Feel like this girl just blew me off.

[Floydispink01]

Hey all,

Been seeing this girl for 3 months. Everything seems ok until today. Last met up with her over the weekend at her place. We had great sex and arranged to meet up tonight for a social gathering.

Today she said we dont have to meet up if i dont want too. Told her no worries then and i'll do something else. She got angry and said i've lost interest in her and no hard feelings. I said i havent and still want to see her but felt like it fell on deaf ears

She said shes busy this week.

I said ok. Enjoy your week.

Thanks she said.

Over just like that.

 

[The Duke]

yep, it happens. Weak behavior on her part. Typical of how a weak female lacking relationship skills handles these issues. Pretty common. I feel ya. A lot of times people that handle situations like this aren't people you want to be around in the long run anyways. There is more schitty behavior you haven't witnessed yet. Sometimes you just have to realize that and count your blessings it ended before you were even more invested.

Its them, not you. Don't let them fool ya.

 

[sangheilios]

LOL A girl you've been seeing for 3 months acted like that because you decided not to go to a social gathering, which she gave you permission to skip? Unless it's something extremely important, which really shouldn't be since you've only been going out for 3 months, she shouldn't be acting like that.

If she is willing to drop you for something like that, assuming there isn't more to the story and you are being upfront about everything, you should be thankful.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

yep, it happens. Weak behavior on her part. Typical of how a weak female lacking relationship skills handles these issues. Pretty common. I feel ya. A lot of times people that handle situations like this aren't people you want to be around in the long run anyways. There is more schitty behavior you haven't witnessed yet. Sometimes you just have to realize that and count your blessings it ended before you were even more invested.

Its them, not you. Don't let them fool ya.

Oh wait!! So a stronger Alpha presense and solid frame wouldnt have made her act less shytty?

 

[Bible_Belt]

We had great sex and arranged to meet up tonight for a social gathering.

Today she said we dont have to meet up if i dont want too.

There's the test, and you gave the wrong answer. She was baiting you into it and you took the bait. Guys dont take a girl out socially when she is just being used for sex. That idea got into her head, and she baited you into confirming it.

You can let her go entirely if you want. She is making it easy. If you do want to keep her, come up with some gesture that shows she is important to you for more than sex. Dont just say those words. Come up with an action that demonstrates it.

 

[marmel75]

There's the test, and you gave the wrong answer. She was baiting you into it and you took the bait. Guys dont take a girl out socially when she is just being used for sex. That idea got into her head, and she baited you into confirming it.

You can let her go entirely if you want. She is making it easy. If you do want to keep her, come up with some gesture that shows she is important to you for more than sex. Dont just say those words. Come up with an action that demonstrates it.

Yeah women give guys the rope to hang themselves and see if they use it.

 

[Bokanovsky]

There's the test, and you gave the wrong answer. She was baiting you into it and you took the bait. Guys dont take a girl out socially when she is just being used for sex. That idea got into her head, and she baited you into confirming it.

You can let her go entirely if you want. She is making it easy. If you do want to keep her, come up with some gesture that shows she is important to you for more than sex. Dont just say those words. Come up with an action that demonstrates it.

Disagree. If a girl is interested, she would never say "we don't have to meet up if you don't want to" (unless he has already hinted that he doesn't want to meet up). It makes no sense. When she says "if you don't want to", what she's really saying is "I don't want to". She wanted to end things and did it in a passive-egressive manner because she lacks the social skills to do a soft break-up.

 

[Toddz]

There's the test, and you gave the wrong answer. She was baiting you into it and you took the bait. Guys dont take a girl out socially when she is just being used for sex. That idea got into her head, and she baited you into confirming it.

You can let her go entirely if you want. She is making it easy. If you do want to keep her, come up with some gesture that shows she is important to you for more than sex. Dont just say those words. Come up with an action that demonstrates it.

I've failed this test a few times without even realizing it was the "you just want me for sex" test. At some point in dating a chick they will invite you to a social gathering with her friends or family which escalates the relationship towards exclusiveness from dating in her mind. If you fail to comply, relationship usually ends without hesitation or warning because they think you are just using her for the sex. While we innocently pass on the social gathering thinking it's literally no big deal, they are putting the future of the entire relationship on this one decision. It is very childish and immature, but that's how women are.

 

[sazc]

Classic sh1t test, and you failed.

She felt you had low IL, that you weres usingfor sex, so she tested your IL.

A man who is genuinely interested in the woman with have replied "no way baby, I want to see YOU tonight"

Your reply communicated that you didn't care if you spent social time with her. But, she's thinking, you obviously will make time for her in the bedroom. Like it or not, this all translates, in her mind, into using her for sex.

That said, people are supposed to communicate their needs. If she's feeling like the relationship is sex based, she is supposed to talk to you about it. But we all know by now, there are very few people who know how to have a conversation, much less have the guts to have a conversation. It's easier to throw out a contrived test and see if the partner passes or fails

Good luck

 

[Floydispink01]

Classic sh1t test, and you failed.

