Banged 2 girls in her bed - am I ok?

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Apologies for long read, tried to get all info in here.

Ok So I went on two dates this week as my housemate has head fvcked me and I was catching feels.

One on Tuesday - drinks, dinner, drinks then back to my place. Lots of fun 7/10 blonde 28yo we were seeing each other about 2 years ago before my ex gf and I reached out

One last night Wednesday, drinks, drinks, drinks then back to my place. Even more fun 7.5/10 Russian looking brunette - 22yo - met her when she was 19 and I was 26 and hadn’t seen her since my mother had just died and I was a prick to her. She reach out last week randomly saying she had dreamt about me.

Last night on the way back to mine I picked up some gin from my local shop and the guy asked “where’s the girls?” As I usually go in there with different chicks either on way home or on way out for the night, they know me as a player and asked me to bring girls for them (creepy). Anyway I tell him there’s a chick in the Uber and he says take this... and squirted some liquid viagra in my mouth and said it will work when u go home. My god. My **** was getting hard even this afternoon at work, I laid the pipe down proper last night. Barebacked both, plus Sara last Friday so I’m defo getting tested at the weekend.

Banged both, but in my housemates bed. It was out of anger. I pretended to them it was my room and quickly hid the obvious girl stuff. Fvcked both in Sara’s bed while she’s in Morocco because I assumed she would be banging every fvcking dude she could while drunk.

At work some people (women) said it’s disgusting and “would she move out if she found out”. We’ve said we are just friends so I’m going back to rampaging. 3 lays in 6 days, I’m getting my groove back (even if one was Sara last Friday) I did it for my peace of mind, if she ever pisses me off or disrespects I’ll secretly always have this.

Am I fvcked up? I feel fine, my friends and work colleagues praise me, agree with the sentiment and reasoning above, I have a feeling you guys are going to roast me though so please give your opinions?

I also feel guilty because I spoke to Sara today and she’s in a Muslim country and has literally had 3 beers since she arrived on Monday therefore I know she’s not banging anyone. Also the sex with the two girls was so much better, we kissed, cuddled, were affectionate, I felt wanted and desired, dirty talk, I came, just everything that sex with Sara wasn’t. Thanks for reading
 
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Apologies for long read, tried to get all info in here.

Ok So I went on two dates this week as my housemate has head fvcked me and I was catching feels.

One on Tuesday - drinks, dinner, drinks then back to my place. Lots of fun 7/10 blonde 28yo we were seeing each other about 2 years ago before my ex gf and I reached out

One last night Wednesday, drinks, drinks, drinks then back to my place. Even more fun 7.5/10 Russian looking brunette - 22yo - met her when she was 19 and I was 26 and hadn’t seen her since my mother had just died and I was a prick to her. She reach out last week randomly saying she had dreamt about me.

Last night on the way back to mine I picked up some gin from my local shop and the guy asked “where’s the girls?” As I usually go in there with different chicks either on way home or on way out for the night, they know me as a player and asked me to bring girls for them (creepy). Anyway I tell him there’s a chick in the Uber and he says take this... and squirted some liquid viagra in my mouth and said it will work when u go home. My god. My **** was getting hard even this afternoon at work, I laid the pipe down proper last night. Barebacked both, plus Sara last Friday so I’m defo getting tested at the weekend.

Banged both, but in my housemates bed. It was out of anger. I pretended to them it was my room and quickly hid the obvious girl stuff. Fvcked both in Sara’s bed while she’s in Morocco because I assumed she would be banging every fvcking dude she could while drunk.

At work some people (women) said it’s disgusting and “would she move out if she found out”. We’ve said we are just friends so I’m going back to rampaging. 3 lays in 6 days, I’m getting my groove back (even if one was Sara last Friday) I did it for my peace of mind, if she ever pisses me off or disrespects I’ll secretly always have this.

Am I fvcked up? I feel fine, my friends and work colleagues praise me, agree with the sentiment and reasoning above, I have a feeling you guys are going to roast me though so please give your opinions?

I also feel guilty because I spoke to Sara today and she’s in a Muslim country and has literally had 3 beers since she arrived on Monday therefore I know she’s not banging anyone. Also the sex with the two girls was so much better, we kissed, cuddled, were affectionate, I felt wanted and desired, dirty talk, I came, just everything that sex with Sara wasn’t. Thanks for reading
Holy... So you were having transactional "duty" sex with Sara?
 

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Holy... So you were having transactional "duty" sex with Sara?
I posted on Sunday or Monday.

Friday night it was her bday, we (Me, Sara her cousin and friend from Australia that she used to live with. They moved out together and didn’t wanna live with her hence me taking her in, they couldn’t put up with her drinking and erratic nature) went for a meal. I had a free drinks event at work so turn up drunk, I don’t remember this but apparently was speaking about me and Sara relationship and Sara (I remember this part) kept saying “now is not the time let’s talk when we are at home”.

To cut along story short she said something along the lines of “if you aren’t going to behave and stop going off for phone calls then u can leave” I got up and said have a good evening girls. There was a group of guys on the table next to us who we engaged with (was mainly me chatting to them tbh) they ended up buying the girls 2 bottles of wine and paying for the meal. Sara didn’t come home I wake up to a text at 5:40am saying “I’m coming home soon...” bearing in mind this was a Thursday and she had work Friday. I ignore it and go to work. She says she stayed with the girls but I have an inkling she banged one of the dudes (only because I’m a jealous fvck and she’s a drunk wh0re).

