Are Older Women Better?

[jaymbrs]

I've always dated older. Particularly in my late teens and twenties. When I was 19 my gf at the time was 25. That lasted 2 years. Then when I was 21 I dated a 26 year old and that lasted 2 years as well. That one I still look back on as having something legit but I had to move cities. Something about a woman with experience (life, sexual) that attracts me. I've never been the type to enjoy "teaching" my girl things. Now I'm in my early 30s and I've been dating girls in their late 20s. However I have yet to meet one who really does it for me. I've come to the conclusion that I still have the same mindset as when I was younger in that I prefer more experienced women. I have yet to date a women in her mid to late thirties (thats about where I think the line is drawn) and am curious from those who have dated women in this age range what your experience has been with them?

 

[Ranger]

To me it doesn’t matter. If I like her I will sex with her. Nearly all are younger now of course. A couple were 15-20 years younger.
The world is different for me now that I’m fully free at least at this stage of growth, from the blue pill thought patterns. I still catch myself doing small things that are more of past conditioning that I do but they are fading.
When I was 24 I was with a woman who was 39. It was ok. I was fresh from overseas. There was culture shock being back in my own country.
Here are some of the subtle things that I find.
1). They both turn on the same way. No difference. The older woman is not any more secure or less secure than a younger woman. Except that the older woman is competing with the younger women. A woman last night told me that younger baitches didn’t have anything on her. There is some fierce internal psychological warfare going on there. Stay out of it. Don’t remark, agree or disagree. IT’S NOT OUR WAR!! We are there to breed them.
2) a younger woman is more likely to ghost you after you breed her unless you treat her like a total sl”t in the bedroom. She won’t run away if you do that. She will come back because she can’t help herself.
3). An older woman will ask “where is this going?” Sooner.

I’m not as experienced as a lot of these other guys but you have my nickel.

 

[Mazer]

They are all the same. Older women seem even more entitled than younger ones.

 

[Billtx49]

Older women,… as their looks and shape decline with age, their emotional baggage increases. It’s an overall losing deal unless they have gained some significant interpersonal rational thought processes with their increased age.…

 

[17 shots]

I love older women. They know what they want when they see it, and they will give you body language that's super easy to read. They make it obvious when they like you

 

[R.U.G.]

Are they better? I wouldn't say they are better or worse. However, I would say, if you think you will be getting a more mature woman, in terms of emotions and behavior by going older, you will be sadly mistaken. Most will pout just like their younger versions. Just look at all of the women's tv shows on Lifetime, Bravo, E!, MTV, etc. Whether they are 18, 28, 38 or 48+; most end up acting similar in one way or another. I will stress, most, not all. Good luck in finding your unicorn.

 

[Ranger]

Are they better? I wouldn't say they are better or worse. However, I would say, if you think you will be getting a more mature woman, in terms of emotions and behavior by going older, you will be sadly mistaken. Most will pout just like their younger versions. Just look at all of the women's tv shows on Lifetime, Bravo, E!, MTV, etc. Whether they are 18, 28, 38 or 48+; most end up acting similar in one way or another. I will stress, most, not all. Good luck in finding your unicorn.[/Q

True story. No difference.

 

[MatureDJ]

As a general rule, older women do not have the personality dystemperament that young women have. However, that meme had been formulated back in the time when women respected and actively seeked out men for husbands, and thus older women had to have good attitudes because the sexual marketplace would not allow an older women to be competitive without remedying this dystemperament; unfortunately, hypergamy has upended the sexual marketplace such that even older women can have such dystemperament and be competitive, although still at lower relative value than younger women.

The great polymath philosopher Ben Franklin once commented about older women:

The Face first grows lank and wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower Parts continuing to the last as plump as ever: So that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old from a young one. And as in the dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal, and frequently superior, every Knack being by Practice capable of Improvement.

 

[marmel75]

They are all the same. Older women seem even more entitled than younger ones.

I found that older women have far less BS to deal with and make it very easy to bang them. Even the hotter ones.

