Online dating experts, I need your help

[spinich]

Realistically you are never going to find what you deem worthy of your elegant self. And if you do, she will chew you up and spit you out so fast your head will spin. And then we will have a 20 page post of how unfair that is....

 

[bigdave17]

Realistically you are never going to find what you deem worthy of your elegant self.

based on what?

I've found a good amount of chicks online who are my type

 

[spinich]

And that resulted in nothing but more verbage from you.

 

[bigdave17]

And that resulted in nothing but more verbage from you.

you guys are saying i want a model

I'm okay with the avg cute ethnic girl with a nice bod

 

[HankHill]

Same **** different day...it's our own dang fault for continuing to provide him entertainment by responding. I mean how many times can you say the same thing over and over?
Obviously he knows better than all of us so there's no point in responding to his posts fellas.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

you're always bringing up stuff you did with women years ago, as if you can instantly turn it back on lol...how about you update your resume


But you dated one for 2 months

The 18 months resume shows:

1. Sexless
2. Simping behind women
3. Trying to date women who rejected you

Women know this. Those 8-10 are highly political so the ask around b4 considering you.

Plus ask the guys how hard it is to get new puzzy when you have none.

 

[HankHill]

Plus ask the guys how hard it is to get new puzzy when you have none.

Very true, even having puzzy it's hard to get a hotter one. I had a date on Thu night with a HB8, great convo, three hrs long (I asked at the 2hr mark how she's doing on time and she said 'great!'). On paper I bring far more to the table than her other than her looks of course. Well, she still gave me the cheek and here's Mr. Big thinking he can just show up and clean house lol

 

[sazc]

I have a specific type

I'm not gonna find a hot fit latina or italian chick in a social circle approach

THEN STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT HOW LONELY YOU ARE AND HOW DIFFICULT THIS IS. by that statement above you admit you are making it difficult for yourself. Why are you bellyaching about a situation you created?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Very true, even having puzzy it's hard to get a hotter one. I had a date on Thu night with a HB8, great convo, three hrs long (I asked at the 2hr mark how she's doing on time and she said 'great!'). On paper I bring far more to the table than her other than her looks of course. Well, she still gave me the cheek and here's Mr. Big thinking he can just show up and clean house lol

If you have good puzzy at home you wont care about being "rejected" and thats attractive.

The hotter they are the more political they are so you gotta work thru that.

You can get your start when one of the hotter ones want you to cheat on your "girl"

 

[HankHill]

If you have good puzzy at home you wont care about being "rejected" and thats attractive.

The hotter they are the more political they are so you gotta work thru that.

You can get your start when one of the hotter ones want you to cheat on your "girl"

Yeah rejection is part of the game, it doesn't faze me anymore. I think I mumbled to myself "fvck that, I ain't txt'ng her 'did you get home ok sh1t'" as I walked to my car and I didn't.

I don't tell them I have a girl and vice-versa, in fact, I avoid mentioning it at all costs...because they'll usually eject.

 

[spinich]

I am highly suspect of Dave's motives on this forum. Hank hit it on the head, WE are his entertainment. He doesn't have to have a woman.....Mods perhaps time to end playtime for this Bafoon.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

I feel like a great football player who just can't get any time on the field

The great football player who hasn't really ever played against anybody decent. A legend in his own mind.

Consider that the only way to honestly judge your value is by the RESULTS you get.

Which for you, is ONE FLAKE from ONE GIRL on the internet.

Yet you're a star just raring to go.

 

[HankHill]

For every stupid thread Dave creates, there is another newbie on the forum reading it. So even if Dave doesn't learn a god damn thing, I am sure there are many out there who will get something out of these threads.

That is the only reason I continue to participate in this circus act.

Plus reading Dave's failures after failures makes me feel like a m0thafvcking rockstar and it's good to see my competition is not all that's cracked up to be. Great for my ego, keep up the great work Dave! LOL

 

[guru1000]

For every stupid thread Dave creates, there is another newbie on the forum reading it. So even if Dave doesn't learn a god damn thing, I am sure there are many out there who will get something out of these threads.

That is the only reason I continue to participate in this circus act.

This is true. Most of the PMs I received over the years were not from the posters I attempted to help, rather from members who just read and never post.

Even if you help the posters you advise and they listen, they never thank you and kind of just fall off the map. Like I always say, this “giving” is a thankless business.

So you see by “helping Dave,” some here think they’re being used, but the reality is Dave is being used (as a vehicle to help others).

 

[spinich]

Ever wonder if Dave was someone else on the forum before they got banned?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Yeah rejection is part of the game, it doesn't faze me anymore. I think I mumbled to myself "fvck that, I ain't txt'ng her 'did you get home ok sh1t'" as I walked to my car and I didn't.

