Is this a red flag?

[Designer Man]

Met a girl Who I've texted for about 2 weeks and been out with twice in that time. Over the course of the 2 weeks she has implied that I am her man and she is my girl, asked for kisses and cuddles in texts and comes across a bit insecure. I have a feeling it could get worse. She wants to be in a relationship with me but I've no idea why she is so keen to run before she can walk. I opted to take it easy but she is really in my face. Are these signs of a red flag?

 

[Billtx49]

Met a girl Who I've texted for about 2 weeks and been out with twice in that time. Over the course of the 2 weeks she has implied that I am her man and she is my girl, asked for kisses and cuddles in texts and comes across a bit insecure. I have a feeling it could get worse. She wants to be in a relationship with me but I've no idea why she is so keen to run before she can walk. I opted to take it easy but she is really in my face. Are these signs of a red flag?

She’s moving too fast for the two week time frame. It’s abnormal progression and suggests a short attention span. Yes, I would see it as a big flag…

 

[lamath]

Be direct and tell her to slow down, she trying to bring you into her frame.


If it doesnt stop or more red flags appear you should NEXT

 

[HughJasolphd]

She sounds like the type of girl who will get to Carmen sandiego levels of detective work if she assumes you are spinning plates (even though you're single & you should spin plates, she's claiming you as hers already from the looks of it). It could turn out to be a real headache for you in the long run if you allow her behavior to continue like this. Me personally I'd NEXT her.

 

[lamath]

She sounds like the type of girl who will get to Carmen sandiego levels of detective work if she assumes you are spinning plates (even though you're single & you should spin plates, she's claiming you as hers already from the looks of it). It could turn out to be a real headache for you in the long run if you allow her behavior to continue like this. Me personally I'd NEXT her.

Id try to set the frame back before NEXT, but to me it seems like that women can not keep herself from doing this

 

[flowtheory]

Met a girl Who I've texted for about 2 weeks and been out with twice in that time. Over the course of the 2 weeks she has implied that I am her man and she is my girl, asked for kisses and cuddles in texts and comes across a bit insecure. I have a feeling it could get worse. She wants to be in a relationship with me but I've no idea why she is so keen to run before she can walk. I opted to take it easy but she is really in my face. Are these signs of a red flag?

Needy. It may not go away. All other posters points are valid!

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Sooo.. have you had sex with her? Nothing matters unless you do the deed.

If you F already, carry on... all girls are "like that" for 2 weeks. Feel her out and keep an eye out for red flags sich as social media whordom or Dating apps or daddy issues, past boyfriends, suicidal thoughts, medications .etc

If she claiming you before F ... move on, I wouldn't be surprised if she forgets you when a shiner dik comes around.

 

[Designer Man]

Cheers for the replies.

Aside from work, she does nothing else. I asked what her hobbies are and she doesn't have any. I suggested maybe join a gym and she said that's not for her. I was texting with her today and she says "I need a cuddle". I didn't reply and the next time I checked my phone there was 5 missed calls, all within a minute. I was blown away.

We spoke on the phone earlier and she says she has got nothing to do and is going to lie in bed. She asked to see me but I have stuff to do and can't get out today.

I don't like the idea of her having no friends or hobbies. She still lives with her parents and is nearly 30. She doesn't seem to have that get up and go that I like in someone. She keeps asking when she is seeing me next and I just said Monday possibly.

Why is she like this?

 

[Designer Man]

Sooo.. have you had sex with her? Nothing matters unless you do the deed.

If you F already, carry on... all girls are "like that" for 2 weeks. Feel her out and keep an eye out for red flags sich as social media whordom or Dating apps or daddy issues, past boyfriends, suicidal thoughts, medications .etc

If she claiming you before F ... move on, I wouldn't be surprised if she forgets you when a shiner dik comes around.

We haven't had sex yet but I know I could have had it easily by now if I wanted to. I agree that she is likely to jump ship if someone else shows her interest.

She's saying things like "Are you my boyfriend now?" It's just too heavy!

 

[flowtheory]

We haven't had sex yet but I know I could have had it easily by now if I wanted to. I agree that she is likely to jump ship if someone else shows her interest.

She's saying things like "Are you my boyfriend now?" It's just too heavy!

Almost 30. No hobbies, friends, drive, goals. Is this someone who is an asset to you? Is this someone you would want to build anything with?

 

[sazc]

Eject by way of ghosting

 

[jaymbrs]

Cheers for the replies.

Aside from work, she does nothing else. I asked what her hobbies are and she doesn't have any. I suggested maybe join a gym and she said that's not for her. I was texting with her today and she says "I need a cuddle". I didn't reply and the next time I checked my phone there was 5 missed calls, all within a minute. I was blown away.

We spoke on the phone earlier and she says she has got nothing to do and is going to lie in bed. She asked to see me but I have stuff to do and can't get out today.

I don't like the idea of her having no friends or hobbies. She still lives with her parents and is nearly 30. She doesn't seem to have that get up and go that I like in someone. She keeps asking when she is seeing me next and I just said Monday possibly.

Why is she like this?

HUGE red flag. There's something mentally and emotionally unstable about this one. If you sleep with her things might get worse. If I were you, I'd hit the eject button right away.

 

[Billtx49]

Aside from work, she does nothing else.

I don't like the idea of her having no friends or hobbies. She still lives with her parents and is nearly 30. She doesn't seem to have that get up and go that I like in someone. She keeps asking when she is seeing me next and I just said Monday possibly.

