Would you be put off?

[captain55]

Are you

That's fine, but you gave us an isolated incident and our evaluation of that incident is that you messed up. Past negative behavior doesn't make it okay to do this though.

I don't know if this applies to your specific case, but sometimes when people don't even want to talk about the problem it is because what you did is just plain wrong. I know I don't even bother discussing when I know that the other won't ever agree, they're definitely wrong and there's no way I'll accept it. Might be what she's doing? That you have done several things that in a common sense kind of way is just stupid, but you have, let's say a different perspective on it...

I don't think discussing anything with you is worth the time. This thread proves it, all I see is excuses. 0/10 wouldn't date you.

Your a woman of course your biased

 

[captain55]

You apologized. She can either accept the apology or GTFO.

I like this answer.

My ex tells me I go for fake plastic bitches and starts cursing me out of the blue over the phone. I laugh and to be a **** send her a harmless bikini picture of my new girls huge natural tits to get her to shut the **** up and I found it funny

I’ve been around the block a long time, dated a ton of women. 9 out of 10 of them would laugh it off...unless it was a sex video or something really explicit.

I really like this new chick she’s amazing but she’s sensitive beyond belief and it’s concerning for me. What happens if I go to a club and some girl smiles at me and grabs my arm? What happens if her best friend makes up some story I tried to come on to her because she really wants to **** me? Will she run away from that as well or will she talk it out?

 

[sazc]

Nooooooo.... YOU ruined the relationship by violating your girlfriend's privacy and disrespecting her. You need to own that

 

[Serenity]

Your a woman of course your biased

My balls disagree with you. But if I was, I wouldn't date you. Or if you were a woman with that mindset I wouldn't date you.

Also, it's "you're".

 

[Roober]

So... your still stuck on your ex and you violated your current ladies trust. Yet she is the problem?

The first step to fixing a problem is admitting you are powerless over it.

 

[AJ84]

Yeah she’s a bpd based on what I’ve seen I can draw that conclusion. I feel bad for hurting this girl, even though what I did wasn’t that bad. This chick was quality and I’m willing to go the extra mile to get her back.

You made a mistake, everyone does. You may not think what you did was that bad, and maybe another women would not think so either but you’re not her, and she is not some other women who would not see it as a big deal.
Realize that she now has a pic of her boobs in a bra on social media thanks to you sending it to your crazy ex gf. Anyone can save that image and do whatever. It doesn’t matter that her face wasn’t in it. Maybe she doesn’t want any part of her body immortalized online for anyone to use, on a porn site, in a meme etc.
And I assume she trusted you enough to send you (just you), this pic? And you used that pic, and by extension her, to play into some crazy ex gf drama that has nothing to do with her. And now some guy on the other side of the planet is probably jerking off to that pic as I type this.
If you want to go the extra mile to get her back, start by seeing it from her perspective and going from there.

 

[devilkingx2]

I'd feel pride if my girl used me as a **** you to other people. I must be quite a catch right?

The real loss is the giant natural tits, those are a rare treat. Your girl sounds lame personality wise.

Somehow It's your fault for sending it and not your exes fault for posting it? Somehow it matters if people see a picture of her that don't know it's her and have zero connection to her?

 

[devilkingx2]

For future reference though:

 

[captain55]

I'd feel pride if my girl used me as a **** you to other people. I must be quite a catch right?

The real loss is the giant natural tits, those are a rare treat. Your girl sounds lame personality wise.

Somehow It's your fault for sending it and not your exes fault for posting it? Somehow it matters if people see a picture of her that don't know it's her and have zero connection to her?

Smart man.

Like I knew my ex gf would throw it up on social media for everyone to see?

And what are the odds someone she knew and that had been in her room and recognized the room follows my ex gf on social media in a city as big as Los Angeles? Your Face wasn’t in the photo..

 

[devilkingx2]

And what are the odds someone she knew and that had been in her room and recognized the room follows my ex gf on social media in a city as big as Los Angeles? Your Face wasn’t in the photo..

one could argue that this just means you were unlikely to get caught rather than had done nothing wrong

however I would argue that she should be giving you the benefit of the doubt and be lenient with you unless you have a habit of pissing her off or something. but some girls aren't really fair

 

[BeExcellent]

You are a dum ass. You say you are dating a quality girl? This is NOT the kind of indiscretion a quality girl will put up with. I certainly wouldn't. I won't send titillating photos to anyone. My body is private. And this example you gave shows why my way is wise. You had a bone head moment & sent a compromising photo of your girl without her consent to someone she doesn't know.

OF COURSE it ended up on social media. What else did you expect? That's why you were exceptionally stupid to send this to your ex. You were dim to speak with her at all...but you not only spoke with her...you gave her information to use against you.