She felt you had low IL, that you weres usingfor sex, so she tested your IL.

A man who is genuinely interested in the woman with have replied "no way baby, I want to see YOU tonight"

Your reply communicated that you didn't care if you spent social time with her. But, she's thinking, you obviously will make time for her in the bedroom. Like it or not, this all translates, in her mind, into using her for sex.

That said, people are supposed to communicate their needs. If she's feeling like the relationship is sex based, she is supposed to talk to you about it. But we all know by now, there are very few people who know how to have a conversation, much less have the guts to have a conversation. It's easier to throw out a contrived test and see if the partner passes or fails

Good luck

You make valid points.

However, the social gathering which was close to her place would of included me staying at hers, her words so if anything im not using her for sex.

 

[sazc]

You make valid points.

However, the social gathering which was close to her place would of included me staying at hers, her words so if anything im not using her for sex.

Lol, what I just heard you say was that the social gathering would have included the payoff of sex for you....

She was testing your IL with get comment. What she heard in your response was "I'm not really motivated to go out with you/go out with you socially" hence "I'm not interested in anything more than sex"

I'm not saying she's justified with the situation, I'm simply saying that is what's going on.

If you don't get it, or refuse to see it, that's on you.

 

[dude99]

Hey all,

Been seeing this girl for 3 months. Everything seems ok until today. Last met up with her over the weekend at her place. We had great sex and arranged to meet up tonight for a social gathering.

Today she said we dont have to meet up if i dont want too. Told her no worries then and i'll do something else. She got angry and said i've lost interest in her and no hard feelings. I said i havent and still want to see her but felt like it fell on deaf ears

She said shes busy this week.

I said ok. Enjoy your week.

Thanks she said.

Over just like that.

Sounds like she is projecting. She has lost interest but doesnt want to take responisbility and needs to blame you. Girls who are interested dont pick fights and this is what she is doing, then shifting blame to you.

Start dating other women. You will be surprised how quickly your phone starts to ring when she figures out you moved on.

 

[Floydispink01]

Update: I've left her alone and she messaged me today to apoligise and said she was out of order with her assumptions that im not interested. She wants to meet up with me this week.

 

[dude99]

Update: I've left her alone and she messaged me today to apoligise and said she was out of order with her assumptions that im not interested. She wants to meet up with me this week.

Let her since she told you she was busy all week your schedule filled up fast and you will see her some time next week.

Show her because of her actions you are now busy.

 

[sazc]

Let her since she told you she was busy all week your schedule filled up fast and you will see her some time next week.

Show her because of her actions you are now busy.

Yea! Retalliate so you can cultivate a quality relationship!

 

[dude99]

Yea! Retalliate so you can cultivate a quality relationship!

He in reality should fill up his schedule. It isnt retaliating if he is walking away like he should. My opinion anyways.

 

[RangerMIke]

This happens to be all the time. Normal chick behavior. Lots of casual dating things end for me at 3 months. By then the chick would have figured out that I can not be emotionally manipulated. She calls it "emotionally unavailable" and she starts looking for someone that she feels like she can control.

The problem is that when the chick finds a guy that will bend over backwards for her because he is "in love", she quickly loses interest in him.

I really do not know how to walk that tight-rope. But I have figured out that you can make things last a bit longer if you are always willing to make time for her, when she reaches out then try to set something up, even if all you have time for is meeting her for drinks or coffee. But if another dude comes along that is willing to lose his sh!t over her, she'll lose interest in you for a bit... but if you remain composed, there is a chance she'll circle back around again.

 

[Chi Town]

This happens to be all the time. Normal chick behavior. Lots of casual dating things end for me at 3 months. By then the chick would have figured out that I can not be emotionally manipulated. She calls it "emotionally unavailable" and she starts looking for someone that she feels like she can control.

The problem is that when the chick finds a guy that will bend over backwards for her because he is "in love", she quickly loses interest in him.

I really do not know how to walk that tight-rope. But I have figured out that you can make things last a bit longer if you are always willing to make time for her, when she reaches out then try to set something up, even if all you have time for is meeting her for drinks or coffee. But if another dude comes along that is willing to lose his sh!t over her, she'll lose interest in you for a bit... but if you remain composed, there is a chance she'll circle back around again.

You get the idea, your on the right track.

Guys must learn the concept of mixed signals.

This is one way to keep her around without having to bend over backwards.

Many men here with be against this type of action because they may think it's morally wrong lol. Some guys like myself do this naturally.

If you show her a good time, charm her and bang her lights out then you pretty much can treat any way you want to because she's not going anywhere. You know who does this the best? Yep, women.

As time goes on and she's investing more and more into you and she's compliant then little by little you can invest a little more into her but not all the way, the more she treats you well and shows high interest you reward her with your time and attention.

Now, if your investing and giving her your time and attention more than she is or without her having to work for it then you lose. If your going out of your way to fvck with her constantly without a balance of being a little distant at times(which should be natural If your life doesn't revolve around her) then you lose.