Why is she like this?

“Why is she like this?”
You’re dealing with an adult child in need of attention…

 

[Tilex]

We haven't had sex yet but I know I could have had it easily by now if I wanted to. I agree that she is likely to jump ship if someone else shows her interest.

She's saying things like "Are you my boyfriend now?" It's just too heavy!

Woahhhhhh!!!!
No relationship begins without sex, unless you're still in grade school.
Men should never fall into that trap of being in a sexless relationship.
This is how trouble starts, and for all you know she may weaponize her sexual behavior and string you along for weeks without getting any.
Or she could be lousy in bed, unhygienic, or sexually selfish, you never know!
Get your needs met first before she pollutes your mind with nonsense.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Cheers for the replies.

Aside from work, she does nothing else. I asked what her hobbies are and she doesn't have any. I suggested maybe join a gym and she said that's not for her. I was texting with her today and she says "I need a cuddle". I didn't reply and the next time I checked my phone there was 5 missed calls, all within a minute. I was blown away.

We spoke on the phone earlier and she says she has got nothing to do and is going to lie in bed. She asked to see me but I have stuff to do and can't get out today.

I don't like the idea of her having no friends or hobbies. She still lives with her parents and is nearly 30. She doesn't seem to have that get up and go that I like in someone. She keeps asking when she is seeing me next and I just said Monday possibly.

Why is she like this?

People here are kinda harsh ...

I would forgive her for not having a hobby, at least she has a job. On paper I'm a loser with charisma, so I always try to take a step back before I cast judgement.

But bro... Her texting and calling non stop like that before sex is a HUGE red flag.

She could run at you with a knife! Imagine what could happen when she actually gets attached.

 

[Mazer]

Be direct and tell her to slow down, she trying to bring you into her frame.


If it doesnt stop or more red flags appear you should NEXT

This.
Or better yet, tell her through your actions by not always being available and not sending her cuddle texts. Who cares if she wants to move quickly. You move at your own pace. You control it, learn to say no when she gets pushy. She will respect you even more or she will leave. You win either way.
Also I’m not a fan of ejecting via ghosting. think it’s cowardly and it’s what women do. Send her a text telling her you aren’t compatible and good luck! Then never respond if she texts you again.

 

[Designer Man]

Last night it got a bit much. She told me her family have invited me to her house for Xmas! I was like "wtf". I said thanks but no thanks but then asked me to go on 1st Jan. I said I'm busy that day but Appreciate the offer. We spoke on the phone last night and she keeps saying in a jokingly way "Does your wife know you're talking to me" and I asked her what she was doing as I left the gym and she replied with "Nothing, lying in bed"

I tried to spark a conversation about her favourite books or movies and it was hard as hell. Her favourite movie is The Little Mermaid and she doesn't like to read. There is often silence on the calls as I run out of things to ask her and to break the silence she will say something like "What are you doing" or "I'm bored"

I'm struggling to maintain a conversation with her so I just send her photographs of food I'm eating or pre workout supplements. Maybe I should just cut this off.

 

[HughJasolphd]

Last night it got a bit much. She told me her family have invited me to her house for Xmas! I was like "wtf". I said thanks but no thanks but then asked me to go on 1st Jan. I said I'm busy that day but Appreciate the offer. We spoke on the phone last night and she keeps saying in a jokingly way "Does your wife know you're talking to me" and I asked her what she was doing as I left the gym and she replied with "Nothing, lying in bed"

I tried to spark a conversation about her favourite books or movies and it was hard as hell. Her favourite movie is The Little Mermaid and she doesn't like to read. There is often silence on the calls as I run out of things to ask her and to break the silence she will say something like "What are you doing" or "I'm bored"

I'm struggling to maintain a conversation with her so I just send her photographs of food I'm eating or pre workout supplements. Maybe I should just cut this off.

If her communication is any indication of how she acts in bed, I'd cut it off before even getting to that point. If you decide to hit it, be safe..strap up..she may be the type of crazy to purposely try & get pregnant because she has literally nothing else going on in her life & that would give her purpose. From the sound of it, she's got a case of oneitis with you, & it's probably because you're the only guy who's giving her attention..the other guys that did or do, probably realized she is a lame duck & took off when realizing they they would be the center of her universe, which is clinginess to the ultimate degree. I'd bounce, brother. You'll find someone way better without much effort considering she doesn't have much to offer as is.

 

[flowtheory]

Last night it got a bit much. She told me her family have invited me to her house for Xmas! I was like "wtf". I said thanks but no thanks but then asked me to go on 1st Jan. I said I'm busy that day but Appreciate the offer. We spoke on the phone last night and she keeps saying in a jokingly way "Does your wife know you're talking to me" and I asked her what she was doing as I left the gym and she replied with "Nothing, lying in bed"

I tried to spark a conversation about her favourite books or movies and it was hard as hell. Her favourite movie is The Little Mermaid and she doesn't like to read. There is often silence on the calls as I run out of things to ask her and to break the silence she will say something like "What are you doing" or "I'm bored"

I'm struggling to maintain a conversation with her so I just send her photographs of food I'm eating or pre workout supplements. Maybe I should just cut this off.

You’re doing this to yourself and allowing it all. Sever this connection now

 

[Willie Naylor]

I wonder if OP and his girl are Happily Ever After now.