 

[nismo-4]

I love older women. They know what they want when they see it, and they will give you body language that's super easy to read. They make it obvious when they like you

Younger women do too. Become super successful and see what happens. Get drafted to the NBA and see how much women you get hitting on you, young or old.

 

[jaymbrs]

The reasons I liked dating women older than me is because they had their **** together. They were independent and for the most part successful.

 

[Alvafe]

I did go after older woman when I was young and the older I get the younger the girls I liked become, pretty much they age was always around 20-25.

but in the end is always the same, woman don't grown up after they 15 years, they keep the same mentality, some will just put a more mature face, but all are like little kids, who will always push to see your limits.

and saying older woman have they sh!t together is wishfull thinking, I don't know ONE who have money saved for eventual problems who can happen, all spend everything be it on food, travels, or shoes/clothes

 

[Tilex]

An older woman with no kids is actually a safer bet and better SMV than a younger woman with kids.
I believe children make women age faster due constant stress and always worrying too much about trivial things.

 

[Romanemp22]

I think they tend to be much easier to get into bed than younger ones. Cougars are c0ck hungry always.

 

[RangerMIke]

Because of my age (52), a vast majority of women I date are in their late 30s to mid 40s.

Advantage: They are not as emotionally driven. They know what they want and have no problem going for what they want. Younger women are pains in the @ss emotional butterflies. They tend to be more reliable, but if she is still 'hot'... she continues to act like a 20-something flake monster. They work harder to keep you if they like you. They are also more interesting with more life experience and tend to be really good in bed.

Disadvantage: If they are single they tend to have a lot of emotional baggage. Almost all of them have kids from a previous relationships and if you want to get one in an exclusive relationship, and her kids are a problem, then that becomes your problem. Because of kids... it's really hard to make plans. They almost all want some long term relationship, and as soon as she learns you are with her 'plan', you are gone. The ones that have control of their emotional baggage tend to gravitate towards weird @ss new age nonsense, self help guru silliness or religion. Otherwise, YOU become her emotional tampon and have to be willing to twist yourself into a knot.

Anyway... bottom line, older women are better to date, more fun all round, tend to be more appreciative for things you can give and do for her. But be careful getting into relationships with them... keep your eyes and ears open for any indication of her efforts to exert control of you and twist you to meet her needs. If you can find one that is happy with you just being you then you can make that work.

 

[KindredSpiritzz]

I don't know if they are better but they are more grateful

 

[Barrister]

Because of my age (52), a vast majority of women I date are in their late 30s to mid 40s.

Advantage: They are not as emotionally driven. They know what they want and have no problem going for what they want. Younger women are pains in the @ss emotional butterflies. They tend to be more reliable, but if she is still 'hot'... she continues to act like a 20-something flake monster. They work harder to keep you if they like you. They are also more interesting with more life experience and tend to be really good in bed.

Disadvantage: If they are single they tend to have a lot of emotional baggage. Almost all of them have kids from a previous relationships and if you want to get one in an exclusive relationship, and her kids are a problem, then that becomes your problem. Because of kids... it's really hard to make plans. They almost all want some long term relationship, and as soon as she learns you are with her 'plan', you are gone. The ones that have control of their emotional baggage tend to gravitate towards weird @ss new age nonsense, self help guru silliness or religion. Otherwise, YOU become her emotional tampon and have to be willing to twist yourself into a knot.

Anyway... bottom line, older women are better to date, more fun all round, tend to be more appreciative for things you can give and do for her. But be careful getting into relationships with them... keep your eyes and ears open for any indication of her efforts to exert control of you and twist you to meet her needs. If you can find one that is happy with you just being you then you can make that work.

Good post. My experience is older women are usually better/more adventurous in bed. Otherwise, however, they are almost never "better" in any sense and generally are worse in the emotional baggage department.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

keep your eyes and ears open for any indication of her efforts to exert control of you and twist you to meet her needs. If you can find one that is happy with you just being you then you can make that work.

