Approached a girl at my gym and don't know what to make of it

[sangheilios]

Last evening I decided to approach this girl that I see at my gym semi regularly. Prior to that I had noticed her checking me out a few times so it wasn't completely out of the blue. I was in the stretching area and she walks in and makes eye contact with me, I gave her a couple minutes to get settled in before I decided to walk over. She sees me walking in her direction and she immediately takes her headphones off and has a huge smile on her face. We introduce ourselves and talk for about 10 minutes or so, she was pretty open so the conversation went really well. She was telling me where she lived and that she lived alone, what she likes to do for fun, college, etc. I decided to ask for her number which is when she mentions she had a boyfriend, so I made my exit.

Anyway, I leave and go back to doing my stretching feeling that was a done deal not in my favor but when she goes to leave the stretching area she walks by me, locks eyes, smiles and waves.

I don't want to get sucked into another attention whoring situation like the last woman I met at my gym.

 

[AttackFormation]

You don't want to get sucked into another AW bind... okay, so don't? don't really see what you want to discuss. There's nothing you can do to prevent women baiting and switching you to validate that they still "have it" except not talking to women. When she looks at you and smiles or whatever from now on, do what you were advised to do in the last thread... smile back and then go back to doing and thinking about whatever you were doing.

 

[lamath]

You did good approach side now follow Attackformation advise

 

[gravityeyelids]

Good on you for approaching. Did what you shoulda done. She's probably either an AW with a boyfriend or just wasn't that into you and used the "i have a boyfriend" thing (no offense). Not much more you can do at this point, i wouldn't worry about it, and would just ignore her for the most part.

 

[sangheilios]

Good on you for approaching. Did what you shoulda done. She's probably either an AW with a boyfriend or just wasn't that into you and used the "i have a boyfriend" thing (no offense). Not much more you can do at this point, i wouldn't worry about it, and would just ignore her for the most part.

That's why I was a bit confused with the way she acted after I had walked away and she was leaving, locking eyes with me and smiling.

I don't see her very often there, like once every couple weeks, so I won't be in a situation where I'll continuously be running into her on a regular basis.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Not enough softening of the target before asking for her number. Women need a little cat and mouse, a little time to experience the excitement of wondering if a guy likes her, especially in a situation where you run into her fairly frequently.

Personally I like to build up that tension before getting her number, and by that time she’s eager to give it to me. The reason I haven’t been rejected in 10 years is that I soften the target until she is giving me a clear invitation. I only go after women who make it easy for me.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Last evening I decided to approach this girl that I see at my gym semi regularly. Prior to that I had noticed her checking me out a few times so it wasn't completely out of the blue. I was in the stretching area and she walks in and makes eye contact with me, I gave her a couple minutes to get settled in before I decided to walk over. She sees me walking in her direction and she immediately takes her headphones off and has a huge smile on her face. We introduce ourselves and talk for about 10 minutes or so, she was pretty open so the conversation went really well. She was telling me where she lived and that she lived alone, what she likes to do for fun, college, etc. I decided to ask for her number which is when she mentions she had a boyfriend, so I made my exit.

Anyway, I leave and go back to doing my stretching feeling that was a done deal not in my favor but when she goes to leave the stretching area she walks by me, locks eyes, smiles and waves.

I don't want to get sucked into another attention whoring situation like the last woman I met at my gym.

What don't you get? No number, IG or **** sucked.

Worst game ever award winner.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Not enough softening of the target before asking for her number. Women need a little cat and mouse, a little time to experience the excitement of wondering if a guy likes her, especially in a situation where you run into her fairly frequently.

Personally I like to build up that tension before getting her number, and by that time she’s eager to give it to me. The reason I haven’t been rejected in 10 years is that I soften the target until she is giving me a clear invitation. I only go after women who make it easy for me.

I do too but at thirty, I love flash game. Smash or next.

The best part of a attention ***** is the retarded amount of squandered fertility since her SMV and youth don't grow back.

There's a certain level of cat and mouse required. No doubt. IMHO, based upon my experience, its either on at go or not at all.

Taking my **** out when in doubt.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

That's why I was a bit confused with the way she acted after I had walked away and she was leaving, locking eyes with me and smiling.

I don't see her very often there, like once every couple weeks, so I won't be in a situation where I'll continuously be running into her on a regular basis.

Why a attention ***** waves at you?

Terrible game.

Married women ****kkk. They don't mention a husband nor do interested girls.

 

[sangheilios]

Not enough softening of the target before asking for her number. Women need a little cat and mouse, a little time to experience the excitement of wondering if a guy likes her, especially in a situation where you run into her fairly frequently.

Personally I like to build up that tension before getting her number, and by that time she’s eager to give it to me. The reason I haven’t been rejected in 10 years is that I soften the target until she is giving me a clear invitation. I only go after women who make it easy for me.

I actually saw her at the gym today and decided to talk to her. She was even more open compared to the previous time before, huge smile and everything, but I kept it to just a couple minutes and went back to my workout.

I agree though, looking back on it I shouldn't have gone for the number the very first time I was talking to her. I went in way too confident and sure of myself because of the fact I knew she had been checking me out so much prior.

 

[soulforge]

All I can say is.. Weldone man!

