I met that Armenian girl in NY

[bigdave17]

Surprised nobody said it but is this really your thought process?

Sounds like a heavily blue pilled frame of mind.

Your focus should first be to get to the point of her coming to visit you for a week or however long. Then you focus on having a great time with her both in and out of the bedroom for that time period. Then you assess things from there.

Hard to keep something going long distance but I guess it’s possible. More likely of a scenario would be she’s your fwb whenever she’s in town visiting IMO and that’s what I would personally go for.

I'm looking for relationship

not worth the effort for just a FWB

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I'm looking for relationship

not worth the effort for just a FWB

You camt tell them that! From a guy thats creepy. Before you can have a relationship you need sex.

 

[curtsilv]

Dave should not even entertain the idea of moving to NYC for a woman he only met once.

Dave, distance is definitely a hurdle, but it can also afford you some time. There is no need to attempt quick moves/results with someone who is 1000 miles away.

Keep in touch with her. Keep that communication going. Get her hooked on your personality. Don't push for visits. Let her interest in you make her feel like it is not good enough for her to not see you in person again.

Do not push the topic of moving, relocation or any such talk. Any talk like that right now is talking to her brain. Don't bring this up again until you know you're talking to her heart.

If this girl is a 10/10 someone else is making a move on this girl. Probably many someones. Things can move fast. The more he procrastinates by posting on this forum, the higher his chances are that this one slip through his fingers.

If I could put money on this, I'd bet a million dollars he keeps posting here and his 10/10 dates and gets married to someone else. I can't believe he's asking whether he should pursue her, his perfect 10/10.

 

[curtsilv]

He doesn't have to move to NYC, that's a little too drastic. How about inviting his sister to visit him and this girl can tag along. Indirect date the three of them can hang out.

 

[curtsilv]

There will always be someone making a move.

It was happening before he met her. It is happening right now. It will continue to happen no matter if he loses her or wins the day.

It will happen while she is single. It will happen if Dave is her boyfriend. It will happen if they are engaged and it will happen if they are married.

There will always be someone making a move.

This sense of time pressure to make something happen before someone else makes a move is completely artificial.... self-created... She is not single for the lack of other men trying. Relax.

She is also 1,000 miles away. No matter how fast Dave moves, no matter how much he flirts, no matter how much she comes to yearn for the feeling of him pressing into the wet warmth between her legs, nothing is going to happen until they physically see each other again.

He must take his time and develop warm chemistry, for there is nothing else he can rush along other than meeting her again. An eligible man, a desirable man, far away in a city full of millions of women, does not desperately move to make something happen with a woman 1000 miles away. An eligible woman, a desirable woman, far away in a city full of millions of men, does not desperately move to make something happen with a man 1000 miles away.

Relax.

.

You are being really dumb here. You have to resort to putting words in people's mouths and then arguing against some phantom claim to puff up your own weak ego so you can sound all rico suave on the internet. OK, whatever it takes to get you through the day.

 

[Murk]

no matter how much she comes to yearn for the feeling of him pressing into the wet warmth between her legs,

keep going...

 

[HankHill]

I agree Dave should 'play' it cool for sure (no one should act needy or overly invested) but also not make her feel there is no interest from his side. Right now she's probably replaying their meeting in her head over and over, she's curious, she's interested...for another few days or until her next date with another dude at that point if that date goes well she'll only be mildly interested in Dave since there's really not much for her to hang her hopes on with him at this point. So I think between a day or two he should casually reach out one to show he's interested and two to see if she's open to meeting him while he's there on a 'business trip' in a couple of weeks.

 

[MrJack]

I'm looking for relationship

not worth the effort for just a FWB

I guess I’m just confused on why you wouldn’t want some fwb along the way to an LTR.

If I’m being honest I’m ready for another LTR at my point in life but I’m taking it day by day. No reason for me not to continue gaining any fwb if possible along the way

 

[bigdave17]

I guess I’m just confused on why you wouldn’t want some fwb along the way to an LTR.