So funny you mention this as I've been in that exact arm-wrestling match with a 35yo I've been dating a while now. Oldest woman I've had an LTR with in my life. There is that CONSTANT drive from her to exert control over everything from how often I see my friends to my behavior on social media etc, all in an attempt to twist me into her agenda. I am, of course, standing my ground firmly which pisses her off to no end but I have CLEARLY demonstrated that I'm the one willing to walk away if she doesn't accept my position and chooses to start drama over it (and I have done so multiple times - she always comes back after and apologizes). It feels like surfing a big wave - I'm right on the edge of disconnecting completely all the time because she just doesn't seem to be able to grasp that she will NOT budge me when it comes to my boundaries and there is only so much BS I'm willing to deal with after I communicate my boundaries to her and she continues to push back. But I do think over time I've made progress in molding her to where she is finally realizing what she has to let go of in order to be with me. Time will tell. The other funny thing to mention about this situation is that, despite the fact that my standing my ground pisses her off to no end, I also know it is likely one of the chief reasons she is still enthralled with me. If I caved to her demands, she'd probably be out the door real fast. Funny how that works..... we are brainwashed to serve women but it's just not what they want, even if they don't realize that fact.

As far as my own opinion about women and age - I've found that women, on average, can grow a lot from 20-28, but after 28 I haven't found that much changes for most women. I still see many early 30's women playing the same games as early 20's women. Most are stuck in infinite loops where they repeat the same actions that cause them grief/trouble/misunderstanding and they can't get out of them. How they process these experiences is responsible for how much baggage they end up having. Do they see the glass half full and think most people are genuinely good unless proven otherwise? Or do they see the glass as half empty and see most people as bad and out to get them? A classic example of this often discussed on SS is the women who get on OLD, and, let's say she's a 5 or a 6, she is able to get 9's to hook up with her, so she suddenly thinks she is a 9 and entitled to an LTR with them, but obviously these 9's are going to commit to her so they pump and dump her and instead of seeing this for what it is (her over-reaching and also not understanding the difference between casual sex and LTRs), she becomes a man-hater with trust issues and lots of baggage. Because of this, I pay literally zero attention to age when I select women. I use physical appearance to decide who to approach or pursue, and then used their attitude to determine whether or not to move forward, and if so, what I move forward with. The number of hot women over 40 is like 1:500 so I just don't end up selecting them. The 35yo I'm seeing now is a rare exception because she is so damn hot. But I date a lot of women in their early 20's and honestly I just don't see a whole lot of difference from 23-35 with one exception: I have found some early 20's women who still believe in the princess story. I don't see that in women past early 20's.

 

[Romanemp22]

So funny you mention this as I've been in that exact arm-wrestling match with a 35yo I've been dating a while now. Oldest woman I've had an LTR with in my life. There is that CONSTANT drive from her to exert control over everything from how often I see my friends to my behavior on social media etc, all in an attempt to twist me into her agenda. I am, of course, standing my ground firmly which pisses her off to no end but I have CLEARLY demonstrated that I'm the one willing to walk away if she doesn't accept my position and chooses to start drama over it (and I have done so multiple times - she always comes back after and apologizes). It feels like surfing a big wave - I'm right on the edge of disconnecting completely all the time because she just doesn't seem to be able to grasp that she will NOT budge me when it comes to my boundaries and there is only so much BS I'm willing to deal with after I communicate my boundaries to her and she continues to push back. But I do think over time I've made progress in molding her to where she is finally realizing what she has to let go of in order to be with me. Time will tell. The other funny thing to mention about this situation is that, despite the fact that my standing my ground pisses her off to no end, I also know it is likely one of the chief reasons she is still enthralled with me. If I caved to her demands, she'd probably be out the door real fast. Funny how that works..... we are brainwashed to serve women but it's just not what they want, even if they don't realize that fact.