I don't tell them I have a girl and vice-versa, in fact, I avoid mentioning it at all costs...because they'll usually eject.

When you already have good puzzy it dont matter. Most of em are stank heffas anyway.

 

[bigdave17]

There most certainly is demeanor in these interactions. People will imagine your overall demeanor before they meet you just from the impressions they get. It doesn't matter if those impressions of you are right or wrong, they will fill in the blanks either way, because they have to in order to decide if they want to even meet you. The truth is not determined until the actual date itself.

This is why I told you the OLD site has already done everything it can do for you with this particular girl. It was time to take it offline and into the flesh. Her imagination already developed a demeanor in her head that she was willing to meet with. But you had to keep talking like you guys were soul mates, and in doing so, you continued to feed her head with buckets of ammunition that went into changing that imagined, positive demeanor that she was willing to meet with into one that was negative and turned her off.

I told you not to treat this weight thing like it was a project. But that's exactly what you did. Whether it was explicit or implicit, you virtually offered to become her personal trainer, help her tailor her diet, etc. And even though she may have been sincere in losing weight, her imagination decided to change what the first date would become. When she agreed to meet with you, she probably imagined being tipsy on a few drinks, feeling giddy, butterflies and flirting.... but you kept going until her imagination turned it into a free consultation with a personal trainer who would lecture her for ordering a sugary, watermellon martini and a meal too high in carbs.

I told you not to plan too many steps ahead. I told you to take it one step at a time. But you did not do that either. You assumed too many things. You assumed she would love you on the first date. You assumed there would be a second and you were already asking us how to get her out on another date for the very next day. You assumed she would continue meeting you for months on end to trim that weight and get her in shape.

And what did I tell you? I told you the more you try to plan ahead, the more assumptions you have to make. The more assumptions you make, the more likely you will be wrong, the more likely you will fail, the more likely you will be disappointed and frustrated.

And here we are.

Failure. Disappointment. Frustration.

But that's OK. This is part of the process. Try again, Dave. Try to get it right this time.

thank you for great advice

i just need to keep it simple and straightforward from now on. Minimal texting until date

 

[HankHill]

thank you for great advice

i just need to keep it simple and straightforward from now on. Minimal texting until date

And don't think you're above the women the rest of us date, you're not a special snowflake.

For example, this was a couple of pages back how you won't date women with these aspects:

- vegans - my ex wife was a vegan, she converted because of her love for animals...it didn't affect me one bit and as a side benefit her sweat didn't stink, seriously.
- feminists - many women say that because it's the in thing these days but in my experience with the right guy in the picture they submit
- hardcore liberals - again, it's all relative...so what? in fact, it's good to hear opposing views (like here) and you might learn something!
- tattoo/piercing freaks - great casual sex you could ask for but ok may be not LTR material for some
- women who can't spell properly - OK Mr. Oxford and Yale! Dude you sell cars, gimme a break! lol
- religious broads - ok fine you got me on this one but I still hit 'em up and see for myself before simply passing them up

 

[sazc]

You're doing fine. Just take something away from the experience and keep moving forward.

If you have a good physique, dress well, smell good, are friendly, make a good living.... you are already good enough to do well with women. You do not need to derail and radically change strategies because things didn't go perfectly as planned the first time. You just need to fine tune things; dial in. And there is a lot of fine tuning to do here. It's going to take a little while.

Keep it simple. Keep moving forward. You'll get there.

Just wanted to point out the demeanor in what he is saying, do you see it?

 

[guru1000]

Very true, even having puzzy it's hard to get a hotter one. I had a date on Thu night with a HB8, great convo, three hrs long (I asked at the 2hr mark how she's doing on time and she said 'great!'). On paper I bring far more to the table than her other than her looks of course. Well, she still gave me the cheek and here's Mr. Big thinking he can just show up and clean house lol
Yeah rejection is part of the game, it doesn't faze me anymore. I think I mumbled to myself "fvck that, I ain't txt'ng her 'did you get home ok sh1t'" as I walked to my car and I didn't.

I don't tell them I have a girl and vice-versa, in fact, I avoid mentioning it at all costs...because they'll usually eject.

Big news for you Hank and others reading.

If a girl gives you a cheek at the end of the first date, that's not necessarily a rejection. Nor is a girl making out with you a sign of high IL.

Some girls needs more sexual comfort or have an internalized rule that they don't kiss on the first date. Some of my highest quality relations started with multiple kiss rejections on the first date.

Now stop being a princess and ask for the second date.