Online dating experts, I need your help

[lamath]

the all black outfit in the body picture makes me fear that I'm being catfished

I've been messaging her today, do I ask for number for today or keep talking to her for a couple days?

Idk anything about online dating
I barely know what getting catfish means

But yeah that body pic is not telling you much

 

[bigdave17]

Idk anything about online dating
I barely know what getting catfish means

But yeah that body pic is not telling you much

she can't be horribly overweight. Her face looks good. I don't think you can be more than 20-30 lbs overweight without it affecting the face


catfish = you expect a girl in decent shape and she's 50 lbs overweight

 

[lamath]

she can't be horribly overweight. Her face looks good. I don't think you can be more than 20-30 lbs overweight without it affecting the face


catfish = you expect a girl in decent shape and she's 50 lbs overweight

I dont think so
She has a very beautiful face and her arms look slim usualy its a good indicator

 

[bigdave17]

I dont think so
She has a very beautiful face and her arms look slim usualy its a good indicator

she already admitted to me that she stopped working out and gained some weight but she said she really wants to get back into it. I'm very good at training people

This is like the house that you can get cheap where the structure is phenomenal but just needs some moderate work to make it perfect

she has probably the best looking face, for my taste, of any girl I've seen on online dating. Such beautiful eyes, smile, etc...

 

[bigdave17]

Online? Yes, I would say so.



Yes.



Great. Now just follow through with it. One step at a time Dave. Meet her and make a decision from there.



Just roll with it for now and work with what you get. Work on new pics in the meantime. You will get there. Its just a prelude, Dave.

yea she seems very interested in me. I'll ask her out this week


but I am frustrated that I'm not getting better results overall. I think my reply rate is like 10%. I need to hire a professional photographer

 

[bigdave17]

so I figured it out

the first pic is her when she was thinner - you can see her face looks lean. Second pic is after the weight gain

She keeps responding to me instantly, seems very interested, so I'll take her out. Hopefully it's not as bad as I'm fearing

 

[bigdave17]

Do it within 24 hours, Dave. Do not wait.

You can do it tonight if she's really that interested. That is the entire point of the site, after all: EVERYONE IS THERE TO MEET PEOPLE THEY ARE INTERESTED IN.

She is interested in you.



You will. We will get there. Once you have everything just right you will be able to flake on women for any reason you want because you will not have enough time for them all anyway. You will have to start eliminating out of necessity.

But for now. Meet her. Don't try to plan everything. Just go and see what happens. If you don't like her, you don't have to do anything else.

what happens if I like her but she's 25 lbs overweight?

 

[lamath]

what happens if I like her but she's 25 lbs overweight?

You should not be thinking of that right now.
But got to tell you a few lbs overweight is not the end of the word especialy if the two of you are connecting very well.

 

[bigdave17]

You should not be thinking of that right now.
But got to tell you a few lbs overweight is not the end of the word especialy if the two of you are connecting very well.

yes we're connecting very well

Looking at her pics, she seems like a very nice person. Has a very nice smile and expression in her eyes. I'm not surprised we're getting along so well

 

[mrgoodstuff]

yes we're connecting very well

Looking at her pics, she seems like a very nice person. Has a very nice smile and expression in her eyes. I'm not surprised we're getting along so well

Leave it for the meetup. Your goal should be to have a good time and to verify attraction. Please do not worry about having an LTR until your a successful dater.

 

[bigdave17]

You have already achieved with this girl everything Match can do for you with any woman. It is time to take this interaction off of the site. Just ask her if she's interested in meeting up. Very simple. THEN make further decisions from that point on.

I met her on plenty of fish

what are the odds of that? POF is mostly garbage, bots, hoodrats and what not

 

[devilkingx2]

what happens if I like her but she's 25 lbs overweight?

If she weighs 400 pounds but looks good, you keep dating her

If she weighs 100 pounds but looks bad, you dump her

Doesn't matter if she's 1 pound overweight or 20. What matters is how it looks.

 

[lamath]

Leave it for the meetup. Your goal should be to have a good time and to verify attraction. Please do not worry about having an LTR until your a successful dater.

Baby step
#1 date
#2 kiss
#3 bang
#4 bang
#5 bang

Until she brings up ltr then you can decide.
You dont bring ltr she does

Also id try dating morein the mean time

 

[bigdave17]

If she weighs 400 pounds but looks good, you keep dating her

If she weighs 100 pounds but looks bad, you dump her

Doesn't matter if she's 1 pound overweight or 20. What matters is how it looks.

I posted pics on previous page, that's probably how it's going to look in real life

I want a woman with a hot fit body.

 

[devilkingx2]

I posted pics on previous page, that's probably how it's going to look in real life

Then it doesn't matter if she steps on the scale and it says 357.

 

[Fzatf]

she's 28
no kids or dogs
doesn't smoke and barely drinks (what i want)
college educated
seems very nice
lives by herself
great boobs
face is EXACTLY my type. Literally could not find a girl whose face is more my type than that


the 2 downsides is she lives about 45 minutes away from me and she looks like she needs to lose about 20 lbs - which I'm worried will be worse

Meet her in person before you disqualify her. I swear you Seinfeld every girl you meet. Next we'll hear how her second toe is a smidge longer than her big toe.

 

[bigdave17]

IMO, he only needs to take one simple step. Meeting her. That's it. He can decide to walk away from it after that if he wants to. Dave can be Dave if he wants to.

Just one step is all he needs right now. The rest will be decided the moment they meet.

I'll get her number tonight

 

[lamath]

IMO, he only needs to take one simple step. Meeting her. That's it. He can decide to walk away from it after that if he wants to. Dave can be Dave if he wants to.

Just one step is all he needs right now. The rest will be decided the moment they meet.

Ik too much overthinking on his part

Good insight you gave him

 

[bigdave17]

I got about 5 girls that I'm talking to now, all of them are really attractive in the face, but finding one who is both attractive in the face and has a hot body to reply back to me seems to be so hard

I do seem to be having much better reply rate going after Latinas, Italians and Middle eastern chicks. This is probably good for me to know for the future to aggressively pursue darker skinned women in real life. They seem to like me way more than white girls do

 

[spinich]

Why not? Your assuming she will lower HER standards and be interested in you. If not you have yet another excuse not to date a real live woman that is not your sister!