a meal. After 6 months of grinding my weight had gone up to 154 pounds! (thanks to noob gains). Finally my confidence just exploded. Everybody I knew was astounded by the transformation, women included! My physical transformation saw women who had previously been out of my league suddenly start to show interest. The quality of my plates started to go up, as I dropped poor quality and drafted in more premium specimens. For the very first time in my life I had the boldness to approach female strangers and get results.
I have been lifting for 3 years now and my weight has stabilised at 205 pounds, drug-free! One thing I have noticed is that physical self improvement has many benefits (in career and dating terms) but also has a few downsides. Some friends I used to run with suddenly started to fall back. I stopped getting invitations to functions because they didn't want the attention I was suddenly getting from females. Sometimes the jealousy manifested in little put-downs disguised as banter. I left a job in 2017 because my manager (a man) was starting to constantly looking for opportunities to put me down to try and reassert his dominance, even though I was not a threat to him professionally. With my confidence at an all time high, I looked for an even better job and left.
So why SoSuave now?
I discovered SS in 2017 by mere chance. I have enjoyed just reading posts from the sidelines every now and again. From here I have picked up some tips that have helped me sharpen my game. I have also discovered that there may be others coming up who may benefit form the wealth of experience I have gathered on my personal path. I went from a lifelong weakling to alpha.
Brief intro
I grew up as a weak kid, both in stature and in character. At school I was always one of the smallest boys. I had very little confidence and sometimes got picked on by other kids. In my teens, I started to naturally discover the joys of girls. I had my sporadic success with girls here and there but was never top of the food chain due to my lack of confidence. In my mid 20s my mindset improved a little and I stopped putting women on a pedestal. That simple shift in mindset started to yield incredible results, to my utter shock. My success with girls shot up over night. All of a sudden I had 6 plates spinning. My confidence as a result started to improve, even though I was still ultra skinny. I however was never an 'approacher', and was simply capitalising on the women who initiated and largely feeding on scraps (scavenger style). I guess the fear of rejection was just too great to overcome.
Into my early 30s, life was good. I was on my purpose (career and finances) and my value was going up. I was still spinning plates and not 'pedestalising'.
But even though I was enjoying success with women, at the back of my mind I always felt like I had lots of untapped potential which was being suffocated by my skinny frame. I had a few plates playfully use tags and phrases like "little" and "I will snap you in half"; and even though they didn't mean any harm, that stung like mad. I finally decided that I was going to do something about my body in June 2015. I was 34 years old and weighed 120 pounds and 5ft 7in, a proper ectomorph. I joined a gym and read every fitness article and watched countless fitness videos on Youtube I could find to school myself on lifting and nutrition. I stuck to the program, never skipped a workout and never skipped a meal. After 6 months of grinding my weight had gone up to 154 pounds! (thanks to noob gains). Finally my confidence just exploded. Everybody I knew was astounded by the transformation, women included! My physical transformation saw women who had previously been out of my league suddenly start to show interest. The quality of my plates started to go up, as I dropped poor quality and drafted in more premium specimens. For the very first time in my life I had the boldness to approach female strangers and get results.
I have been lifting for 3 years now and my weight has stabilised at 205 pounds, drug-free! One thing I have noticed is that physical self improvement has many benefits (in career and dating terms) but also has a few downsides. Some friends I used to run with suddenly started to fall back. I stopped getting invitations to functions because they didn't want the attention I was suddenly getting from females. Sometimes the jealousy manifested in little put-downs disguised as banter. I left a job in 2017 because my manager (a man) was starting to constantly looking for opportunities to put me down to try and reassert his dominance, even though I was not a threat to him professionally. With my confidence at an all time high, I looked for an even better job and left.
So why SoSuave now?
I discovered SS in 2017 by mere chance. I have enjoyed just reading posts from the sidelines every now and again. From here I have picked up some tips that have helped me sharpen my game. I have also discovered that there may be others coming up who may benefit form the wealth of experience I have gathered on my personal path. I went from a lifelong weakling to alpha.
