Seems like she may be pulling away?

[The_411]

If you are making excuses for a girl you’re with the wrong girl.

When a girl says I’m busy you take it as what it is a statement of low interest/disinterest.

Girls who are into you rarely say they are busy without giving you a specific time/date to meet up.

Oh I’m busy that day but I am free Thursday or come over to my place on Thursday after 8pm.

As opposed to I’m really busy right now and I’m not sure when I’ll going to be free.

The second statement could be entirely true, which is why guys accept/believe it.

The problem is that while being a true statement, it is not how someone who is into you acts.

As it has been stated many times. Girls who are into will make it easy for you.

She is only interested in her terms being met, which means once some other guy comes into the picture who doesn’t put up with that BS, she’ll get with him.

 

[MountainSlide]

If you are making excuses for a girl you’re with the wrong girl.

When a girl says I’m busy you take it as what it is a statement of low interest/disinterest.

Girls who are into you rarely say they are busy without giving you a specific time/date to meet up.

Oh I’m busy that day but I am free Thursday or come over to my place on Thursday after 8pm.

As opposed to I’m really busy right now and I’m not sure when I’ll going to be free.

The second statement could be entirely true, which is why guys accept/believe it.

The problem is that while being a true statement, it is not how someone who is into you acts.

As it has been stated many times. Girls who are into will make it easy for you.

She is only interested in her terms being met, which means once some other guy comes into the picture who doesn’t put up with that BS, she’ll get with him.

Bro. Did you even read the thread?

 

[Glassguy]

Bro. Did you even read the thread?

Come on man. Did YOU read your own thread?

You're complaint was that this chick was "too busy for you". The key here is "for you".

You seem to be on the right track with the mentality of moving on and not letting her get to you. Thats exactly what you need to do.

@The_411 has a great response above, one that we have all heard 10000 times. Its the truth.

Chicks have pulled the "not sure when I will be busy" with me. I remain chill and walk away. No burned bridges. Not all, but most will reach out later on. Maybe a couple days, couple weeks or even a year. Who knows what they really have going on or what emotional state they are in day to day. But dont sweat it. As for this chick you are talking about, just play it cool, dont burn any bridges and act disinterested. Be friendly but dont act invested at all.

Thats all you can do.

 

[MountainSlide]

Come on man. Did YOU read your own thread?

You're complaint was that this chick was "too busy for you". The key here is "for you".

You seem to be on the right track with the mentality of moving on and not letting her get to you. Thats exactly what you need to do.

@The_411 has a great response above, one that we have all heard 10000 times. Its the truth.

Chicks have pulled the "not sure when I will be busy" with me. I remain chill and walk away. No burned bridges. Not all, but most will reach out later on. Maybe a couple days, couple weeks or even a year. Who knows what they really have going on or what emotional state they are in day to day. But dont sweat it. As for this chick you are talking about, just play it cool, dont burn any bridges and act disinterested. Be friendly but dont act invested at all.

Thats all you can do.

I did read my own thread and agree with everything you’re saying here lol. As far as I’m concerned my game plan is solid. She can do 100% of the contacting and if she reaches out then I’ll make plans that can lead to having sex.

So that’s pretty much where my thought process ends with her.

Then I move on to the next point. Which IMO is significantly more important than worrying about the girl that’s ‘too busy’.

I need to get off my a$$ and find more high quality single women to date. Like sure, it’s okay having a couple average FWB. But that’s not very inspiring. Time to work on my pickup game and start getting some good results.

 

[MountainSlide]

Yo. This chick straight up messaged me tonight to say happy Halloween followed up by trying to sell me some health products. . Wtf is this world coming to. Btw, just got home from a date with a 7.5/10.

 

[marmel75]

OP we have all been there before. Sometimes ww can reflect back and see what we did and sometimes it might not have been anything we did.

I always assume its another guy she has higher interest in.

 

[Glassguy]

She can do 100% of the contacting and if she reaches out then I’ll make plans that can lead to having sex.

I need to get off my a$$ and find more high quality single women to date

Atta boy! Find 2 or 3 to date, hang out with, etc and begin the screening process. You are evaluating them to see if they are someone that you want to even continue to another date with, not the other way around. Remember that.

Find 2 or 3 and keep your eyes peeled for more. You can replace weak links in the chain with fresh faces and if a LTR happens, great. If not, 2 oor 3 solid women will keep you busy enough if you are also on your purpose!

 

[Toddz]

Same exact situation you're in bro. Dating a chick for 2 months sex and everything is great then suddenly she's not available. AKA another dude is in the picture. Whatever excuses she makes up are just that excuses. A woman with high IL will find the time to see you, not tell you the reasons she can't. See it for what it is and simply move on. No arguments, asking her what's wrong, or anything like that. You do not hit her up or respond back. Whatever reason she doesn't want to see you anymore you can not change with words or lines. The only way she is coming back is through distance and the little hamster spinning in her head.

 

[MountainSlide]

Easy. If she reaches out. Wait until the next day to respond. Let her know that you were with a friend the night before. And ask what’s up.

Then when she responds. Set a date at either her place or my place that can lead to sex. If she is still unavailable. Just used canned response of okay let me know when you’re schedule frees up. /end of convo.

She can reach out but it doesn’t mean ****. I’m already getting other dates. As a matter of fact, I had a girl in the other room last night when she called and had just finished getting my rocks off.

The whole concept of her putting ‘relationship on backburner’ doesn’t really mean shyt since I wasn’t exclusive with her in the first place.

