I'm not disputing at all that women don't want sex almost as much as men but they can have it anytime, anywhere with just about anyone- unlike men. So, when you have something available in abundance your standards tend to get higher and you become more picky. They won't sleep with the guy who's acting like a desperate horn dog, she wants to sleep with the guy who's comfortable in his skin. In 2018 women know the game far too well, they're far more social creatures than men, they know all about the RedPill, PUA stuff by now. They have their own 'red-pill' books and their own game.
I'll give you two fairly recent examples, one woman told me she hadn't had sex in over 6mos since her last relationship ended and she'd been on over two dozen dates since then. She said she misses sex but she'd much rather hold out for the right guy, she also said 'women are a lot of work in bed, most guys won't take the time, they're there just for their little fun'. Another woman told me her friends keep pressuring her that she should just go out and get laid since she can't find 'the one'. The same woman also said how a guy she went out on a date with was too forceful in kissing her on the first date and made her very uncomfortable, the same guy drove a Porsche. I playfully said 'so it sounds like the guy does well for himself and your friends think you should get laid, I'm not seeing a problem here' and she immediately said 'sex is easy, as I'm sure you would agree...but it's about respect. If someone is respectful and there's chemistry I would love that but when someone acts like that it's a huge turn off'. I said 'well, may be the guy really liked you and wanted to show it?', she said 'most guys are just looking for you to jump in the sack with them, it just doesn't work that way for me'.
Don't get me wrong though, escalation is important but as I said those that claim they're smashing every woman on the 1st date, I have a hard time believing that unless she's promiscuous or hugely turned on by them.