Eff My Life - Looking for a little GUIDANCE

[FMCSMT]

She's 29, 1 kid, pretty hot, seems super in to me.

She calls all the time and I have never met her. I answer maybe half the time. She never complains about it.

Last night after we made plans to meet up in the evening, calls me and says she's too tired.

Literally, while on the phone, goes to get something to eat (we live within a mile or so of each other). I'm working on a project while she tells me this and goes somewhere to get food. I was thinking "is this really happening?!"

She texts me today that she is super tired again. I text "Let me know when you're free". She replies "....tonight we could do something".

I've literally spent way too much time talking to her but when I go to let her go she keeps on and keeps on, to the point I've almost "accidently" hung up on her. I'm talking 10 plus hours have been spent on the phone and I slapping myself as hard as you all should be. I put the Bluetooth headphones on right away on the first conversation because I need/want to do other things and will not stop my life for a conversation with someone I don't even know.

I don't know what to do at this point. She has exceeded the 10 hours of communication and I am ready to "friendzone/ghost" her. I don't even want to respond to her text. She tells me that she gets ghosted all the time and she hates. I can see why..

I'm at the point where I have better things to do, have to do, want to do, starting to not care at all if I ever meet her and am even beginning to forget about her. I have to remind myself that "oh ya...this one...what's her name again...oh ya, ok...."

Thoughts? Recommendations?

 

[jaymbrs]

She has no intention of ever meeting up with you or "being" with you. You're giving her all the attention she needs already via the phone. 10+ hours on the phone and you've never met her? Are you serious?

 

[AttackFormation]

My mottos of interest:

1. If she didn't say a variation of "yes", she meant no
2. Women who want you help you and make it easy for you, there is no "playing hard to get"

So looking at that, I'd stop responding if I were you.

She'll either stop contacting you in which case you just move on, or she'll blow up your phone. If she does the latter, you can send a simple text: "all right, come see me at [your place or near it so you don't waste more time on her] today/tonight". If she then doesn't say some variation of "yes" and shows up, delete her info.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Force yourself to ghost her. Delete her, block her, remove all evidence she ever existed.

 

[FMCSMT]

I just did the math thanks to my iPhone tracking the length of calls.

Ugh...I'm at exactly 11 hours and 30 minutes. Seriously (puts gun in mouth...pulls trigger)

She will call, and call, and text, and then probably stop.

She will call tonight, most likely even on my way home.

 

[Bible_Belt]

One mile away? You could just walk there and knock on her door. You could be getting catfished by a land whale, as far as you know.

 

[marmel75]

She has no intention of ever meeting up with you or "being" with you. You're giving her all the attention she needs already via the phone. 10+ hours on the phone and you've never met her? Are you serious?

This dude thinks he is going to freidnzone her without realizing she has already done that long ago to him. LMAO!

OP, get some options bro.

 

[AttackFormation]

I just did the math thanks to my iPhone tracking the length of calls.

Ugh...I'm at exactly 11 hours and 30 minutes. Seriously (puts gun in mouth...pulls trigger)

She will call, and call, and text, and then probably stop.

She will call tonight, most likely even on my way home.

Jesus dude... why are you making another post going over her before she's even done anything?

Whatever happens after this is done, I'd take a look at yourself...

 

[FMCSMT]

I do have options but I typically don't date this time of year until early spring. I go on trips almost every weekend this time of year and I am not going to be in a dating situation during that time. And I will not bring a woman with me. What I do is I snowmobile and Ski on the north shore (about 5-6 hours away). If there is snow at home, I'm riding during the week too.

I also have custody of 3 kids and a brand new huge house that I just moved into. There is not time and I won't make time for dating during this time of the year. I am very upfront about that. It is nothing but problems if I do. I happened to see her on a OLD site and just asked if she lived in the same town I do (obviously, it shows where she lives) and she has been messaging, texting and calling ever since.

When I tell her we should meet at this place and this time, she doesn't confirm.

Her and I have a mutual friend. She is not catfishing me.

I seriously don't have time for "dating" but if I want to get some nice tang tonight from a hot woman, or even a couple of hotties, it is almost too easy. But then they want "more" and it's not worth the lay to go through the argument and resentment of telling them how there will not be "more".

I am thinking about telling her "look, you would probably make a good friend. You can be my bud. Talk to you later.."

I have had some of the hottest girls jump on Coock after I say that. Part of me doesn't even want to go that far but I know her feels will be hurt and we do live close to one another (will most likely run into each other in town).

If you have any other suggestions, I am all ears. Thanks

 

[FMCSMT]

I should add that she is telling me both in text and phone that she wants a relationship with me and has not even met me.

AFC comes to mind. I haven't dealt with this in a few months so that is why I asked..

 

[Spaz]

All those calls is to get you to do something.

Remember those times ur mom nags at you or even when ur ex does it?

Only this is the softer version. But with the same motives.

I too keep my calender clear on certain months to focus on my hunting. No women allowed. Been doing it for decades. Helps restore my mojo. Recharge the batteries.

 

[R.U.G.]