Cold approaching chicks at the gym, is treacherous grounds.

 

[Focal core]

I have one girl at my gym that i would only interested in having a tea or that kind of social meterial which i would like to hang out.. Not my personal preference type of realationship meterial thou shes 7plus solid.. We spike consfantly and waves in each other everytime we met..

Well like i said a tea or coffee talk i mean sharing opinion and ideas since we work at the same place, not in the same dept tho.. Well i ask her out for a drinks and she straight away flakes on me saying having to meet another friends bla bla bla...

Lol these girl really are hard to read sometimes.. Rofl.. Maybe she thought all this while im trying to hit on her all this time.. Mtf.. Hahaha

I just smile and oh yeah no problem, i just laughed by myself for a while.

 

[Dr.Suave]

"I have a boyfriend."


- I don´t care.
- Don´t worry. I´m not the jealous type.
- I won´t tell if you don´t.

Take your pick.

 

[sangheilios]

All I can say is.. Weldone man!

Cold approaching chicks at the gym, is treacherous grounds.

I've actually done it several times since last year and initially never had any issues with them. I'm a bit selective with whom I approach and don't do it all that often. Most of the time they just weren't single but then pseudo lead me on because they were attracted to me and enjoyed the attention.

 

[sangheilios]

"I have a boyfriend."


- I don´t care.
- Don´t worry. I´m not the jealous type.
- I won´t tell if you don´t.

Take your pick.

LOL Last August I had approached a girl at my gym, we talked for a while the first conversation and I could tell she was digging me. Next time I saw her we were talking for a bit and I asked her for her number, which is when she admitted she had a boyfriend. I said "I'm not sure how serious it is" then she got a bit annoyed and said "Serious enough to mention it" lol. Anyway, I tell her I'd be interested if she were single and leave. We kept talking when we were there and 2 months later she mentions she was free later and asked me if I was so I made a move. She then says "I have to mention I'm still seeing my bf" and just stood there smiling, I decided to walk away though.

 

[AttackFormation]

LOL Last August I had approached a girl at my gym, we talked for a while the first conversation and I could tell she was digging me. Next time I saw her we were talking for a bit and I asked her for her number, which is when she admitted she had a boyfriend. I said "I'm not sure how serious it is" then she got a bit annoyed and said "Serious enough to mention it" lol. Anyway, I tell her I'd be interested if she were single and leave. We kept talking when we were there and 2 months later she mentions she was free later and asked me if I was so I made a move. She then says "I have to mention I'm still seeing my bf" and just stood there smiling, I decided to walk away though.

lol... they should give her a spot in the local orchestra for the men she plays.

 

[sangheilios]

lol... they should give her a spot in the local orchestra for the men she plays.

Before I approached her there were several other guys that tried their luck and she shot them all down. The only reason I even persisted was because I was really attracted to her and she was open to it. Looking back on it now, which is a year later, I wish I had just kept it casual and not have encouraged her to act like that.

 

[lizardking82]

Your approach was too much by the book. You approached, talked and proceeded to "by the book" "seal the deal". Don't do that, bud. **** "by the book". You approach, you have a conversation, you leave. Leave her wondering. She will find a way to make a contact possibility if she's intrigued enough. If you're asking for the number after 5 minutes, your intention is too clear and it is clear in a way that she knows she's "got you by the cojones" meaning she thinks "Yeah, that's it, he asked for the number and he thinks he can bang me, let;s toy with him a bit now". Any woman that goes to the a mixed gym (with the exception of some rare gems maybe) is partly doing that cause they enjoy men giving them free attention all over the place. At best, you're dealing with an insecure woman, at worst, you're dealing with an attention mamasita WHURE LOL

Next time, approach, have a short chat and leave. Show her you don't need her number, show her you don't need to bang her and make her guess if you find her attractive enough or not. Maybe nothing happens, but on the long run, more will happen than not.

 

[sangheilios]

Your approach was too much by the book. You approached, talked and proceeded to "by the book" "seal the deal". Don't do that, bud. **** "by the book". You approach, you have a conversation, you leave. Leave her wondering. She will find a way to make a contact possibility if she's intrigued enough. If you're asking for the number after 5 minutes, your intention is too clear and it is clear in a way that she knows she's "got you by the cojones" meaning she thinks "Yeah, that's it, he asked for the number and he thinks he can bang me, let;s toy with him a bit now". Any woman that goes to the a mixed gym (with the exception of some rare gems maybe) is partly doing that cause they enjoy men giving them free attention all over the place. At best, you're dealing with an insecure woman, at worst, you're dealing with an attention mamasita WHURE LOL

Next time, approach, have a short chat and leave. Show her you don't need her number, show her you don't need to bang her and make her guess if you find her attractive enough or not. Maybe nothing happens, but on the long run, more will happen than not.

I had approached her again not that long ago and walked away after a few minutes, you are right in that in an environment like this it's better to do the long and slow game. As I had mentioned earlier on this thread, I went in way too confident and sure of myself.

 

[Atom Smasher]

"I have a boyfriend."


- I don´t care.
- Don´t worry. I´m not the jealous type.
- I won´t tell if you don´t.

Take your pick.

Also, "This is your lucky day. Now you can have two!"