If I’m being honest I’m ready for another LTR at my point in life but I’m taking it day by day. No reason for me not to continue gaining any fwb if possible along the way

I don't care that much about fwb in general but I really don't want to put in that much effort for someone who lives in another state just for FWB

 

[curtsilv]

"Move fast" you said. Other guys will make moves you said. Did you not?

You're obviously just going to duck the issue. I bolded the portion where you claimed I said he had to move to NYC. I clearly did not. You have a talent for rambling along with memory problems.

 

[curtsilv]

A "move to make something happen" does not mean "relocate". It means to do something in order to yield a particular result; something which you more or less advised he do quickly because of other guys making their moves.

It's not my fault that you have poor comprehension skills.

Your IQ is 80 or less. You are still claiming I told him to move to NYC. Quote my post where I say that. You can't dumbass.

 

[curtsilv]

Post 26, you quote my post dumbass, not 17shots. Something is wrong with your brain.

There will always be someone making a move.

It was happening before he met her. It is happening right now. It will continue to happen no matter if he loses her or wins the day.

It will happen while she is single. It will happen if Dave is her boyfriend. It will happen if they are engaged and it will happen if they are married.

There will always be someone making a move.

This sense of time pressure to make something happen before someone else makes a move is completely artificial.... self-created... She is not single for the lack of other men trying. Relax.

She is also 1,000 miles away. No matter how fast Dave moves, no matter how much he flirts, no matter how much she comes to yearn for the feeling of him pressing into the wet warmth between her legs, nothing is going to happen until they physically see each other again.

He must take his time and develop warm chemistry, for there is nothing else he can rush along other than meeting her again. An eligible man, a desirable man, far away in a city full of millions of women, does not desperately move to make something happen with a woman 1000 miles away. An eligible woman, a desirable woman, far away in a city full of millions of men, does not desperately move to make something happen with a man 1000 miles away.

Relax.

.

 

[curtsilv]

Memory problems too.

He must take his time and develop warm chemistry, for there is nothing else he can rush along other than meeting her again. An eligible man, a desirable man, far away in a city full of millions of women, does not desperately move to make something happen with a woman 1000 miles away. An eligible woman, a desirable woman, far away in a city full of millions of men, does not desperately move to make something happen with a man 1000 miles away.

Relax.

.

 

[curtsilv]

Once again, a "move to make something happen" does not mean "relocate". It means to do something in order to yield a particular result.

I'm sorry. Is English your second language or something?

You obviously don't know how to read. You say that 17shots told dave to move to nyc. Then, you quote my post instead. Are you able to read? "curtsilv" and "17shots." Can you tell the difference? These are different strings of letters and numbers. Go back to 1st grade.

 

[curtsilv]

No. Post #21 is in response to 17shots.

Post #26 is in response to you.

Two different discussions.

Exactly dumbass. That's where you stated dave should not move to nyc when in fact I never said that, 17shots did (or so you claim). You were obviously dropped on your head as a baby and then many more times since then.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Did bigdave17 get and apply the guidance he needed or is that never the point of these?

 

[curtsilv]

I was not talking to you in post #21.

I did not accuse you of saying he should move to NYC in post #26.

Go ahead and keep throwing your 15-year old insults at me. I can care less.

You seem not to understand that when you quote someone, you are responding to that person and not to another person. Figure it out.

 

[curtsilv]

Did bigdave17 get and apply the guidance he needed or is that never the point of these?

He stated explicitly in his original post that he will not be following up due to distance. Honestly this thread should be locked. It's not going anywhere.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Doesn't matter. Other people can learn a few things from these discussions, even if he doesn't.

Agree

 

[mrgoodstuff]

He stated explicitly in his original post that he will not be following up due to distance. Honestly this thread should be locked. It's not going anywhere.

He needs to fvck her. The distance is just what he needs so he cant be all up in her face and mess it up.

 

[curtsilv]

He needs to fvck her. The distance is just what he needs so he cant be all up in her face and mess it up.

LOL, based on his posts, he seems ok with having platonic friendzone conversations but the thought of pursuing her sexually is what frightens him.