So is Daygame type stuff even worth it in college?

[nicksaiz65]

And by Daygame type stuff, I mean like grabbing coffee with girls or playing foosball with them in the game room type shyt. I’ve finally got it through my head that people in college are obsessed with parties and drugs. And most people hook up through the night scene. But I don’t want to do exclusively that, I want to do some day dates too honestly. Can I do that or should I rely exclusively on parties to get laid in college?

 

[logicallefty]

I’m far done with college but I work near a major university and often go to or near campus for lunch. In watching my surroundings I notice that college guys these days are so lame. They talk to chicks in a metro tone or even sound borderline gay. You can hear “I’m desperate I want your approval” come out of their mouth when what they actually said was “How was your Econ test?” I would think if one of them would act like a real man for five minutes he might actually have a chance because the other 99 guys act like such betas. I only recall A very small handful of times where I actually saw a guy have game. There is this one kid that sticks out in my mind who probably sleeps with all the chicks on campus. Ironically he is this heavyset black kid who most people would call fat. But he busts on the girls and make them laugh so hard. I laugh too. He makes fun of their cloths or their shoes or what they choose to eat for lunch. You can tell he has an I don’t give a fvck attitude and it’s very genuine. The guy has some serious game especially for a fat guy it’s hilarious. But like I said he doesn’t have much competition.

 

[fastlife]

You have to approach a college campus like 'social circle game.' It's all warm approaches (assuming you go there)--think of the school as the mutual friend introducing you.

So I'd approach it like everyone there is already your friend, and you just want to have fun with everybody. That's not to say to be an asexual clown, but if you're not already socially calibrated just focus on being cool and having fun. Wait til you have a little rapport to throw in sexual spikes.

The other side of this coin, is that no matter what school you go to or how hard it parties, that is only the dominant frame--and there are any number of students (including hot girls) who fall outside of that frame. Strong frames demand attention, and the strongest frame wins. So it might feel like everyone only cares about drugs & parties, but there are other, less dominant frames with different sets of realities in that same environment. And each reality has its own set of values. Like if you rolled into the chess club that dope party you went to last weekend would have 0 value to them; but that knight to A11 for checkmate or whatever would be high value to them lol.

Same deal with cities. I live in a city that's cliquish & status-obsessed. That's the dominant frame and if you only focus on that (like a lot of guys on this forum who say it's impossible to game, etc.) that will be the reality you experience. But I happen to have a different frame & a different set of values--and for the most part my day-to-day life aligns with that reality. You have a choice in life: Are you gonna be the kind of guy who reacts to his environment and lets his environment define his value, or are you gonna be the kind of guy who defines his own value and lets the environment react to him?

 

[nicksaiz65]

You have to approach a college campus like 'social circle game.' It's all warm approaches (assuming you go there)--think of the school as the mutual friend introducing you.

So I'd approach it like everyone there is already your friend, and you just want to have fun with everybody. That's not to say to be an asexual clown, but if you're not already socially calibrated just focus on being cool and having fun. Wait til you have a little rapport to throw in sexual spikes.

The other side of this coin, is that no matter what school you go to or how hard it parties, that is only the dominant frame--and there are any number of students (including hot girls) who fall outside of that frame. Strong frames demand attention, and the strongest frame wins. So it might feel like everyone only cares about drugs & parties, but there are other, less dominant frames with different sets of realities in that same environment. And each reality has its own set of values. Like if you rolled into the chess club that dope party you went to last weekend would have 0 value to them; but that knight to A11 for checkmate or whatever would be high value to them lol.

Same deal with cities. I live in a city that's cliquish & status-obsessed. That's the dominant frame and if you only focus on that (like a lot of guys on this forum who say it's impossible to game, etc.) that will be the reality you experience. But I happen to have a different frame & a different set of values--and for the most part my day-to-day life aligns with that reality. You have a choice in life: Are you gonna be the kind of guy who reacts to his environment and lets his environment define his value, or are you gonna be the kind of guy who defines his own value and lets the environment react to him?

I had to reread a couple times to make sure I understood but I think I get it now haha. So for instance, if I talked to a girl at the plaza or in the Cafeteria that’s technically a warm approach because we’re connected through the school right? I’ve been wanting to start some day approaches. I’ve been relying exclusively on night game, online dating, and my immediate social circle so far.

 

[fastlife]

I had to reread a couple times to make sure I understood but I think I get it now haha. So for instance, if I talked to a girl at the plaza or in the Cafeteria that’s technically a warm approach because we’re connected through the school right? I’ve been wanting to start some day approaches. I’ve been relying exclusively on night game, online dating, and my immediate social circle so far.

Exactly. You already have a reason to approach them. You’re part of the same social group lol. Easy stuff, but you can’t be as uninhibited about things since it’s a closed environment & if you accidentally creep someone out it could have repercussions. I’d approach it as, I’m just a cool, sociable person and escalate after you’ve established more rapport.

But more than that, you can apply that same assume familiarity outside of campus. Just assume everyone’s already your friend and every girl already likes you. Frame is powerful stuff. But on a true cold approach there’s far less consequence for failure, so save the really edgy stuff for that.

 

[longtail]

Try it and find out. I

 

[MatureDJ]

 

[Trump]

I want to do some day dates too honestly. Can I do that or should I rely exclusively on parties to get laid in college?

Rely exclusively on parties to get laid in college.