You're too available to a woman you've not fvcked yet. Even if you've fvcked her, you'd still be too available. Now, I understand she has a kid, so that needs to be taken into consideration. However, you need to have more things going on in your life and stop making a woman a main focal point. Back away and let things fall where they may. Next time she reaches out to do something, just invite her over to cook a meal and watch a movie. You're beat and too tired to go out. If she wants to see you for you, she'll comply. If not, she'll continue to play this game. You need to step up and step away. Regain control.

Also, if / when she breaks a presumed date, don't let her see/hear/feel it bothers you. Just say, no worries, another time perhaps and let her come and suggest another time. Do not reach out until she makes another contact.

 

[sazc]

At this point you have nothing to lose by very nicely telling her "we seem to be unable to connect, let me know when you can make it over to my house within 30 minutes, otherwise I need to focus on other things."

And then do not respond to any text that isn't something straight out about her coming over

If she texts poorly you need to resize that you have zero to lose at this point because she hasn't given you anything to lose.

 

[marvinlfloresq]

She's 29, 1 kid, pretty hot, seems super in to me.

She calls all the time and I have never met her. I answer maybe half the time. She never complains about it.

Last night after we made plans to meet up in the evening, calls me and says she's too tired.

Literally, while on the phone, goes to get something to eat (we live within a mile or so of each other). I'm working on a project while she tells me this and goes somewhere to get food. I was thinking "is this really happening?!"

She texts me today that she is super tired again. I text "Let me know when you're free". She replies "....tonight we could do something".

I've literally spent way too much time talking to her but when I go to let her go she keeps on and keeps on, to the point I've almost "accidently" hung up on her. I'm talking 10 plus hours have been spent on the phone and I slapping myself as hard as you all should be. I put the Bluetooth headphones on right away on the first conversation because I need/want to do other things and will not stop my life for a conversation with someone I don't even know.

I don't know what to do at this point. She has exceeded the 10 hours of communication and I am ready to "friendzone/ghost" her. I don't even want to respond to her text. She tells me that she gets ghosted all the time and she hates. I can see why..

I'm at the point where I have better things to do, have to do, want to do, starting to not care at all if I ever meet her and am even beginning to forget about her. I have to remind myself that "oh ya...this one...what's her name again...oh ya, ok...."

Thoughts? Recommendations?

She said tonight we could do something..
So what's the problem? Did you go smash?

 

[FMCSMT]

She said tonight we could do something..
So what's the problem? Did you go smash?

So ya, I probably could have. She offered to come over tonight but she would’ve had to ditch her kid and her kid is gone all weekend and so are mine and I work tomorrow early. But she was actually willing to do that.

For me it is the time thing. Haven’t even met. Who talks for that long?

We are meeting up tomorrow night. Wants to come over...lol

 

[FMCSMT]

So what I did is sent that text - you just want to be my bud? - and she called right away and basically asked if I was effing kidding her. Lmao. She also mentioned that she offered to come over last night.

She does seem higher grade, educated, maintained her own place for five years, career, somewhat legit and we have mutual friends giving their input along with her mom investigating me and apparently I’m turning out to be recommended for this one.

The main mutual friend is running for city council and has been a big positive deal going on for the community. And he thinks I’m awesome because we worked together for some time a couple years back.

So I’m getting a little pedestal action...

I’ve been about smash and MGTOW mindset without the extremism’s behind it and my focal point continues to be, really, what ever the Fock I want that makes my life richer. It actually disturbs me to the core to allow just one to be a distraction. I got carried away and probably will continue but that’s why I turn to you fine folks.

I’ll keep you all posted. My hope is that we can learn a little together.

I think the “hey you would make a good friend” or “we should totally be friends” text is paramount. I have scored some amazingly fun hotties with that one. I let them vent and flirt a little and then drop them that text. Or if they send a random “hey” I’ll wait a few minutes and respond “hey bud”. So much fun. Don’t take it too far so that you pisss them off though.

 

[Dr.Suave]

You are being too available. Never be to too available.

Also, she sounds like a pain. I would stay the f0ck away no matter how hot she is. Kindly consider ghosting the fock out

 

[Red Legg]

She calls all the time

The next time that she calls talk about nothing but SEX..tell her you want to fvck her in every orifice and turn her into a sex talker..she how long her ass sticks aroun then...

 

[RangerMIke]

The next time that she calls talk about nothing but SEX..tell her you want to fvck her in every orifice and turn her into a sex talker..she how long her ass sticks aroun then...

I wouldn't be this blunt... but this is the right track. Clearly she isn't getting the message about what you want, and she thinks everything is fine just chit chatting on the phone. You can't make sex happen over the phone. What ever she says turn it sexual and then ask when you can meet... keep doing this when she calls, if she won't agree to meet you, then just get off the phone because you are too busy.

Either one or two things is going to happen, she'll stop calling or you'll get a date. Then you can actually try and make something happen.

 

[jaymbrs]

At this point you have nothing to lose by very nicely telling her "we seem to be unable to connect, let me know when you can make it over to my house within 30 minutes, otherwise I need to focus on other things."

And then do not respond to any text that isn't something straight out about her coming over

If she texts poorly you need to resize that you have zero to lose at this point because she hasn't given you anything to lose.

Besides his 11+ hours of time.