I'd drop you in a New York second over this. It is a breach of trust, massively disrespectful, and extremely immature & lacking in judgement. Done, done & done.

If she is a quality girl AND she is hot? She has lots of more intelligent, more discerning options than you.

This is on YOU, period.

 

[captain55]

You are a dum ass. You say you are dating a quality girl? This is NOT the kind of indiscretion a quality girl will put up with. I certainly wouldn't. I won't send titillating photos to anyone. My body is private. And this example you gave shows why my way is wise. You had a bone head moment & sent a compromising photo of your girl without her consent to someone she doesn't know.

OF COURSE it ended up on social media. What else did you expect? That's why you were exceptionally stupid to send this to your ex. You were dim to speak with her at all...but you not only spoke with her...you gave her information to use against you.

I'd drop you in a New York second over this. It is a breach of trust, massively disrespectful, and extremely immature & lacking in judgement. Done, done & done.

If she is a quality girl AND she is hot? She has lots of more intelligent, more discerning options than you.

This is on YOU, period.

Like I give a **** about a woman’s opinion.

 

[BeExcellent]

Like I give a **** about a woman’s opinion.

I know. Starting with your girlfriend, obviously, whose opinion you don't give a crap about either.

How's that working out for ya champ?

 

[sazc]

I've read ppl here say "I wouldn't care if my woman sent out pics/chest pics of me". Well, we all know that chest pics of guys are a LOT different than chest pics of girls.

HOWEVER

for sh1tz and giggles, let's say all things are equal. So what we are really dealing with here is personal preference and choice. You are trying to minimize your (newly ex) gf feelings by justifying your behavior with 'how you would react'. Guess what? that's not how it works in functioning relationships.

You guys walk around here screaming about how she's supposed to serve you a sammie and then you eat it while she gives you a BJ - she's supposed to be submissive. That attitude is going to eliminate the majority of the marketplace for you, not to mention, eliminate the females that have self respect.

Good relationships are a two way street with baseline of respect. No one is perfect and we are all going to make mistakes/impulsive mistakes. A quality human being doesn't try to justify hurting someone else by saying "well, I wouldn't care if someone did that to me, so you shouldn't care" that's not how friendships work. Figure this out.

That said, if you encounter a friend or GF who seems overly sensitive, recognize you are not going to change them. You either need to accept who they are and work with it, or realize they are not the person for you. This is the type of empowering thinking that clears the way for compatible people to be in your lives and relationship harmony (friends gf's) to occur. I'm not saying it's easy to do this, just pointing it out.

Good luck

 

[oldmanofthesea]

You ask for advice and then insult people who give it to you? That's a bad way to go.

There is no reason to get into the mud with your ex. It shows immaturity. It won't impress anyone and it is not a good use of your time. You should ignore your ex. She's out of your life where she belongs. When your current girl sees you do things like send pics of her (even without her head) to your ex, she will know that you are immature, wonder what else you might send out about her (from pics to stories) to various people, and will wonder what you might to do her if the two of you stop dating (IE will you try to extract some sort of "revenge" on her by using her texts or photos against her). She won't trust you.

 

[captain55]

FYI...this chick FaceTimes me tonight at 11pm waking me up. To talk and she seems fine. Then sends me a text saying she’s not ready to come back now. I’m like why would you wake me up in the middle of the night to tell me this? Me thinks she just wants drama or attention

 

[Von]

Troll post.

Trolls need help, call the line

 

[Glassguy]

The lesson to be learned through all of this is clear.

The best response to an ex is NO RESPONSE. She is your ex. Why should you care what she thinks? Why would you feel as if you needed to get into a p!ssing match with her? Just let it be. Give her no response and let her wonder about it.

Its not like you send this pic to one of your very close buddies as in "check out how hott she is". You put it on social media. You acted like a moron and it blew up in your face.

Learn to think things through and what the repercussions could be for your actions next time.

 

[sazc]

it's simply impulse control. impulse control comes (to most) via maturity. Unless there is a cognitive disability. There there are people, many of them, who learn impulse control via maturity via consequences.

Nothing wrong with learning lessons via consequences, this is the hard way but also perfectly normal, we all do it. Just make sure you are someone that learns. Otherwise you WILL be stuck in the same cycle, feeling like a victim, and complaining about everyone else causing you issues, the entire way.

Anytiime you hear someone repetitively complaining about how all their lifes problems are caused by 'other people' that should tell you a lot about that person.

 

[Ranger]

Never root through the garbage once to take it to the curb.
Why haven’t you blocked the other one from your life? Completely.
Still have that little thread connected to her don’t ya!?