How to deal with a jealous girlfriend?

[DarylMendula25]

My girlfriend gets insanely jealous from the smallest things and it’s getting out of hand. Yeah I admit that I did cheat on her once, but that happened a long time ago. I don’t search women by ID or chat with them online behind her back anymore. While I admit that I might accidently like some random girl’s selfie on Instagram or Facebook, it really doesn’t mean anything. She doesn’t get it though and will completely go off on me when she sees that I’ve liked a girl’s photo or commented on it. How do I deal with this?

 

[Billtx49]

Stop posting on a pua site and she will stop stalking you…
But seeing this is your first post, go into the bathroom and jerk off.

 

[Ranger]

tell her you’re getting a second girlfriend.
Ask her who she has been seeing and for how long? How many blowj@bs has she given outside the relationship? Ask her.

 

[051AV]

Get rid of her you really think her jealously is going to decrease? Not a fvcking chance, kick her to the curb and move onto somebody else.

 

[greatsnake]

Cut it loose.

 

[Ranger]

Ask her the question. Especially if she picked a fight. Lol classic misdirection.

 

[Ranger]

@Ranger my plate picked a fight with me a few days ago and I asked her who she's comparing me to. She says "you think you have some magic power" and I'm like "yeah I do." That was the end of that lol, we shall see.

It’s definitely a magic power. It works every time. All arguments are either misdirection and/or relating to a decision between you and another guy. Most times it’s after the fact and she looking for you to get pissed and say something so she feel better after the deed had already been done.
The mere fact that she said that is golden. Busted.

 

[AttackFormation]

It’s definitely a magic power. It works every time. All arguments are either misdirection and/or relating to a decision between you and another guy. Most times it’s after the fact and she looking for you to get pissed and say something so she feel better after the deed had already been done.
The mere fact that she said that is golden. Busted.

I would add a 3rd reason for picking arguments: resentment for a man she doesn't really want, but her hamster compels her to settle with. I've seen it almost every day of my childhood, growing up with my mom and her 2nd husband after my father. I've asked her why she got together with her 2nd husband but the best I've gotten in the end is "maybe I can't give you a good reason?".

Though on second thought, it may simply be because she compares him to my father whose life she's remained curious about (and who, even though I fully understand why, she left). So it's still under the "you and another guy" header you mentioned.

 

[Ranger]

Yep. Naturally if you piss all over her toilet and bathroom wall....well. Lol

 

[wifehunter]

you cheated on your woman, basically saying she's not good enough...and you are wondering why there are problems?

You ARE the problem.

 

[davidcarr]

My girlfriend gets insanely jealous from the smallest things and it’s getting out of hand. Yeah I admit that I did cheat on her once, but that happened a long time ago. I don’t search women by ID or chat with them online behind her back anymore. While I admit that I might accidently like some random girl’s selfie on Instagram or Facebook, it really doesn’t mean anything. She doesn’t get it though and will completely go off on me when she sees that I’ve liked a girl’s photo or commented on it. How do I deal with this?

Problem: girlfriend is angry because you're playing the field

Solution: stop playing the field.

 

[Ranger]

Problem: girlfriend is angry because you're playing the field

Solution: stop playing the field.

Replace girlfriend. Problem solved.

 

[AJ84]

You cheated and she decided to stay despite obviously not trusting you anymore, rightfully so. But it’s her decision to stay despite that so only way to end the jealously is to end the relationship. Gaslighting her with redirections won’t make it better. Just move on, the trust is gone, she’s hanging onto what you did and you’re just going to spend the rest of the relationship proving that you can be trusted and, whether or not you can be, doesn’t change the fact that it will be exhausting and frustrating for you to have to prove it all the time.

Why put yourself through that?

 

[Roober]

You cheated and she decided to stay despite obviously not trusting you anymore, rightfully so. But it’s her decision to stay despite that so only way to end the jealously is to end the relationship. Gaslighting her with redirections won’t make it better. Just move on, the trust is gone, she’s hanging onto what you did and you’re just going to spend the rest of the relationship proving that you can be trusted and, whether or not you can be, doesn’t change the fact that it will be exhausting and frustrating for you to have to prove it all the time.

Why put yourself through that?

This!

Cant remember where I heard it, but the basic premise is that once someone cheats, the relationship is usually over. If they cant pretend that nothing ever happened and move beyond it, you might as well end it for both people's sake. Otherwise, you end up in a jealousy filled relationship of guilt and poor self image.

It sounds like your relationship is over, and staying with her is only delaying the inevitable.

 

[dude99]

I would add a 3rd reason for picking arguments: resentment for a man she doesn't really want, but her hamster compels her to settle with. I've seen it almost every day of my childhood, growing up with my mom and her 2nd husband after my father. I've asked her why she got together with her 2nd husband but the best I've gotten in the end is "maybe I can't give you a good reason?".

Though on second thought, it may simply be because she compares him to my father whose life she's remained curious about (and who, even though I fully understand why, she left). So it's still under the "you and another guy" header you mentioned.

Your 3rd reason is bang on.

Chris Rock :

" ever catch your woman just looking at you, and she aint happy? That's because you weren't her first choice and she settled for your a$$."

 

[AttackFormation]

Your 3rd reason is bang on.

Chris Rock :

" ever catch your woman just looking at you, and she aint happy? That's because you weren't her first choice and she settled for your a$$."

Yep... I've never experienced it yet myself, but I'm wary of something not quite like that but similar ending up being the future when I'm older and have established my career: only being able to choose from women whose ability to genuinely pair bond and feel affection for a new man is long spent and gone, and now they are a jaded, frigid husk. In such a scenario I'd rather remain single. Guys have no idea how early women start having sex with a few or several dozens of partners, celebrities, athletes, macks, vacation playboys, and think 10 or 20 by their early 20s is "a lot".

If I ever felt what Chris Rock talks about if it so is 30 years from now, I would leave.

 

[Soflobro#3]

I would add a 3rd reason for picking arguments: resentment for a man she doesn't really want, but her hamster compels her to settle with. I've seen it almost every day of my childhood, growing up with my mom and her 2nd husband after my father. I've asked her why she got together with her 2nd husband but the best I've gotten in the end is "maybe I can't give you a good reason?".

Though on second thought, it may simply be because she compares him to my father whose life she's remained curious about (and who, even though I fully understand why, she left). So it's still under the "you and another guy" header you mentioned.

I'm sorry this happened to you. My parents are still married and have always been loyal, my mom homeschooled 4 kids, and cooked from scratch. In my mind my parents are almost not separate people. I know my mom was loyal because i was always with get and my siblings.

You know most of my friends come from a broken home. That really sucks.

My parents will always be together and they're still in love. They have both become dependent on each other. They both sacrificed a lot for each other.

It is sad how common broken families are. It's great for powerfu people though.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Lol anymore.

My girlfriend gets insanely jealous from the smallest things and it’s getting out of hand. Yeah I admit that I did cheat on her once, but that happened a long time ago. I don’t search women by ID or chat with them online behind her back anymore. While I admit that I might accidently like some random girl’s selfie on Instagram or Facebook, it really doesn’t mean anything. She doesn’t get it though and will completely go off on me when she sees that I’ve liked a girl’s photo or commented on it. How do I deal with this?

lol any more.

It's called the freeze out. You just simply give her the silent treatment. If she doubles down, kick her out. Send her home.