As far as my own opinion about women and age - I've found that women, on average, can grow a lot from 20-28, but after 28 I haven't found that much changes for most women. I still see many early 30's women playing the same games as early 20's women. Most are stuck in infinite loops where they repeat the same actions that cause them grief/trouble/misunderstanding and they can't get out of them. How they process these experiences is responsible for how much baggage they end up having. Do they see the glass half full and think most people are genuinely good unless proven otherwise? Or do they see the glass as half empty and see most people as bad and out to get them? A classic example of this often discussed on SS is the women who get on OLD, and, let's say she's a 5 or a 6, she is able to get 9's to hook up with her, so she suddenly thinks she is a 9 and entitled to an LTR with them, but obviously these 9's are going to commit to her so they pump and dump her and instead of seeing this for what it is (her over-reaching and also not understanding the difference between casual sex and LTRs), she becomes a man-hater with trust issues and lots of baggage. Because of this, I pay literally zero attention to age when I select women. I use physical appearance to decide who to approach or pursue, and then used their attitude to determine whether or not to move forward, and if so, what I move forward with. The number of hot women over 40 is like 1:500 so I just don't end up selecting them. The 35yo I'm seeing now is a rare exception because she is so damn hot. But I date a lot of women in their early 20's and honestly I just don't see a whole lot of difference from 23-35 with one exception: I have found some early 20's women who still believe in the princess story. I don't see that in women past early 20's.

Opinion on 50yo woman? I have a meeting with one tonight.

 

[jaymbrs]

So funny you mention this as I've been in that exact arm-wrestling match with a 35yo I've been dating a while now. Oldest woman I've had an LTR with in my life. There is that CONSTANT drive from her to exert control over everything from how often I see my friends to my behavior on social media etc, all in an attempt to twist me into her agenda. I am, of course, standing my ground firmly which pisses her off to no end but I have CLEARLY demonstrated that I'm the one willing to walk away if she doesn't accept my position and chooses to start drama over it (and I have done so multiple times - she always comes back after and apologizes). It feels like surfing a big wave - I'm right on the edge of disconnecting completely all the time because she just doesn't seem to be able to grasp that she will NOT budge me when it comes to my boundaries and there is only so much BS I'm willing to deal with after I communicate my boundaries to her and she continues to push back. But I do think over time I've made progress in molding her to where she is finally realizing what she has to let go of in order to be with me. Time will tell. The other funny thing to mention about this situation is that, despite the fact that my standing my ground pisses her off to no end, I also know it is likely one of the chief reasons she is still enthralled with me. If I caved to her demands, she'd probably be out the door real fast. Funny how that works..... we are brainwashed to serve women but it's just not what they want, even if they don't realize that fact.

As far as my own opinion about women and age - I've found that women, on average, can grow a lot from 20-28, but after 28 I haven't found that much changes for most women. I still see many early 30's women playing the same games as early 20's women. Most are stuck in infinite loops where they repeat the same actions that cause them grief/trouble/misunderstanding and they can't get out of them. How they process these experiences is responsible for how much baggage they end up having. Do they see the glass half full and think most people are genuinely good unless proven otherwise? Or do they see the glass as half empty and see most people as bad and out to get them? A classic example of this often discussed on SS is the women who get on OLD, and, let's say she's a 5 or a 6, she is able to get 9's to hook up with her, so she suddenly thinks she is a 9 and entitled to an LTR with them, but obviously these 9's are going to commit to her so they pump and dump her and instead of seeing this for what it is (her over-reaching and also not understanding the difference between casual sex and LTRs), she becomes a man-hater with trust issues and lots of baggage. Because of this, I pay literally zero attention to age when I select women. I use physical appearance to decide who to approach or pursue, and then used their attitude to determine whether or not to move forward, and if so, what I move forward with. The number of hot women over 40 is like 1:500 so I just don't end up selecting them. The 35yo I'm seeing now is a rare exception because she is so damn hot. But I date a lot of women in their early 20's and honestly I just don't see a whole lot of difference from 23-35 with one exception: I have found some early 20's women who still believe in the princess story. I don't see that in women past early 20's.

Just to point out, this post was from over 2 years ago. I actually did end up dating a 38 year old and she was exactly like you said here. She was very affectionate and submissive, however she wanted me to fit the mold of family man for her and her little **** of a daughter. She behaved very irrational almost child-like when I wouldn't budge to fit her agenda. I broke it off and she could not get over it. She would send me numerous texts and emails daily, acting like nothing happened. What a nut. I'm single now and just re-focusing on me.