Anyway on the Friday she invite me out with the same girls plus her work colleagues for a bar crawl in London. She’s flirting with some guy she works with and paying me 0 attention which is odd considering I don’t know her work friends, all good though I make friends and establish myself as the alpha/fun guy of the group and ignore her. She says “babe let’s go home” we Uber back and have sex.

The sex was emotionless and she didn’t give me eye contact or kiss me (despite us kissing previously). The whole weekend goes by and she doesn’t mention anything, leaves for Morocco Monday just gone.

Her friends (esp after the Thursday night dinner fiasco) were saying I think u and Sara should just be friend and get to know each other more. In my mind that sealed it.

Hence the OP - Murk is back and not giving any ****s. I’ll be fine right?
 

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problem is just having sex without condom, and using her bed? meh its up for you, youa re doing this all to spite her not because you want to move on

though her friends who lived with her not wanting to keep doing so should give you enough background to not let her ever move with you.

dude just stop this trainwreck, and get a hold of yourself
 

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All 3 girls were on the pill, defo getting tested though plus I told Sara on Sunday I would as we had sex on the Friday.

I do need to get a grip, but I stand by fvcking them in her bed, it's for my future sanity when she inevitably fvcks me over. I actually miss her though, I want to fix her.
 

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This is just weak jealous behavior bro.
 

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*** on her pillow #****her

To cut along story short she said something along the lines of “if you aren’t going to behave and stop going off for phone calls then u can leave” I got up and said have a good evening girls.
This is the one part i don't get. So she was unhappy with you for... Taking phone calls? Is that it?

Does she think she's your mother? Or that her hanging out with her friends is a date?


Her friends (esp after the Thursday night dinner fiasco) were saying I think u and Sara should just be friend and get to know each other more. In my mind that sealed it.
Sounds like Sara is a BPD (or maybe she's just bi polar or a sociopath) drama queen and got bored of you instantly despite pining for you for so long. Her friends know that and are warning you to stay away lol.

I actually miss her though, I want to fix her.
She's probably gonna get bored of you and branch swing or cheat on you with like 5 guys by 3 months into the relationship bro
 

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Murk, you are a HOT mess.

It's popcorn worthy however. I'll grant you that (as I head off to make popcorn).

And so the saga continues.....
 

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Very immature, I know this.
 

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See I wouldn't have cared that you banged in your roommates bed if your reasoning was "no point getting mine dirty, get the sheets wet etc" but out of anger is just hilariously sad.

The whole situation is kinda sad and I best think one of you guys should move out to end the drama and give yourself some sanity.

You got some good game dude, just gotta clear your head of this Sara bull****.
 

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See I wouldn't have cared that you banged in your roommates bed if your reasoning was "no point getting mine dirty, get the sheets wet etc" but out of anger is just hilariously sad.

The whole situation is kinda sad and I best think one of you guys should move out to end the drama and give yourself some sanity.

You got some good game dude, just gotta clear your head of this Sara bull****.
Well to be fair her room is tidier than mine and I had clothes etc everywhere and storage from around the house so her room was better for me anyway, but it was premeditated. Her (my) bed is more comfortable too, and warmer, just smaller.

It wasn't out of anger either, it was more as a bit of disrespect to her to counter any future disrespects from her. I'm not angry with her.

It's my place, she's renting out my spare room, she will be leaving in a couple of months.

I think the whole cohabiting/nesting has warped my mind slightly so this was also to "recalibrate" and get me back in to game mode.

The girl I saw Wednesday night is coming to an art gallery (Tate Modern) with me on Tuesday and we are having a no alcohol date. She also doesn't do any drugs (any more) so that's just extra motivation to get myself into clean healthy habits.

My best friend came over last night to chat and he asked how I'm able to just turn it on at will, because these past 2 months Sara has been here and the month before, I have been on 0 dates and had no desire to either. That's changed no though.
 

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It was unnecessary, but It's really not a big deal lol. I wouldn't lose any sleep over it
 

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Oh I'm not, just reflection
 

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I´m glad you´re banging these girls but some things you say and do sound so f0cked up on so many levels.

Consider moving out and cutting the housemate loose from your entire life.
 

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It's my place, you people obviously either don't read posts properly or lack basic reading comprehension. I'm not going anywhere, I own the property and I'm renting out a spare bedroom to my friend.
 

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I anticipate even more drama unfolding from this. Keep us updated :p
 

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this is some female drama trash

i say that because this is a waste of time and energy. your entire existance and emotion is ruled by this. be a man and not a scumbag
 

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this is some female drama trash

i say that because this is a waste of time and energy. your entire existance and emotion is ruled by this. be a man and not a scumbag
Agreed brother
 

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I've not replied im going out to watch the Arsenal v Liverpool game, what route should I take?

Now she wants to acknowledge the sex thing which I've been thinking about since it happened. Do I mention the mechanical, pedestrian nature of it? Do I mention the fact I need to withdraw and we both do our own thing moving forward?
 
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