Used this exactly. Responded back to her this morning. Said ‘hey I was just with a friend last night. What’s up’. She responds basically telling me that she isn’t so busy anymore lol. I respond and say ‘when are you free to get together’. She responds and asks ‘what time are you thinking??’

 

[MountainSlide]

Okay now I’m starting to think this chick is trying to jerk me around. She asks me what time I’d like to meet up. I said 8pm. Then she tells me she has plans all the way into next week lol. So I responded and said to let me know when she has free time in the evening. She responds and says she will, and wrote me like a fricking letter on what’s she’s up to. So I just said ‘have a good trip’. Then she sends another long message which I have zero intention in responding to.

Always judge a woman by her actions not her words. If I eliminate the words and only focus on the actions. I’m not getting laid. Which shows that her IL isn’t high enough. By creating distance and making myself unavailable and throwing the ball into her court. I’m building my value, I’m maintaining my frame, and I’m having opportunities for sex with other women.

Women will treat you however you allow them to. I’m basically saying to her that she’s going to treat me how I want to be treated or she isn’t going to see or talk to me.

Anyway. I’ll wait for her to initiate again, at which time, I’ll set up a date that can lead to sex. I’ll give her zero attention unless she’s with me in person with my c*ck in her mouth.

 

[MountainSlide]

Update. The way she is acting is actually kind of weird.

I told her last week to get in touch with me when she has more time. She got in touch with me two days later, assumed she must want to get together, tried making a date, and she told me she had other plans. So I texted her back ‘okay get in touch when you have more time’

Then she messages me the next day telling me how excited she is for me that I’m starting a new job and blah blah blah. I responded with thank you.

Then on Sunday night she sends me a long a$$ voice text saying about how she has been thinking about me all weekend and how awesome I am but let’s just be friends.

Am I dealing with crazy here?? To me it seems like her goal is to get me chasing or something. I responded to her with ‘I’m only interested in a romantic relationship. So if you change your mind and want to find out where things go, give me a call.’

I imagine she’ll be messaging me again within a few days based on her past behaviour. Is this some f*cked up attachment issues?

 

[HankHill]

She's likely got another dude she's more interested in or an ex, she wants you as a back up option. You did fine with your response, stick to it!

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Histrionic/Narcissicist. Needs to have the power at all times, not only with you but her boyfriend too.

So she will always cheat on one with the other. They attach reattach when they feel your getting too close.

 

[MountainSlide]

She's likely got another dude she's more interested in or an ex, she wants you as a back up option. You did fine with your response, stick to it!

To me the unsolicited let’s just be friends is weird. She’s been sending me long messages and consistently initiating contact (I’ve been writing short responses only and sending them whenever I feel like aka making her wait and not investing myself). It’s like she keeps getting in contact with me to try to get a reaction from rejecting me.

1) she contacts me to let me know she’s super busy and is putting relationship on the backburner. I respond and say no problem. Call me when you have more time.
2) she gets in touch with me after this and indicates towards a date. So I try and set one up. Then she rejects saying too busy. I respond with okay, get in touch when you have more time.
3) she leaves me a long message to say let’s be friends. I told her not interested in that call me if you change your mind.

She is single I know for a fact so would be seeing another guy if anything. But most women that I’ve ever dated, if they’re not interested, they reject and move on. Not continuously initiate contact to just reproduce the same response.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

To me the unsolicited let’s just be friends is weird. She’s been sending me long messages and consistently initiating contact (I’ve been writing short responses only and sending them whenever I feel like aka making her wait and not investing myself). It’s like she keeps getting in contact with me to try to get a reaction from rejecting me.

1) she contacts me to let me know she’s super busy and is putting relationship on the backburner. I respond and say no problem. Call me when you have more time.
2) she gets in touch with me after this and indicates towards a date. So I try and set one up. Then she rejects saying too busy. I respond with okay, get in touch when you have more time.
3) she leaves me a long message to say let’s be friends. I told her not interested in that call me if you change your mind.

She is single I know for a fact so would be seeing another guy if anything. But most women that I’ve ever dated, if they’re not interested, they reject and move on. Not continuously initiate contact to just reproduce the same response.

Some continue the contact to keep you on the line.

 

[MountainSlide]

Some continue the contact to keep you on the line.

Ainte nobody got time for that . I’ve been dating other women the whole time. We weren’t exclusive. But I guess if she continues to exhibit the same pattern of behaviour I’m going to have to NC her.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Some continue the contact to keep you on the line.

If you pickup phone or respond to text she knows she got you still. So you can eliminate contact and she will come over.

 

[MountainSlide]

If you pickup phone or respond to text she knows she got you still. So you can eliminate contact and she will come over.

Yeah and I never met someone that talks so much either. Like she can have a half an hour conversation without me even saying anything. Lol. I told her that too haha.

The first 3min of the message she left me was her talking about herself before she interjected things about me.

 

[HankHill]

I'd keep her on the line, turn the tables so to speak. Respond a day later, then two days later, then three days later until she gets the message.

 

[MountainSlide]

I'd keep her on the line, turn the tables so to speak. Respond a day later, then two days later, then three days later until she gets the message.

I flip it on her every time. But based on what I can see is that she’s trying to poke and prod to see if she can get an emotional reaction from me or push me off my frame.

I guess we’ll find out shortly if she’s a head case or not. Depending on whether she contacts me. And if she does get in touch, what she wants.