if she is uncomfrotable, you're done

[Mrpua]

I dont know if it is something I am doing wrong or it's natural, but a lot of times I have noticed women get nervous when I approach them. and if she is uncomfortable, it's over. attraction cannot happen.

I am talking about the first 10 seconds of the interaction.

I know we feel uncomfortable with strangers getting close to us, example: guy asks me do you have the time? I get nervous because I am thinking "is this guy trying to rob me? or is he really just asking for the time"

how do you do it so she doesn't get nervous so the interaction can continue? remember, I am talking about the first 10 seconds.

 

[marmel75]

I dont know if it is something I am doing wrong or it's natural, but a lot of times I have noticed women get nervous when I approach them. and if she is uncomfortable, it's over. attraction cannot happen.

I am talking about the first 10 seconds of the interaction.

I know we feel uncomfortable with strangers getting close to us, example: guy asks me do you have the time? I get nervous because I am thinking "is this guy trying to rob me? or is he really just asking for the time"

how do you do it so she doesn't get nervous so the interaction can continue? remember, I am talking about the first 10 seconds.

You are coming off as a creepy weirdo. Or else she does not think you are hot. Or maybe you dont wear deodorant and you smell bad. Who knows.

 

[MatureDJ]

You are too ugly for her, and therefore any type of sexual behavior, such as dialoguing, from you will be judged by her as creepy.

I know folks here consider themselves too successful to take advice from the Incels, but I think their attitude about this is spot on - that a woman can judge a pair of men with the same pickup activity such that the activity from the non-Chad is creepy, while that from the Chad is appreciated and often time results in Chad getting the digits.

 

[ohrein]

Sounds stupid but approach from the side when you have a reason to be there. At the bar, at the jukebox, whatever. Then you can say hello and gauge a reaction from that instead. Psychologically speaking it's a lot more comfortable.

 

[Tilex]

You're giving off a very needy or stalkerish vibe.
Or there might be something negative in your body language.
Our advice won't be 100% accurate until we get some more info about this.

How do women get nervous when you ask for the time?
How would you know if they are nervous or in a hurry?
You have to give some examples.

Btw, do you live in a busy metropolitan city?

 

[characternote]

Interesting and important topic.
People often assume you must be giving off some super creepy vibe or whatever, but I don't necessarily think that's the case.
I have gotten (and still do get) these reactions a lot.
I've watched a few of my semi-natural friends make approaches recently and a fair amount of time, the girl is clearly uncomfortable and doesn't engage him at all. And his body language and vibe etc didn't seem remotely creepy to me.

I think if it was that your vibe was super creepy, you've have a 100% 'creep out rate', but if it's more like a 65% creep out rate (where occasionally girls are receptive to your open) that tells me that there's likely other facts that are down to HER! E.g - Is she a sociable person who doesn't mind talking to strangers? Is she stuck up and only talks to handsome guys?

Also location. I had like a 5% 'creepout rate' when I gamed in the US. Loved it!
Maybe a 30% creep out rate in London.
And like a 60% creepout rate in my small home town in the UK (outside/South of London)
It's not that I was suddenly less 'creepy' in the US, but that 1/US people are much more receptive and friendly towards strangers and 2/Maybe my accent helped?
So don't necessarily assume you're being a creepy weirdo - I'd say it's always a mix of how handsome you are, how sociable the girl is, and your location/environment

(I only do nightgame by the way)

 

[sosousage]

I dont know if it is something I am doing wrong or it's natural, but a lot of times I have noticed women get nervous when I approach them. and if she is uncomfortable, it's over. attraction cannot happen.

I am talking about the first 10 seconds of the interaction.

I know we feel uncomfortable with strangers getting close to us, example: guy asks me do you have the time? I get nervous because I am thinking "is this guy trying to rob me? or is he really just asking for the time"

how do you do it so she doesn't get nervous so the interaction can continue? remember, I am talking about the first 10 seconds.

if you are male and think people who ask u about time are trying to rob u then u doin it wrong


but yea i get a lot of chicks nervous after i offend them too much. for me its jokes, shes laughing, i continue jokes. but they are actually offended. hard to draw the perfect line between joking and offending

 

[Ranger]

This is just my opinion. But it’s valid for me. Even if you’re not good looking, she’s most likely slept with worse. I can testify to this from my college days. One girl I wanted was with someone that was down right unattractive but he understood women and was banging her.
So dispell the “ugly” part. One day they are this and the next they are that. It’s a girl scam. They don’t have the slightest idea what they want.

Chasing women gives lower returns. My experience. Now when you two just happen to bump into each other? Yeah, that’s a go sign. I was talking to Spaz and he makes me think about my successes in the past. We always evaluate our mess ups and blown situations but rarely do we evaluate our successes.

A woman just accidentally showing up and running into you is never an accident. An accidental meeting is never an accident. She’s getting your attention. I’ve been thinking about all the opportunities that I didn’t know where opportunities. Not until spaz said something to me that opened it up.
Blew a good one just this last Friday afternoon. After my workout I always go to the local Starbucks to write. Well this woman, apparently is a tutor and was tutoring a young girl in math. Naturally I noticed her when I walked it.
When I turned around at the counter with my drink she was looking right into my eyes.
I said hello and sat at a nearby table. When the little girl got up to leave, this woman slowly gather up her things and slowly walked to the exit door.
At the door she stopped and turned so I could see her profile. She was using her periferal vision to see if I noticed her while pretending to look outside turned so that I could also notice her.

The old me would not have seen this at all. Clueless. If fact, when the little girl got up and left, she took her time getting her stuff together. How many openings does a dumb man need? She probably thought I wasn’t interested. I have identified at least two more from this last week that wouldn’t have even considered until Spaz said something that was not even related.

Here’s my point. I think that there are no accidents. We as men are not as socially adaptive as women. Women make their own moves. If she wants you she’s probably already trying to signal you. Expecting her to run up and say “please do dirty things to me” is intellectually dishonest.
I think at one time the thousands of approaches was an evolutionary and vital set of skills to gain the knowledge we now have of game.
Would not just being socially astute and looking at what’s around us save us a lot of work? I would hate to think that the early guys did all that work for nothing. They came full circle. Right back to being socially aware. Are you thinking you need to reinvent the wheel?

That’s my position.