I selected to the wrong woman as well. I was smart enough to divorce the woman before it got bad, but we've all made major mistakes in life. There are men and women that just also grow apart. No one really knows how a person will be 3, 5, 10+ years down the line. Now, am I saying they are not damaged and a man shouldn't be cautious? No, of course not. However, as with any person, go by their actions, not by what they say. Am I saying marry them? Hell to the no. However, if her children or children are mid teens or older, it really shouldn't effect having some fun and seeing where it goes. Chances are, a single mother who's been around the block knows the man wants sex. As long as her child rearing doesn't interfere with getting sex, I really do not see the problem of keeping them as a plate and both of you having some fun. The cavat is that if the kids are young, like under 10, skip. Not worth the drama or headache. But teenage or young adult, I do not see a problem keeping them around. Especially the one's who keep a good body. I know some of my tenant's who are in their late 30's and early 40's with a better body than some of my female tenants in their early 20's. And no, I do not put my hand in the cookie jar. I am just sharing what I see.