Girlfriend not as hot on sex.

[devilkingx2]

If it's not long lasting then she could've been tired, busy, sick, in a bad mood, on her period, etc.

But if she makes a habit of denying sex or it goes on for days (Don't even entertain the notion of weeks) without adequate explanation you have to first confront her non adversarially (meaning just talk to her about it and ask what's up, don't bring pitch forks and torches)

If asking her what's up and letting her know you aren't thrilled about not getting laid doesn't change anything, start running dread. Pull away and fix yourself up and put in less effort into her then start talking to other girls.

If you get to the point where it's easier to get laid by cold approaching girls on the street from scratch or convincing old girlfriends or ****buddies to come for another round then dump your girl and find new ones, she's not doing anything for you.

 

[Mazer]

When the sex dissapears you are in trouble. Cheated on my gf fifteen years ago and I stopped giving her sex because I was banging a much hotter woman and the sex was amazing. The sex with my gf was no longer pleasurable because I was banging a new hottie. Same goes for women.

 

[Jay25]

It hasn’t stopped we had sex Thursday, but sometimes if I bring it up she just flat out ignores it or if I bring it up via text she won’t answer, disrespectful just saying sexual things, she will not answer than say she loves me.

Would dread game work?

Like should I be responding to I love you, I just ignored it and went to bed via text.

I notice if I am reaching out less she reaches out more but I always go back to my old self and then she backs off and the cycle begins. Like last weekend she was telling me how she’s ready for our life together.

If she didn’t hear from me for a day she used to be worried, now it’s not the same.

 

[Jay25]

She is leaving but on her terms, slowly. Nothing really works.

Why does she mention wanting to be together then and how we are going to plan it and going on trips together, just last week, is it just to keep me hanging on?

 

[AJ84]

Why does she mention wanting to be together then and how we are going to plan it and going on trips together, just last week, is it just to keep me hanging on?

Why don’t you just ask her? Don’t text or snap chat her about it. You live together, sit her down and look her in the eye and call her on the sh*t that is bothering you.
She’s not a girl you just started dating and you say you want to stay with her so talk to the woman face to face.

 

[AJ84]

This won't help, she won't admit to it.

Oh, so you know her?

 

[AJ84]

Why did my exes nag for wedding rings weeks before breaking up and cheating?

That’s your experience, it may or may not apply here but I can tell you that confronting her on it is better for him in the long run than guessing and doubting and wondering, which just sucks up his own time and energy. If she says one thing to him but does another, at least he could say he called her out like a man who doesn’t put up with sh*t.

 

[AJ84]

I might as well lol

Lol Come on now don’t you think he should just tell what’s she’s doing that’s bothering him? Isn’t that what you all advise anyway, to point out undesirable behaviour?

 

[Jay25]

She’s introduced all this distance, at least sexually I’m just responding by pulling back the I love yous and such, I don’t know if this is good, I don’t know anything anymore

I’ve ****ed up quite a bit and I can see why she doesn’t have some desire, but I’m not cool on the not responding for hours or just ignoring.

 

[Jay25]

I feel she is very manipulative, even more so then the average chick, I made a lot of mistakes early on telling her all my problems and such, and she was oh so supportive, until one day I noticed a change and I backed off on telling her that stuff, she’s seen a lot of weak sides in me, I thought she was different but it’s proving that she’s just like all of them

 

[Jay25]

I have confronted her about things she does I don’t like and she has generally stopped, but really her communication sucks at this point the first 9 months it was no problem until she pulled back a bit and I panicked

 

[AJ84]

I have confronted her about things she does I don’t like and she has generally stopped, but really her communication sucks at this point the first 9 months it was no problem until she pulled back a bit and I panicked

If you feel she is really manipulative then move on. That’s not a good feeling to have in a relationship.

 

[Jay25]

The thing I was thinking to was I noticed she has been looking for more loving stuff, like saying I love you when I bring up sex a lot, could she be feeling a lack of love?

 

[AJ84]

The thing I was thinking to was I noticed she has been looking for more loving stuff, like saying I love you when I bring up sex a lot, could she be feeling a lack of love?

Maybe, if she feels like it’s just about sex and not her as a person.
Talk to her. If she is behaving in a way that frustrates you tell her. You said you feel Iike she is manipulating you but now you question if she feels a lack of love.
It’s good to get different feedback here on this site but the main feedback you need to get is from her and she needs your feedback.
Part of having a mature relationship is communication. If neither of you are communicating with each other in a real way than neither of you should be in a relationship.

 

[Jay25]

I feel like she may have a greater need for intimacy when it comes for sex, I’ve noticed on some conversations that she likes to hear lovey dovey things or etc, but I don’t feel this is a good excuse for not having it is it.

 

[MatureDJ]

Same.

On the more innocuous side...maybe she just masturbated and now isn't horny.

I can't think of a more disrespectful act that a woman can do then to masturbate in lieu of sexing her man.

 

[Chi Town]

I can't think of a more disrespectful act that a woman can do then to masturbate in lieu of sexing her man.

Lmaooo, that **** is horrific

 

[Chi Town]

Men do it all the time. You have to be realistic.

Yeah but we will not turn down sex from our girlfriend, imagine your GF not fvcking you and turning down your **** because shes getting her self off lol

 

[Jay25]

Bit of an update, I’ve been basically giving her no emotions and not chasing her at all anymore.

She called me and said I was walking and just realized how much I missed that damn fool (she’s Mexican) so I don’t think it was an insult, then she told me she misses my **** and wants to see me tomorrow, she also said she’d call me later, not sure I should pick up.

I never gave in though all this time in the past few days just ignored sex and even when she brought it up this time, I said hey that’s inappropriate as a joke.

 

[AJ84]

Bit of an update, I’ve been basically giving her no emotions and not chasing her at all anymore.

She called me and said I was walking and just realized how much I missed that damn fool (she’s Mexican) so I don’t think it was an insult, then she told me she misses my **** and wants to see me tomorrow, she also said she’d call me later, not sure I should pick up.

I never gave in though all this time in the past few days just ignored sex and even when she brought it up this time, I said hey that’s inappropriate as a joke.

Ok so don’t overdo it with the distance thing. What you are doing so far seems to be working. Ignoring her call later may tip it into distance overkill category, unless you genuinely don’t want to see her tomorrow, but it seem like you genuinely do.